Ubunxila bungumoya owonakalisayo olawula ubomi babantu abaninzi. Abantu abaninzi, kuquka namaKristu, babe likhoboka lotywala kwaye baphile ebukhobokeni bamandla otywala. Nangona kunjalo, akukho mntu ufuna ukubizwa ngokuba linxila. Ngoko ke abantu bayaphika ukuba banengxaki yokusela, xa abanye bejamelene nabo ngokusela kwabo ngokugqithiseleyo. Unengxaki yokusela nini? Ziziphi iimpawu zokusela utywala? Ukuba awukwazi ukuphila usuku ngaphandle kotywala usisinxila. Ulawulwa ngumoya wotywala obangela ukuba likhoboka lotywala. AmaKristu afanele avuke aze afunde oko kuthethwa yiBhayibhile ngotywala nobunxila. Kufuneka bavule amehlo abo omoya kwaye babone ukuba luhlobo luni lomlinganiswa otshabalalisayo utywala. Utywala abuyiyomhlobo kodwa lutshaba! Utywala ayongezi nto ebomini, kodwa uyonakalisa ingqondo yabantu, umzimba, kunye nobomi. Ungakhululwa njani kumandla otywala (ukukhotyokiswa butywala)?
Ngaba amaKristu afanele asele utywala?
Umbuzo osoloko ubuzwa ngowokuba amaKristu avunyelwe ukusela utywala okanye akunjalo. Ithini iBhayibhile ngokusela utywala? Xa uxubusha lo mbandela namaKristu, phantse ngalo lonke ixesha, kwa ezi zibhalo ezithathu ziyavela. Okoyi, ukuba uYesu wayetyholwa ngabaFarisi nabaSadusi ngokuba sisiselo sewayini (ULuka 7:34), umtshato owawuseKana (UYohane 2:1-11), kunye noTimoti, owafundiswa nguPawulos, ukuba asele intwana yewayini ngenxa yesisu sakhe nobulwelwe bakhe (1 uTimoti 5:25).
AmaKristu asebenzisa ezi zibhalo ukuvuma ukuselwa kwewayini neziselo ezinxilisayo. Kodwa azithethi ezinye izibhalo ezininzi eziseBhayibhileni malunga nokusela iwayini neziselo ezinxilisayo kunye nemiphumo yazo, njenge:
Ingumgxeki iwayini, isiselo esinxilisayo siyavutha: kwaye nabani na olahlekiswa zizo akalumkanga (IMizekeliso 20:1)
Zilumkeleni;, hleze zisindwe iintliziyo zenu kukuzidla, nokunxila, namaxhala obu bomi, ize loo mini inifikele ngebhaqo. (ULuka 21:34)
Masihambe ngokunyaniseka, njengasemini; kungekhona kwiziphithiphithi nasekunxileni, kungabi ngoburheletya, kungabi ngeengxabano nomona (AmaRoma 13:13)
Kodwa ngoku ndibhalele ukuba ungayigcini inkampani, Ukuba kukho nayiphi na indoda ebizwa ngokuba ngumzalwana ukuba ngumbumbi, okanye inkanuko, okanye i-idollater, okanye umjikelo, okanye inxila, okanye umthetheli; Ngento enye hayi ukungatyi (1 KwabaseKorinte 5:11)
Namasela, okanye i-covetous, okanye amanxila, okanye abaphuluki, okanye abakhupheli, Uya kubudla ilifa uBukumkani bukaThixo (1 KwabaseKorinte 6:10)
Ngoku imisebenzi yenyama ibonakalisiwe, zeziphi ezi; Ukukrexeza, uhenyuzo, ukungahlambuluki, I-Lascivied, Unqulo-zithixo, ubugqwirha, intiyo, umahluko, ukufuya, ingqumbo, Imbambano, ukumiselwa, i-heredies, umona, ukubulala, ukunxila, impindezelo, kwaye kanjalo: yeyo, Njengoko bendikuxelele ngexesha elidlulileyo, Ukuze benze izinto ezinjalo abayi kulifumana ilifa uBukumkani bukaThixo (kwabaseGalati 5:19-21)
Kwaye musani ukunxila yiwayini, Ingaphezulu; kodwa nizaliswe nguMoya (Kwabase-Efese 5:18)
Ubhishophu ngoko umelwe kukuba ngongenakusoleka, indoda yamfazi mnye, ephaphile, phawula, yokuziphatha kakuhle, phathani iindwendwe, ukulungele ukufundisa; Ayinikwa iwayini, Akukho mntu wokubetha, hayi ukunyolukela inzuzo embi; kodwa unomonde, hayi ingxabano, hayi ukubawa; Uyongamele kakuhle eyakhe indlu, abantwana bakhe bemthobele, benokundileka konke; (Kuba umntu akakwazi ukuyongamela eyakhe indlu, angathini na ukuliphatha ibandla likaThixo??) (1 uTimoti 3:2-5)
Kwangokunjalo abalungiseleli bamelwe kukuba nokundileka, hayi iilwimi ezimbini, unganxiliswanga yiwayini eninzi, hayi ukunyolukela inzuzo embi (1 uTimoti 3:8)
Kuba umveleli umelwe kukuba ngongenakumangaleleka, Njengomphathi kaThixo; hayi ngokuthanda kwakhe, ayingomsindo kungekudala, Ayinikwanga yi wayini, Akukho mntu wokubetha, enganikelwanga kwingeniso engcolileyo; Kodwa umthandi wokubuk’ iindwendwe, Umthandi wamadoda amahle, phawula, nje, ngcwele, ngcathu; ebambelele ezwini elithembekileyo njengoko wafundiswayo, ukuze abe nako ukuvuselela ngayo imfundiso ephilileyo, nokubohlwaya badane abaphikayo (uTito 1:7-9)
Hayi, ezi zibhalo azikhankanywa. Kungenxa yokuba uninzi lwamaKristu, kubandakanya iinkokeli zecawa, abafuni ukuthobela ezi Zibhalo. Abafuni kuxelelwa ukuba mabenze ntoni, kodwa bafuna ukuhlala ‘kwinkululeko’.
Bayithathela ingqalelo imithetho kunye nemimiselo esemthethweni kwaye umthetho awuyonto ilungileyo kodwa ibangela inkolo. Kwaye inkolo injalo, ngokwabo, into embi. Kunoko, benza eyabo imithetho yakhe, ukuze baphile njengehlabathi ‘enkululekweni’ baze basele nantoni na abayifunayo, ngaphandle kwezithintelo (Funda kwakhona: ‘Inkolo okanye ubudlelwane?‘)
Isizathu sokuba amaKristu amaninzi abe ngabawexuki kunye nehlabathi, kungenxa yokuba abantu abaninzi, abazibiza ngokuba bangamaKristu, akunjalo uzelwe ngokutsha kwaye abezemvelo. Ngenxa yokuba zezenyama yaye azikho ngokomoya, abanako ukubacalula oomoya, kananjalo abaluboni uhlobo lwamandla angendawo asebenzayo. Ngoko ke, abacingi ngokusela utywala baze babe neengqondo okanye banxile, ingxaki
Kufuneka endaweni yewayini kufakwe isiselo somdiliya kwisidlo?
Bavuma ukusela utywala kubomi babo bemihla ngemihla, kodwa ngexesha lomthendeleko iwayini ayivumelekanga kwakhona. Iicawa ezininzi ziye zakwenza oko endaweni yewayini kwafakwa incindi yomdiliya umthendeleko.
Esinye sezizathu, ukuba abafuni ukuba sisikhubekiso kwabo babesele bengamanxila kwaye basebenzise esi Sibhalo silandelayo:
Kulungile ukuba ungatyi nyama, nokusela iwayini, nento yonke emkhubekisayo umzalwana wakho, okanye ukhubekile, okanye wenziwa buthathaka (AmaRoma 14:21)
Kodwa esi Sibhalo sikhutshwe emxholweni kwaye asinanto yakwenza nayo uMthendeleko ongcwele.
UMthendeleko liziko elingcwele elamiselwa yiNkosi uYesu Kristu.
Ukuba abantu baya kutshintsha iziko elingcwele likaThixo, ke abantu bazibeke ngaphezu koThixo, kanye njengosathana.
UYesu akazange ayalele ukuba kufakwe iwayini endaweni yencindi yomdiliya. Kungenxa yokuba iwayini enegwele ifuzisela ukufa nokuvuka kukaYesu Krestu.
Yiyo loo nto uYesu wasela iwayini ngePasika nangexesha lokumiselwa koMthendeleko (Funda kwakhona: ‘Kutheni iwayini ithathelwe indawo yijusi yomdiliya?‘).
Kutheni usela utywala?
Usenokuzibuza, “Kutheni ndisela utywala?” Kukho izizathu ezininzi, kutheni abantu basela utywala. Ezinye zezizathu zezi, ukuba bayayithanda incasa yotywala, bafuna ukuba nexesha elimnandi, baziva bekhululekile kwaye/okanye bazive benobudlelwane ngakumbi xa besela utywala, ukukhulula okanye ukuphelisa uxinzelelo, ukuze ‘bandikise’ iingcinga zabo baze ‘bacime’ iingqondo zabo, ukumelana noxinzelelo, iingxaki, amaxhala, ixhala, uloyiko, ukuphoxeka(s), ilahleko, kunye noxinzelelo loluntu, sebenza, umtshato, usapho, kuba bengonwabanga njalo njalo. Zininzi izizathu zokuba abantu basele utywala.
Abantu abaninzi abanengxaki yokusebenzisa utywala abonwabanga. Abanelisekanga ngabo okanye ubomi babo. Kuba ukuba bebevuya bebengayi kufuna isivuseleli (iyeza) ukumelana nezinto kunye nokujongana noxinzelelo okanye ukuziva ngcono.
Abantu abaninzi abonwabanga, i-melancholic, edandathekile, uxinzelelo, kunye nexhala. Baphila phantsi koxinzelelo oluphezulu oluvela kuluntu, sebenza, umtshato, kunye nobomi bosapho, kwaye bonganyelwe ziingxaki, amaxhala, Intlungu, njl, Kubo ukusela utywala kukubaleka ubunyani.
Iingcinga zabo neengqondo zabo zibandisholo kwaye baziva bekhululekile kwaye akuyomfuneko ukuba bacinge ngeengxaki zabo, amaxhala, kunye neemfuno zobomi babo bemihla ngemihla.
Xa umntu esela utywala, (s)usenokuba neemvakalelo ezimyoli ekuqaleni, kodwa ezi mvakalelo zimnandi ziya kutshintsha ngokukhawuleza zibe ziimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo.
Xa umntu esela utywala obuninzi, kokukhona umoya wokukhotyokiswa butywala uya kubonakala uze umemele ‘izihlobo’ zakhe kubomi baloo mntu.
Omnye wabahlobo bakhe abasenyongweni ngumoya wenkanuko yesini kunye nobugwenxa. Ngokukhawuleza xa utywala buqala ukusebenza, umntu uya kuba neengcinga ezingcolileyo zesini kunye neminqweno yesini kunye nomnqweno wokwanelisa ezi mvakalelo zesini. Ngaphandle kwalo moya ugwenxa, eminye imimoya iya kubonakala, njengomoya wentelekelelo, umoya wobuxoki, umoya wokuzingca, umoya wokuzingca, umoya wokulibala, umoya we-melancholy, umoya wokudakumba, umoya we Imfesane, umoya woloyiko, umoya wokungakhathali, umoya womsindo, umoya wobundlongondlongo, umoya wokubulala (ukuzibulala) kwaye nangokunjalo.
Umntu akakwazi ukulawula ubomi bakhe kwaye uya kulawulwa yimimoya engcolileyo ephuma ebukumkanini bobumnyama kwaye athethe okanye enze izinto., athi umntu azisole kamva okanye ayilibale.
Ukuba umntu unxilile okanye unxilile, umntu ulawulwa ngumoya wobutywala obulawula ubomi bomntu. Lo moya uya kuhlala uzibonakalisa, ngokubangela umnqweno oqhubekayo (Kaninzi) utywala kwaye ungaze waneliswe.
Umntu uya kuba likhoboka lalo moya ungendawo aze amthobele, ngokusela utywala.
Ukusela utywala kusitshintsha njani isimilo sabantu?
Lo moya ungcolileyo wobudemon wobunxila unesimilo esonakalisayo kwaye uqinisekisa ukuba emva kwexeshana ubuntu bomntu buguquka..
abantu baphulukana nobuntununtunu kwaye abafumani iimvakalelo ‘eziqhelekileyo’. Bacaphuka msinya, ndicaphukile, uxinzelelo, nomsindo okhawulezayo, nomsindo, ndlongondlongo, xhaphaza, ukuzicingela, nokuzingca. Baneminqweno yesini engeyoyamvelo kwaye bazivulela ukungcola kwesini nobugqwetheko (kubandakanya amanyala).
Baya kuphulukana nenyaniso baze balawulwe yimimoya yobuxoki. Le mimoya iqinisekisa ukuba ayitoliki kakuhle izinto, ubuxoki, tshintsha inyaniso, okanye ubone, uve izinto ezingeyonyaniso, ayiyonyani, kwaye akazange athi. Badala amava abo kunye nehlabathi lentelekelelo kwaye abavumeli nabani na ukuba abaxelele ukuba benze ntoni.
Izinxila ziyazifihla. Basela ngokufihlakeleyo yaye benza izinto emfihlakalweni yaye basoloko bephika ukuba banengxaki yokusela.
Banekratshi yaye bayagxeka, thoba, yaye benzakalisa abanye ngamazwi ahlabayo nakhubekisayo, izimvo, kunye nezimvo.
Kwaye masingalibali umsebenzi owonakalisayo utywala onawo engqondweni, amalungu, kunye nomzimba wonke womntu.
Iyintoni indlela yehlabathi yokukhululwa kubukhoboka botywala?
Indlela yehlabathi yokukhulula amandla okukhotyokiswa butywala kukuya kwikliniki yokubuyisela abantu kwimeko yesiqhelo (iziko lokubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo) okanye iintlanganiso ze-AA. Umntu kufuneka enze umsebenzi kwaye uya kungena kwinkqubo yokubuyisela utywala kwaye afumane unyango oluza kuhanjiswa kumandla otywala.
Iingcali zonyango kunye Iingcali zengqondo uya kugrumba ubomi kunye nexesha elidlulileyo lomntu, ukufumanisa unobangela wokukhotyokiswa butywala (Funda kwakhona: ‘Musa ukuwela emngxunyeni wexesha lakho elidlulileyo‘).
Emva kweeveki okanye iinyanga ezimbalwa, xa umntu egqibile unyango lokukhotyokiswa butywala kwaye ubonisile kwaye wangqina, loo nto (s)ukhululwe kumandla otywala kwaye unokuphila ngaphandle kotywala kwaye ‘uyaphiliswa’, umntu lowo uya kukhululwa abuyele kubomi bakhe bemihla ngemihla.
Kodwa kwiimeko ezininzi, kwenzeka ukuba ngokukhawuleza xa umntu ebuyela kwindawo yakhe eqhelekileyo kunye nobomi obudala, umntu ubuyela kwimikhwa yakhe yakudala yokusela. Umntu uya kulangazelela iziselo ezinxilisayo kwaye uya kuphinda aqale ukusela kwakhona.
Yinto eqhelekileyo, abantu, abakhululwe kwi-rehab, baya kubuyela kwisimilo sabo sakudala sokusela kwaye babe ngamakhoboka otywala kwakhona kwaye babuyele kwirehab kwakhona. Xa bekhululwa okwesibini babuyele ekhaya, amaxesha amaninzi baya kuphinda babuyele kwisimo sabo esidala sokusela kwaye babuyele kwirehab kwakhona. Le yinkqubo eqhubekayo, kwaye aba bantu babonakala bengakwazi ukuhlukana nokukhotyokiswa butywala. Kutheni kunjalo kwaye oku kunokwenzeka njani?
Kungenxa yokuba unobangela wokukhotyokiswa butywala ufunwa kwindawo yendalo endaweni yendawo yokomoya. Umlutha wotywala uphathwa ngeendlela zendalo, into engenakwenzeka. Ngenxa yoko, Oyena nobangela wokukhotyokiswa butywala awulungiswa kwaye umntu uya kuhlala ebotshelelwe kumoya wobukhoboka botywala.
Yintoni ebangela ukuba likhoboka lotywala?
Utywala abunakunyangwa ngeendlela zendalo, ngeendlela zenyama, unyango, unyango, okanye iziyobisi, kuba ukusela utywala akusiyo impembelelo yendalo yendalo, kodwa utywala buyinto ebonakalayo (indalo) isiphumo senjongo yokomoya. Unobangela wokomoya awunakunyangwa ngeendlela zendalo.
Xa umntu efuna unyango okanye unyango ehlabathini, loo mntu mhlawumbi uya ‘kukhululwa’ okwexeshana, kodwa umntu uya kuhlala ezama ukuzikhwebula kwiziselo ezinxilisayo kuba ukulangazelela utywala kusekho. Emveni kwakho konke, amandla omoya otywala awaphuki. Ngoko ke, umntu uya kuphumelela, xa kukho ibhotile yotywala phambi kwakhe okanye xa abanye besela utywala.
Logama nje umntu engekakhululwa emandleni otywala, umntu uya kuhlala enxilile kwaye uya kuhlala esokola ukuhlala enxilile. Ulangazelelo lotywala luya kuhlala lukhona kuba lo moya wotywala usekhona.
Xa umntu esela iwayini ngexesha lomthendeleko, umntu uya kulangazelela ngakumbi kwaye uya kuzama ukuzilawula emva kwenkonzo, ukuba ungabambi ibhotile kunye nokusela.
Iyintoni indlela kaThixo yokukhululwa kubunxila?
Ukukhotyokiswa butywala kubangelwa ngumoya ongcolileyo wedemon wobukumkani bobumnyama. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu ufuna ukuhanjiswa, kufuneka ususe unobangela kwaye uyalele lo moya wotywala ukuba umshiye umntu kwaye wophule amandla otywala.
Wonke umoya (amandla) ebukumkanini bobumnyama kufuneka athobele kwaye aqubude ngenxa yeGama likaYesu. Kuba uYesu unayo igunya eliphakamileyo emazulwini nasemhlabeni.
Ngoko ke, xa umntu, olawulwa kwaye ubotshelelwe ngulo moya wobudemon wobunxila, uza ecaweni okanye kuwe afune uncedo, uze ungamthumeli loo mntu ukuba aye kwi-rehab, a ugqirha okanye a isazi ngengqondo, kuba abanakumnceda umntu. Kunoko, khulula loo mntu eGameni likaYesu, ngokuyalela umoya wotywala ukuba umshiye umntu.
Xa umoya ongendawo wotywala sele umkile emntwini, umntu ukhululwe ngokwenene kumandla otywala. Ukuba umntu ukhululwe ngokwenene kumandla otywala, wothi ke umntu abe nako ukusela ngexesha lomthendeleko, ngaphandle kokulangazelela utywala obuninzi.
Umntu akasayi kuphinda asokole, kuba (s)ukhululwe kumandla otywala. Lo moya wotywala, owabangela obu bukhoboka botywala nokulawula ubomi bomntu akasekho kodwa umshiyile umntu.
Nangona kunjalo, umntu kufuneka ahlale ephaphile kwaye alinde amasango obomi bakhe. Ngenxa yokuba lo moya wotywala uya kuzama ukubuya kwakhona kwaye uya kufuna umzuzwana wobuthathaka ukungena. Kodwa xa umntu enganikezeli kule mvakalelo yenyama yenkanuko kwaye akaqalisi ukusela kwakhona, lo moya wobutywala uzogcinwa ngaphandle umshiye umntu.
UYesu walumkisa ngomoya ongcolileyo
UYesu wasilumkisa ngale nto waza wathi: Xa umoya ongcolileyo uthe waphuma emntwini, Ucanda ezindaweni ezingenamanzi, befuna ukuphumla, akafumani nto. Emva koko uthi, ndiya kubuyela endlwini yam endaphuma kuyo; xa athe weza, ulifumana lilambatha, itshayelwe, kwaye ihonjisiwe. Aze ahambe, uthabathe uze nabanye oomoya abasixhenxe abakhohlakeleyo kunaye, bangena ke, bahlala khona: lize ikamva laloo mntu libe libi kunesiqaleko sakhe (UMateyu 12:43-45)
UYesu akazange athi ‘ukuba’ kodwa uthe 'nini', ngoko ke umoya ongcolileyo uya kuhlala uzama ukubuya. Yiyo loo nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba wazi ukuba zeziphi izinto ozivumelayo ebomini bakho kwaye wondle ingqondo yakho kunye nendlela olichitha ngayo ixesha lakho..
UMoya oyiNgcwele kunye neLizwi kufuneka bazalise ingqondo yakho kunye nobomi bakho, ukuze indlu yakho ingabi nalutho kodwa izaliswe liLizwi noMoya wakhe.
Indlela yokukhululwa kumandla otywala kunye notywala?
Ngaba ufikile kulwazi, ukuba unengxaki yotywala? Ngaba unayo umlutha wotywala oyimfihlo ebomini bakho? Ngaba ubotshelelwe ngamandla otywala kwaye udikwe ngabo kwaye uyafuna ukukhululwa emandleni otywala?? Ingaba udinga uncedo?
Inye kuphela into ekufuneka uyenzile kukuya kuYesu Kristu ucele uxolo, guqukani kwaye uyalele lo moya wotywala, lo moya wobukhoboka, Ukushiya Ubomi Bakho. So that amandla otywala aqhawuke ebomini bakho ukhululwe kumandla otywala ukhululeke kuYesu Krestu..
EGameni likaYesu Kristu; Kwigunya lakhe, lo moya wotywala, lo moya wobukhoboka, kufuneka uthobele kwaye ushiye ubomi bakho. Oku kuyasebenza nakwezinye izikhobokisa ezifana nokukhotyokiswa yinikotini, ukuba likhoboka leziyobisi, umlutha wesondo, njl.
Xa ukhululwe kumandla otywala kunye nalo moya wotywala ubushiyile ubomi bakho, ke ubomi bakho kufuneka buhambelane ne inguquko ukuba uvume.
Niya kuzifuna izinto, Ngaphezulu, phi UYesu Kristu uhleli phantsi, hayi izinto ezisemhlabeni. Lumnka, uhlala nabani kwaye ulichitha njani ixesha lakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuchitha ixesha emthandazweni, thandazani nikuwo umoya, nokufundisisa iBhayibhile; ILizwi likaThixo, ukuze nakhelwe elukholweni lwenu olungcwele kanye, nibe nako ukucalula ubuxoki behlabathi enyanisweni kaThixo..
I uthando ngoYesu noThixo kwaye ukuhamba emva koMoya kuya kuqinisekisa, ukuba ningathobeli nikuzalise iinkanuko neminqweno yenyama, kule meko, inkanuko nomnqweno wotywala, kodwa ukuba uthobele uThixo kwaye umthwale isiqhamo soMoya.
‘Yibani yityuwa yehlabathi’
