Baninzi abantwana, abangonwabanga kwaye abangazazi ngokwenene ukuba bangoobani, kwaye uzive ulahlekile kuluntu. Abantwana abaninzi bavakalelwa njengomntwana olahlekileyo kwaye badandathekile kwaye abafuni ukuphila kwakhona. Nangona uThixo emisele indoda nomfazi; indoda nomfazi njengabazali yaye ubanike abantwana kubo ukuba babanyamekele, khusela, uqeqesho, ichanekile, kwaye ubakhulisele eNkosini naseLizwini laYo, kuphela abambalwa abamthobelayo baze benze oko uThixo abayalele ukuba bakwenze. Lo msebenzi ubalulekileyo awunikileyo uThixo uthi chu kancinci ubuyele ngasemva kwaye abazali banika usathana kanye le nto ayifunayo, oko kukuthi, ukuhlutha umntwana ebukumkanini bakhe, atshabalalise umntwana. Umtyholi unokulenza icebo lakhe elibi kuba abazali abaninzi baxakeke kakhulu. Bagxile kwiziqu zabo, amaphupha abo, iminqweno, kunye nobomi, kwaye bafumane umsebenzi wabo, ukusebenza, nemali ebaluleke ngakumbi kunokukhulisa umntwana wabo(ren). Bathatha isigqibo ngendlela abafuna ukuphila ngayo ubomi babo kwaye balindele umntwana wabo(ren) ukuziqhelanisa neemfuno zabo. Ngenxa yokuziphatha, abantwana abaninzi bashiyelwa kwikamva labo kwaye baphathiswe abanye ukuba babakhulise kwaye babakhulise. Kodwa abanakuze bathabathe indawo yokukhulisa abazali. Abazali abaninzi ababoni bungozi ekuziseni umntwana wabo kwindawo yokugcina abantwana okanye kwezinye iindawo zokunyamekela abantwana kwaye bacinga ukuba bayamnceda umntwana.. Kuba ihlabathi litsho, ukuba ilungile kuphuhliso lomntwana kunye nezakhono zabo zentlalo.
Ukungabikho kwengqalelo emntwaneni
Kukho abazali abaninzi, abangenalo ulwazi lweLizwi kunye nentando kaThixo kwaye ngenxa yoko abaninzi bakholelwa obu buxoki behlabathi kwaye benze ngokuvisisana nabo.. Ngenxa yoko, abantwana abaninzi baye baphulukana namakhaya abo olonwabo nemekobume ekhuselekileyo. Ababuyi ekhaya ukuphuma kwesikolo, ngelixa umama wabo ebalindile ephethe ikomityi yeti kunye nesnack kwaye ebazisa ngemini yabo, ngoxa bephulaphule ngenyameko kubo.
Kwiintsapho ezininzi, usana sele luphathiswe abanye emva kweeveki nje ezimbalwa luzelwe, endaweni yokukhuliswa nokukhuliswa ngabazali. Umntwana uphoswa ngapha nangapha; kukhathalelo lwabantwana, umntu ogcina umntwana, utatomkhulu nomakhulu, oomalume noomalume, ummelwane, njl. Ngenxa yoko, umntwana akakhuliswanga kwaye akaziphuhlisi kwindawo yokuhlala ekhuselekileyo kwaye akafundi ukuzincamathela. Abazali abanalo ulwazi ngendlela umntwana wabo akhuliswa ngayo kwaye kwezinye iimeko, bade baphulukane nokulawula umntwana wabo.
Ungacinga, ukuba umntwana uthathwa ekupheleni kosuku ngomnye wabazali aze abuyele ekhaya, umzali uyakuvuyela ukubona umntwana aze anikele ingqalelo efunekayo emntwaneni. Ngelishwa, akusoloko kunjalo. Ngenxa yokuba amaxesha amaninzi umzali udiniwe ngumsebenzi wakhe yaye udinwe kakhulu ukuba angaphulaphula aze anikele ingqalelo efunekayo emntwaneni. Ndiyeke ukudlala nomntwana. Amaxesha amaninzi umzali kufuneka alungiselele isidlo sangokuhlwa. Xa kunje, umzali akanakuphazanyiswa. Ngoko ke kwiintsapho ezininzi, i umabonwakude, ithebhulethi, okanye (Ukudlala)ikhompyutha ilayitiwe, ukuze umntwana onwabe, ngelixa umzali enokwenza ntoni (s)ufuna ukwenza oko enoxolo nokuzola.
Kwaye ke abazali abaninzi basazibuza, kutheni abantwana babo bexakekile, phezulu, ukungaphumli, ngokugqithisileyo, nemvukelo, nabangabathobeliyo kwaye ningabaphulaphuli.
Kodwa ukuba abazali abamisela umzekelo omhle kumntwana wabo(ren) kwaye baxakeke kakhulu kunye nabo kwaye bangathathi ixesha lokuphulaphula umntwana wabo, umntwana kufuneka afunde njani ukumamela? Ukuba umntwana unikwe kwaye uphathiswe abanye, umntwana uya kuziva efunwa kwaye ethandwa? Umntwana ufunda njani ukuzola kunye nokuncamathela kunye nokunyaniseka, xa umntwana engakhuliswanga kwaye akhuliswe kwindawo ahlala kuyo ekhuselekileyo kodwa ephoswa ngapha nangapha? Ukuba indoda nomfazi bacingela obabo ubomi, umsebenzi, nemali ebaluleke ngakumbi kunokukhulisa abantwana babo, kutheni bethatha isigqibo sokuba nabantwana kakade?
Umntwana usenokungasenguye umntwana
Mfundise umntwana ngendlela efanele umntwana;: naxa selemdala, akasayi kuphambuka kuyo (IMizekeliso 22:6)
Kuluntu lwethu, umntwana usenokuba akasenguye umntwana kodwa uphathwa njengomntu omdala yaye kulindeleke kwasebuncinaneni ukuba athabathe uxanduva, yenza, kwaye wenze izigqibo. Kodwa ngaba umntwana sele ekwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo?
Abazali abaninzi baxakeke kakhulu kunye nabo kwaye ngoko ke abahoyi ngqalelo kumntwana wabo(ren), ngenxa yoko zininzi izinto, ezingamlungelanga umntwana ziyanyamezelwa. Abazali bahlala bengayazi into eyenziwa ngumntwana wabo, ziziphi izinto umntwana wabo abandakanyeka kuzo, kwaye umntwana wabo udlala nabani. Ukuze kuthintelwe iingxabano kunye nemilo, banika umntwana wabo inkululeko yokwenza nantoni na afuna ukuyenza. Ngokubanika inkululeko abazali banokuphila ubomi babo, kwaye benze oko bafuna ukukwenza. Endaweni yokubeka intando kunye nobomi babo ecaleni kunye nokutyala imali kumntwana wabo.
Ukungabikho kwegunya labazali
Kananjalo sibe sinabo oobawo benyama abasiqeqeshayo;, kwaye sabahlonela: asiyi kuthi ngakumbi sithobele uYise woomoya bonke, kwaye uphile? Kuba bona okunene basiqeqesha imihla embalwa, ngokokuzithandela kwabo; kodwa yena usenzela inzuzo yethu, ukuze sibe ngamadlelane ngobungcwele baKhe. Ngoku akukho sohlwayo sibonakala sivuyisa okwangoku, kodwa kubuhlungu: kodwa kamva lubanika isiqhamo esiluxolo, oko kukuthi sobulungisa, abo baqhelisiweyo lulo (IsiHebhere 12:9-11)
Kwiintsapho ezininzi, igunya labazali alikho yaye umntwana akafundiswa mihla le eLizwini nakwizinto zoBukumkani bukaThixo, ke yena umntwana uzondla ngezinto zeli hlabathi. Abazali abamqeqeshi kwaye bamlungise umntwana wabo, kodwa bayeke umntwana wabo enze eyakhe indlela. Ngenxa yoko umntwana akabheki kubazali kwaye akabanikezi intlonipho.
Abantwana, balulameleni abazali benu ngokwabaseNkosini: kuba oko kububulungisa. Beka uyihlo nonyoko; (wona lowo ngumthetho wokuqala onedinga;) ukuze kulunge kuwe, ube nexesha elide emhlabeni (KwabaseKolose 3:20)
Abazali abaninzi bafuna ukugcina ubomi, ababenazo ngaphambi kokuba batshate. Yiyo loo nto abazali abaninzi bengakhuli ngokupheleleyo kwaye bathathe uxanduva lokukhulisa nokukhulisa umntwana wabo. Kunoko, bafuna ukuhlala bebatsha ngonaphakade, ubenexesha elimyoli, baze baphalaze imbopheleleko yabo kwabanye. Kwiintsapho ezininzi, abazali abasenabo abazali, abaphakamisayo, ukondla, ukhuthalelo lwe, khusela, ichanekile, aze amqeqeshe umntwana, kodwa ufana nomhlobo, ofuna ukuthandwa nokwamkelwa ngumntwana. Babeka umntwana wabo kwisihlalo ‘nesaphetha’ kwintando yabo ukugcina umntwana anelisekile kwaye anelisekile, endaweni yokuqondisa umntwana kunye nokulungisa ukuziphatha kwakhe. Kodwa igama litsho, ukuba awuqeqeshe kwaye ulungise (qeqesha) umntwana wakho, awumthandi umntwana (Jamela 13:24; 29:15; 29:17)
Umntwana ufuna imida nolwalathiso lwabazali bakhe yaye kufuneka aqeqeshwe aze alungiswe. Ukuba oku kunqongophele ebomini bomntwana kunokuba umntwana azicingele, Ikratshi, ngekratshi, nemvukelo, nokungabahloniphi abazali. Umntwana akayi kuthobela abazali kuzo zonke izinto kwaye ungoyiki (ukuba noloyiko) abazali, ngenxa yoko umntwana akayi kuzizukisa, njengoko iLizwi liyalela (Kwabase-Efese 6:1-3, KwabaseKolose 3:20, iEksodus 20:12). Ukuba abathobeli kwaye babahlonele abazali, umntwana uya kuba nako njani ukuthobela uThixo ezintweni zonke aze amhlonele? Kwaye ayisiyiyo yonke, kuba le ndlela yokuziphatha ibangela ukuba umntwana abe ngumjukujelwa ongakhokelwa kuluntu kwaye akayi kuba nako okanye azimisele ukulungelelanisa nokuthobela abanye.. Le nto sele isenzeka nabaphumeleleyo, abangalindelanga ukuqala ezantsi kwinkampani kodwa kwinqanaba lesigqeba.
Abanye abazali baye babuyekeze ukungabikho kwabo ngokumosha umntwana ngazo zonke iintlobo zezipho, ukubaleka, kunye neeholide. Bamnika yonke into umntwana (s)uyafuna, ngaphandle kwabo. Kodwa ngale ndlela yokuziphatha, baya kwenza izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi, kuba umntwana uya kuphangwa kwaye athande abazali kuphela ngezipho abazifumanayo hayi ukuba banguye. Xa umntwana sele emdala, (s)uya kutyelela kuphela okanye afowunele abazali bakhe xa (s)ufuna into hayi kuba (s)uyabathanda kwaye ufuna ukuchitha ixesha nabo. Hayi, (s)ukhetha ukuchitha ixesha nabahlobo, kunokuba kunye nosapho. Kaloku babephi abazali, xa umntwana ezidinga?
Impembelelo yoqhawulo-mtshato ebantwaneni
Kwaye masingalibali umphumo woqhawulo-mtshato kubomi bomntwana. Uqhawulo-mtshato Akwenzeki phakathi kwabangakholwayo kuphela, koko kwenzeka naphakathi kwabakholwayo. Amakholwa amaninzi aphula umnqophiso wawo womtshato aze aqhawule umtshato. Oku kungenxa yokuba amakholwa amaninzi ahlala enyameni kwaye aphila njengehlabathi, kwaye ke ngoko bakhokelwa yimimoya yehlabathi.
Xa abazali beqhawula umtshato, umntwana usoloko eziva enetyala kuba umntwana esoloko ecinga loo nto (s)nguye obekek’ ityala ngoqhawulo-mtshato. Umntwana kufuneka ajongane nayo kwaye afumane indlela yokuhlangabezana nayo. Oku phantse akunakwenzeka, kuba ngoku umntwana akasenalo ikhaya elikhuselekileyo nomama notata, baya kuhlala kwintsapho enye okanye ezimbini.
Abazali badla ngokucinga ukuba abantwana babo banokuyisingatha le meko ngokuncokola kamnandi. Kodwa amaxesha amaninzi, umntwana akabonisi kwaye abelane ngeemvakalelo zakhe zokwenyani kwaye uba buhlungu.
Umntwana uzivalela egumbini lakhe kwaye uzama ukubaleka inyaniso ukufunda iincwadi, ukubukela umabonakude, ukudlala imidlalo, Mamela umculo, kunye nokuchitha ixesha kwikhompyuter okanye kwimidiya yoluntu. Umntwana unokuzicima kwihlabathi lakhe eliyifantasti elidaliweyo kwaye ade enze iinguqulelo zokubaleka ubunyani kwaye amelane nale meko.. Ngokwenza ezi zinto, abantwana abaninzi baziphakamisela ebukumkanini bobumnyama kwaye basendleleni eya enzonzobileni
Ukuzibulala phakathi kwabantwana
Ngenxa yokuba abantwana abaninzi abonwabanga kwaye banelisekile kodwa baziva belahlekile kusapho lwabo, esikolweni okanye ekuhlaleni. Abaziva befunwa, ixatyiswe, kwaye waqonda, kodwa baziva belahliwe, engabonakaliyo kwaye ilahlekile. Bathwaxwa ziimvakalelo zokudandatheka ezilawula ubomi babo. Amaxesha amaninzi ezi mvakalelo zokudakumba zinamandla kangangokuba abantwana abasafuni kuphila, kodwa balangazelela ukufa. Kungenxa yokuba ezi mvakalelo zokudakumba zisuka kubukumkani bobumnyama, apho kulawula ukufa. Xa ukufa kubabiza, baya kuthobela baphelise ubomi babo.
Indlela le mimoya engcolileyo evela ebukumkanini bobumnyama ingene ngayo ebomini bomntwana, ayinamsebenzi. Kaloku maninzi amasango apho le mimoya ingendawo inokungena khona ebomini. Babenokungena ngexesha lokukhulelwa ukuba abazali babebandakanyeke kubugqi okanye baqalekise umntwana ngenxa yokuba ukukhulelwa kwakungacwangciswanga.. Ngeba bangene besakhula, ngokungabikho kwabazali babo, ukusilela kwengqalelo, ukubandakanyeka nemimoya emdaka nge (ezentlalo) amajelo eendaba; umabonwakude, iincwadi, Iimidlalo yevidiyo, umculo, izinto zokudlala, imidlalo yobugqi, a uqhawulo-mtshato, ukuxhatshazwa esikolweni, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni njl.njl.. Kusenokubakho oonobangela abaninzi.
Kodwa kuBukumkani bukaThixo, awukhangeli unobangela kwaye yemba kwixesha elidlulileyo, kodwa uze nesisombululo. Awuzenzi ngaphandle kwenyama, Njengomhlaba, ngokusebenzisa zonke iintlobo zonyango kunye namayeza, nisebenza ke ngokoMoya. Kule meko, Uyalela lo moya ungcolileyo wokufa ukuba umshiye umntwana Igama likaYesu; Kwigunya lakhe.
Xa umntwana ehlangulwe ekufeni kubalulekile ukuba umntwana amkhulisele eLizwini nakwizinto zoBukumkani bukaThixo.
Ukukhulisa umntwana ngeLizwi likaThixo
Uze umthande uYehova uThixo wakho ngentliziyo yakho yonke, nangomphefumlo wakho wonke, nangamandla akho onke. Kwaye la mazwi, endikuwisela umthetho ngako namhla, ibe sentliziyweni yakho: Uze uzifundise ngenyameko kubantwana bakho, uthethe ngawo ekuhlaleni kwakho endlwini yakho, nasekuhambeni kwakho ngendlela, naxa ulala, nasekuvukeni kwakho. uwabophe abe ngumqondiso esandleni sakho;, zibe zizikhumbuzo phakathi kwamehlo akho. uwabhale emigubasini yendlu yakho, nasemasangweni akho (iDuteronomi 6:5-9)
UThixo uphathise abazali abantwana, ukuba ubakhulise, ubafundise ukumoyika uYehova. Oku akuthethi ukuba ufanele uhlakulele uloyiko njengoko usoyika uThixo ukuze umntwana wakho amoyike. Oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka unyanzelise umntwana wakho ngazo zonke iintlobo zemithetho esemthethweni evela enyameni.. Njengakwimihla yakudala kwenzeka, kwaza kwaphumela ekuwexukeni kuThixo.
Kodwa ukukhulisa umntwana wakho ekoyikeni uYehova kuthetha ukuba ukhulise uze umfundise umntwana wakho eLizwini nasemoyeni uze umenze aqhelane noThixo noko akwenzileyo uze ukhulise uloyiko olufana nokumoyika uThixo..
Ubenza baqhelane noBukumkani bukaThixo nokuthanda Kwakhe yaye ufunde umntwana umahluko phakathi koBukumkani bukaThixo nobukumkani bobumnyama ukuze umntwana akhulise ukuqonda kokomoya..
Uyangqina ngemimangaliso kaThixo ebomini bakho kwaye ubabonise ubukhulu Bakhe kunye nokuba kuthetha ukuthini ukubakho Uhleli kuKristu nokuhamba kuye. uze ungayifihli imisebenzi kaMtyholi, kodwa zityhile emntwaneni, ukuze umntwana alumkiswe. Khumbula, olo kholo bubomi obudla ubomi. Ngokuchitha ixesha nomntwana wakho kwiLizwi likaThixo endaweni yokubeka umntwana wakho emva komabonwakude okanye ikhompyutha, umntwana uya kulazi iLizwi (Funda kwakhona: “Bavumeleni abantwana beze kum, musani ukubalela”).
Abazali bangumzekelo wabantwana
Bobabini abazali bayafuneka ukuze bakhulise umntwana. Umama kufuneka a.o amnakekele kwaye amkhulise umntwana, kanti uyise uya kumqeqesha, amqeqeshe umntwana, akhulisele umntwana ekuqeqesheni nasekululekeni kweNkosi. Uyise akafanele adimaze umntwana ngokumcaphukisa (ingqumbo), umzekelo ngokumjongela phantsi umntwana nokuthetha amagama angalunganga (Kwabase-Efese 6:4, KwabaseKolose 3:21).
Ubomi babazali nemizekelo yabo zizinto ezibalulekileyo ekukhuliseni umntwana. Kaloku abantwana abaninzi bajonga ubomi nendlela abaziphatha ngayo abazali babo, kwaye ukuba baphila ubomi obuqeqeshekileyo apho amazwi abo ahambelana nezenzo zabo.
Kaloku xa ufundisa umntwana wakho ungaxoki, uyaxoka ke, umzekelo xa umntu efowuna aze umntwana wakho abambe ifowuni, kwaye uthi emntwaneni "xelela umntu ukuba andikho", uyaxoka kwaye uya kuphulukana nokuthembeka kwakho. Akufanele umangaliswe xa umntwana wakho engakuthembi ngokupheleleyo okanye xa umntwana wakho ekopa indlela oziphatha ngayo aze axoke.. Kodwa ukuxoka akunandawo kubomi bomntu ozelwe ngokutsha.
Kuyafana ke nasekubekeni abazali bakho. Xa ufundisa umntwana wakho ukuhlonela abazali nokubahlonela, kodwa hleba ngawe, uthethe kakubi ngabazali bakho (abasemzini), ingaba le nto inomphumo onjani emntwaneni?
Ungummeli woBukumkani bukaThixo kwaye ungumzekelo kumntwana wakho ngenxa yokuba bayakubona kwaye ababoni uThixo (okwangoku). Ukuba ufundisa umntwana eLizwini kodwa ungawathobeli amazwi kaThixo kwaye ungakwenzi oko ukufundisa umntwana wakho, ke iBhayibhile ithi ungumhanahanisi (Mat 23:3, Mar 7:6-7, Gent 1:16). Ukuba awuyenzi into oyithethayo, umntwana kufuneka akholelwe kwaye athembele kuThixo kwaye enze oko akuthethayo eLizwini lakhe? Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, ungummeli kaThixo kwaye kanye njengoYesu, kwaye isekhona, umfanekiso kaBawo, nawe kufuneka ube sisibonakalaliso saKhe.
Wonke umntwana wahlukile
Ihlabathi lisebenzisa incwadi yokufundisa ekukhuliseni abantwana, eyenziwe ngu-a.o. izazi ngezentlalo, abafundisi kunye nomntwana Iingcali zengqondo kunye noogqirha bengqondo. Bamiselwa ehlabathini nangokwehlabathi, banolwazi nobulumko bokunceda nokukhokela abantwana nokucebisa abazali nokubanika izixhobo zokukhulisa umntwana wabo(ren).
UThixo unaye kwakhona a Imanyuwali; Ibhayibhile. Kodwa le Ncwadana iyatenxa kwincwadana yemigaqo, esetyenziswa lihlabathi, kwaye ithetha ngokuchaseneyo noko kuthethwa lihlabathi. Kodwa ukuba uyakholwa eLizwini, emva koko uya kuthobela iLizwi kwaye usebenzise iLizwi ebomini bakho nakubomi bomntwana wakho.
Sonke Isibhalo sinikelwa ngokuphefumlelwa nguThixo, kwaye iyingenelo kwimfundiso, ngenxa yokohlwaywa, ukulungisa, Ngqeqesho ebulungiseni: Ukuze umntu kaThixo abe egqibeleleyo, inikelwe ngokupheleleyo kuyo yonke imisebenzi elungileyo (2 Tim 3:16)
INkosi iya kukufundisa yonke imihla kwaye ikukhokele ukusuka eLizwini layo nakulwazi nobulumko bayo, kufuneka ukhulise umntwana wakho. Uya kukuphefumlela kwaye akunike ngeLizwi lakhe noMoya wakhe iimbono ozidingayo. Unokucela iingcebiso kwabanye okanye udibane nehlabathi, kodwa uYihlo osemazulwini, Ngubani uMenzi womntwana wakho, uya kukunika eyona ngcebiso ilungileyo. Uyazi kakuhle into efunwa ngumntwana wakho kwaye akutyhilele izinto ezifihlakeleyo emehlweni akho. Yiyo loo nto kubalulekile ukuchitha ixesha kunye naye eLizwini nasemthandazweni mihla le kwaye ukhulise umntwana wakho kubudlelwane bakho naye..
Lixhoba likaMtyholi
Njengekholwa elizelwe ngokutsha, umela ubukumkani bukaThixo nokuba uphila ngokoMoya, niya kuthwala isiqhamo soMoya. Esi siqhamo kufuneka sibekho ebomini bakho kwaye senzelwe ukunika abanye, kule meko, kumntwana wakho. Ukuze wondle umntwana wakho ngokomoya kwaye akhulele kulwazi lweLizwi nakumandla kaMoya oyiNgcwele.
Musa ukukhalaza ngomntwana wakho, kodwa bulela iNkosi ngomntwana wakho kwaye ubize ezo zinto zingekhoyo ngokungathi bezikho. Endaweni yokuba uthi rhoqo into oyibonayo kwaye wabelane ngayo nehlabathi elikungqongileyo.
Thandaza kwaye ubange umntwana wakho ngenxa yoBukumkani bukaThixo kwaye ufune umphefumlo womntwana wakho. Mkhusele umntwana wakho kwiimpembelelo zehlabathi nasesikolweni. Kuba kukho izikolo zobuKristu ezifundisayo iyoga, iindlela zokucamngca, ukuqonda, nezinye izinto zobugqi yaye babandakanyeke kwezinye iicawa. Ke ngoko hlala uphaphile kwaye ubandakanyeke, ukuze wazi kakuhle ukuba kwenzeka ntoni esikolweni somntwana wakho kwaye yima kuYesu. Thandazela izikolo nootitshala kwaye ubize ezo zinto zingekhoyo, kwaye zihambelana nentando kaThixo, ngokungathi banjalo.
NjengomKristu ozelwe ngokutsha ukumfazwe yokomoya rhoqo, ungaze uyilibale le nto. Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba umntwana wakho lixhoba likasathana kwaye uya kwenza nantoni na ukuba azizuzele umntwana wakho, ukumisa ubukumkani bakhe kulo mhlaba. UMtyholi usebenzisa zonke iintlobo zemithombo yolonwabo, isikolo, inkulisa njl. ukuphumeza umsebenzi wakhe kwaye azizuzele isizukulwana esitsha.
‘Yibani yityuwa yehlabathi’
