Kukho amaKristu amaninzi, abangatshatanga. Amanye amaKristu angatshatanga aye akhetha ngabom ukuhlala engatshatanga, kodwa akho amanye amaKristu angatshatanga, abalangazelela iqabane kwaye abakwazi ukulinda ukuhlangabezana neqabane lakhe elizayo. Abanye balinde ixesha elide kwiqabane elifanelekileyo ukuba Hey baye bakhathazeka kwaye ngamanye amaxesha banomsindo kuThixo. Bayabandezeleka baze babuze isizathu sokuba uThixo engabaniki iqabane. Eli nqaku limalunga nesithembiso somlingani, ukubaluleka kokulinda iqabane elifanelekileyo kunye nokuba wenze ntoni ngelixa ulinde iqabane elifanelekileyo.
Isithembiso somlingane
Wathi uYehova uThixo, Akulungile ukuba indoda ibe yodwa; ndiya kumenzela umncedi onguwabo. UYehova uThixo wabumba ngomhlaba zonke izinto eziphilileyo zasendle, nazo zonke iintaka zezulu; wazisa kuAdam ukubona ukuba wothini na ukuzibiza: wathi awazibiza ngako uAdam zonke izinto eziphilileyo, ibiligama layo elo. Wazithiya amagama uAdam zonke iinkomo, nakwiintaka zezulu, nakuwo onke amarhamncwa asendle; ke uAdam akafunyanelwanga mncedi unguwabo. UYehova uThixo wawisa ubuthongo obukhulu phezu koAdam, walala: wathatha ubambo lwakhe lwaba lunye, wayivala inyama esikhundleni sayo; Kwaye ubambo, awayithabathayo uYehova uThixo ebantwini, wamenza umfazi, wamzisa endodeni. Wathi uAdam, Eli ke ngoku lithambo lasemathanjeni am, nenyama yenyama yam: kuya kuthiwa nguMfazi, ngokuba uthatyathwe endodeni. Ngenxa yoko indoda yomshiya uyise nonina;, inamathele emfazini wayo: yaye baya kuba nyama-nye (IGenesis 2:18-24)
Inqaku elandulelayo lalimalunga silindele idinga likaThixo. UAbraham kwafuneka alinde 25 iminyaka ngaphambi kokuba isithembiso sikaThixo sizaliseke. Emva koko 25 iminyaka yokulinda, UThixo wanika uAbraham unyana: UIsake. UAbraham wafumana idinga likaThixo phezu kwako nje ukulinda ixesha elide. Kodwa siphila kwixesha apho abantu bengakulungeli ukulinda. Bafuna kwenziwe izinto izolo. Kodwa simele sazi ukuba ixesha lahlukile kuThixo kunokuba kunjalo ngomntu.
Mamaxesha amaninzi, Ndiyakuva kwaye ndibona ukudandatheka, iintlungu nokubandezeleka amaKristu angatshatanga atyhubela kuzo, kuba abakalifumani iqabane elifanelekileyo kwaye izinto azihambi ngokwesicwangciso sabo. Bagxile kakhulu ekungabikho kweqabane kwaye baxakeke kakhulu ezingqondweni zabo ngokufumana iqabane elifanelekileyo, ukuba basoloko bephoswa bubuhle bobomi. Ubomi babo bonke bujikeleza ekulahlekeni nasekufumaneni iqabane.
Ngamanye amaxesha inokuba nzima kakhulu, ukuba badandatheke. Isenokude ifikelele kwinqanaba lokuba abasafuni ukuphila kwakhona.
Bazibona bengaphumeleli. Abazithembanga kwaye bahlala bezibuza, ofuna umntu onje ngam? okanye kwenzeka ntoni kum? kwaye cinga, funda, Ndimbi, kuba akukho mntu undifunayo.
Amaphupha kunye nezinto ezilindelweyo ebomini
Asinguye wonke umntu ofumana iqabane lakhe eneminyaka engamashumi amabini. Mhlawumbi unamaphupha athile kunye nezinto ozilindeleyo ngobomi bakho, kodwa mandikuxelele, ukuba ayingawo onke la maphupha nolindelo aya kuzaliseka.
Thembela kuThixo ukunika iqabane elifanelekileyo
Ngamanye amaxesha uThixo unelinye icebo ngobomi bakho. Ngoko ke kubalulekile ukuthembela kuThixo nokubeka yonke into ezandleni zakhe. Mthembe, ukuba Uya kubonelela iqabane elifanelekileyo ngexesha elifanelekileyo: Ixesha lakhe. UThixo akazenzi iimpazamo. UThixo uyakwazi ukuba ungubani na, Uyazi kakuhle into oyifunayo, kwaye Uyazi xa ulungele iqabane, okanye xa iqabane lakho liya kukulungela.
Inyani yokuba awunaye iqabane, ayithethi ukuba umbi. Ayithethi, ukuba akumnandi ukuba kunye, okanye ukuba awufunwa. Hayi, ngokupheleleyo akunjalo!
Kuphela nje uThixo unelinye icebo ngobomi bakho, ke unobomi bakho, kuko konke.
Kwaye ngoku kuxhomekeke kuwe. Ngaba uyalamkela icebo lakhe ngobomi bakho, uyamthemba uThixo ngokupheleleyo kwaye ubeke yonke into ezandleni zakhe kwaye Ngena ekuphumleni kwakhe ndilinde? Okanye awuyi kuyamkela, kwaye uthabathe imicimbi esandleni sakho kwaye ubhalise ngokwakho kwizinto ezahlukeneyo (kwi-intanethi) dating sites, iiarhente zomtshato, kwaye uye kwisantya ukuthandana imicimbi, iziganeko enye njl. ukufumana iqabane.
Kuyingozi kakhulu ukuba ungalindi kwaye uthathe izinto ezandleni zakho. Kukangaphi abantu betshata nomntu ongalunganga, ngenxa yokuba babengakwazi ukulinda iqabane elifanelekileyo kwaye bathathe izinto ezandleni zabo. Akumangalisi ukuba izinga loqhawulo-mtshato liphezulu kwaye linyuka minyaka yonke, naseCaweni. Akukho mahluko kwakhona phakathi kwehlabathi kunye namaKristu, Ngubani kunye icawe.
Sesiphi esinye sezizathu ezibangela ukuba abantu baqhawule umtshato? Ndicinga ukuba esinye sezizathu ezivakalayo kukuba benza ukhetho olungalunganga lweqabane, kuba babengenakulinda.
Ngubani ofuna ukulinda?
Uninzi lwabantu luthatha ulawulo kubomi babo kwaye abanakulinda ukuba izinto zenzeke ebomini babo. Ababubekanga ubomi babo esibingelelweni sikaThixo. Abakawancami onke amaphupha abo nolindelo kwaye abazinikelanga ngokupheleleyo kuYe. Ngoko ke iyenzeka rhoqo, ukuba abantu batshata ngokukhawuleza kwaye amaxesha amaninzi, tshata nomntu ongalunganga.
Abambuzi uThixo ngalo mntu kwaye abalindi impendulo Yakhe. Ekuphela kwento abayifunayo kukuba nosapho; umfazi okanye umyeni, abantwana. Ngokukhawuleza xa befumana umntu, abanonxibelelwano oluthile naye, bayayilungisa loo nto baze batshate. Ngokukodwa xa iwotshi yebhayoloji iqala ukuphawula (ngokwehlabathi).
Indoda nomfazi bamanyene
Khumbula, ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho elizayo niya kwenza iimbambo ezipheleleyo kunye. Yiyo loo nto uyazi, xa udibana neqabane elifanelekileyo. Kufuneka kuqala kubekho unxibelelwano lomoya kuze emva koko kubekho unxibelelwano lwenyama; unxibelelwano lomphefumlo kunye nonxibelelwano lomzimba.
Amaxesha amaninzi kakhulu, abantu benza izigqibo ngeemvakalelo zabo kwaye bakhetha iqabane kwiziseko zembonakalo yangaphandle kunye nomtsalane womzimba.
Akukho mathandabuzo, ukuba unokutsaleleka kumntu omnye ebomini, kodwa ezi zinto zinomtsalane ngokwasenyameni zezenyama kwaye zokwexeshana kwaye azikho ngokwasemoyeni kwaye zihlala ixesha elide.
Mnye kuphela umntu wokomoya olungiselelwe wena ngokukhethekileyo. Kwaye ukuba unokulinda kuThixo, ke uThixo uya kukunika iqabane elifanelekileyo ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
Unokuqiniseka njani ukuba uThixo uya kukunika iqabane? Kungenxa yokuba iLizwi likaThixo litsho. Wabumba ke uThixo zonke iintlobo zembombo neentaka zezulu, wazinika uAdam, kodwa uAdam akazange azifumanele uncedo. Hayi de uThixo wawisa ubuthongo obunzulu kuAdam yaye njengoko wayelele uThixo wathabatha ubambo luka-Adam waza wenza uEva kuAdam.. UAdam noEva benza umanyano, babenyama-nye.
Xa ufumana iqabane elifanelekileyo, nani niya kubumba umanyano nibe nyama-nye. Kodwa kufuneka ube nomonde.
“Ungakhe uyithande kancinane le nto?”
Hayi, kuba iLizwi likaThixo liyinyaniso. Andijongi amava abantu, kodwa ndijonge okuthethwa liLizwi likaThixo!
Xa sikholelwa kwiLizwi likaThixo kwaye simthobela kwaye siphila ngokweLizwi likaThixo kwaye sigcine imiyalelo yakhe kwaye simthembe ngokupheleleyo, ngoko ke izinga loqhawulo-mtshato ecaweni liya kuba ngunothi.
Akusayi kuphinda kuthethwe ngoqhawulo-mtshato, kuba uqhawulo-mtshato luyinxalenye yobomi bomntu wenyama, kwaye kungekhona ubomi bomntu womoya.
UThixo ubacebisa abantu bakhe ngeLizwi lakhe, kodwa kuxhomekeke kubantu bakhe, ukuba bafuna ukulandela icebiso lakhe. Wonke umntu unoxanduva lwezigqibo zakhe, izenzo kunye nezenzo. Akukho mntu unokugxeka uThixo.
Wena unoxanduva lwezenzo zakho. Nabantu abakungqongileyo abanaxanduva ngezenzo zakho (Izigqibo). Ngoko, ungamsoli uThixo, okanye kubantu abakungqongileyo.
Wenza ntoni okwangoku?
Ngelixa ulinde iqabane elifanelekileyo ukuba lize, hlala kuYesu; ilizwi. Yazi ukuba uMoya wakhe uhlala ngaphakathi kuwe, kwaye okoko uhlala kuYe kwaye ugxile kuYe, endaweni yokugxila kwiqabane, uya kufumana uxolo novuyo. Ewe, uya kuba nomonde, kwaye ube noxolo novuyo, ide ifike imini, ukuba uThixo uya kukunika iqabane. Unganyaniseka njani emntwini, ukuba awukwazi ukunyaniseka kuYesu?
UThixo unguThixo onekhwele kwaye ufuna ukuchitha ixesha nawe, ngokuba uyakuthanda. Ufuna umthembe ngokupheleleyo. Ufuna ukukubumba, ukuze ube ukulungele ukudibana neqabane lakho.
Ngoko ke chitha ixesha kunye naye kwaye uzakhe eLizwini likaThixo.
Gcina amehlo akho kuYesu, mjonge kwaye ungajongi ukungabikho kweqabane. Xa ugcina amehlo akho ekuswelekeni kweqabane, uya kudandatheka.
Ukuba nje niqhubeka nihamba ngokoMoya niya kulunga. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza ukuba uqale ukuhamba emva kwenyama (okwenyama, kwaye ukhokelwe ziimvakalelo zakho, iingcinga, iimvakalelo njl.), uya konganyelwa ziimvakalelo neengcinga ezingakhiyo.
Musa ukujonga usapho lwakho, bahlobo, abazanayo, abatshatileyo ‘bonwabile’, ngomona. Kuba xa ujonga kubo, ngomona, emva koko ukungabikho kweqabane, kwaye zonke iintlobo zeemvakalelo ezingalunganga ziya kuvela kuwe.
Ngoko wonwabe kubo kwaye ungabi nomona.
Ukungatshati akuyonto imbi kwaphela
Abantu benza into enkulu kangaka, xa umntu engatshatanga. Kodwa ukungatshati akukubi kwaphela. Ngelishwa xa ungatshatanga, abantu basoloko becinga ukuba kukho undonakele, okanye ukuthandabuza ukhetho lwakho lwesini, oko kulihlazo, kuba abayazi loo nto ngokuziphatha kwabo okanye ngeentetha zabo, banokumenzakalisa umntu, ongatshatanga.
Kodwa musa ukuphulaphula kwaye unikele ingqalelo kula mazwi, ngokuba uyayazi inyaniso. Kwaye ndikuxelele, oko njengomntu omnye, ungaphila ubomi obumnandi, nokuba ufikelela 30. Khumbula, akukho nto imbi kuwe!
“Kodwa kutheni kufuneka ndilinde? Ndiyazi ngabantu abaninzi, abafumene iqabane labo nge-intanethi. UThixo unokubonelela ngeqabane nge-intanethi.”
Ngokuqinisekileyo Unako! Kodwa iya kuba liqabane uThixo alinyulele kuwe, kwaye ubeke bucala kuwe?
Kutheni simdinga uThixo ukuba singenza yonke into ngokwethu?
Ndithetha oku; NguYehova uYireh, uThixo obonelelayo. Kodwa ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuba ixesha lakho lokulinda kufuneka liphele, kwaye uqale ukuya kwi-intanethi, ukukhangela iqabane elifanelekileyo ukuba unalo engqondweni, ke okunene awusamdingi uYehova Jireh, kuba unako ukuzinyamekela. Kwaye ngokungangqalanga uthi kuThixo, ukuba awumthembi ngokubonelela ngeqabane.
Uyamthemba uThixo? Ngaba uyakholelwa ukuba unokuzisa umntu, nje esithubeni, Kwindlela yakho? Ukuba uyayikholelwa ngokwenene loo nto, emva koko uyeke ukuzama ukukufunela iqabane elifanelekileyo kwaye ulinde.
“Kodwa kunzima ukulinda, Ndifuna ukutshata ndiqale usapho ngoku”
Ungayenza ibe nzima kwaye ibenzima njengoko uthanda. Ukuba ufumana kunzima kwaye kunzima, ngoko wena banoxanduva lwaloo nto, ngokuba uzenza nzima ngokwakho, ingenguye uThixo.
Xa waba ngumKristu kwaye wazalwa kwakhona, wanikela ubomi bakho kuye. Oko kuthetha ukuba ulawula ubomi bakho, hayi wena. Yiyo loo nto ungaphumla kuYe kwaye ulinde… Ayisiyonto malunga nobungakanani kodwa umgangatho.
“Ndikufumanisa kunzima ngokwenene ukuva ilizwi likaThixo, ndazi njani ukuba ndifumene iqabane elifanelekileyo?”
UThixo uya kukubonisa ngoMoya wakhe, ukuba liqabane elifanelekileyo. Kuya kubakho unxibelelwano lomoya; ukucofa, kuba ubambo lwaphuma embanjeni. Niya kugqibana kwaye nobabini niya kuba nombono ofanayo wobomi (umbono kaThixo, abazelwe nguMoya).
Kubo bonke ubomi bakho uye wabona kwaye wadibana 'nabancedi' abaninzi (bona iGenesis 3:18), ngoko xa udibana neqabane elifanelekileyo uya kukwazi, kanye njengokuba wenzayo uAdam. Kuya kubakho isiqinisekiso somoya ngaphakathi kuwe.
Xa udibana nomntu kwaye ucinga ukuba ngumntu ofanelekileyo, Emva koko uchithe ixesha elininzi kunye naye kangangoko kunokwenzeka (Nceda qaphela: Andithethi ukuhlala kunye!)
Ngexesha ‘lokwazana’ ixesha, musa ukuba (ngokwasemzimbeni) ubuhlobo omnye komnye, kodwa sazaneni ngokomoya. Ukusondelelana yinto yomtshato, kwaye hayi ngaphandle komtshato.
Wowazi umthi ngesiqhamo sawo
Umthi olungileyo awunakuvelisa ziqhamo zibi, nomthi ombi awunakuvelisa ziqhamo zihle. Ngoko ke, xa nazana kwaye nibone (okanye amava) izinto, ongayithandiyo okanye ebangela ukuba ubuze kwaye uthandabuze ukuba (s)ungumntu okulungeleyo, wandule ukuyithabatha nzulu.
Oko kungaphakathi entliziyweni yomntu kuya kuphuma emntwini (Ekugqibeleni). Ngoko ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nomnye. Thethani omnye nomnye, kodwa ngokukodwa phulaphulanani.
Xa usemathandweni uyakufumana iimvakalelo. Ezi mvakalelo zinokuba namandla kakhulu, ukuba awukwazi ukucinga ngokuthe ngqo kwakhona. Ufumana izinto, loo nto ikwenza uthandabuze ukuba lo mntu ukulungele na, kodwa iimvakalelo zenu enyameni zinamandla, ukuze ucinge ukuba izinto ziya kutshintsha wakuba utshatile.
Izinto aziyi kutshintsha ngexesha lomtshato wakho
Kodwa izinto aziyi kutshintsha wakuba utshatile. Khumbula, ukuba ngexesha lothethathethwano abantu bazibonakalisa bekwizinga eliphezulu. Ke into oyibonayo yeyona ndlela yokuziphatha komntu.
Umthi we-apile awukwazi ukuba ngumthi wepere. Kwaye oko kusebenza nakubantu. Ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kubakho ukuthenwa okuthile emtshatweni, ke wona umthi nesiqhamo ziya kuhlala kunjalo. Ngoko ke, musa ukukhawuleza wenze isigqibo, kodwa qiniseka ukuba umntu lowo liqabane elifanelekileyo, uThixo akwenzele kona.
Uya kuba ngcono, ukulinda iminyaka emibini okanye emithathu ngaphezulu, kunokuba wenze isigqibo esingalunganga kwaye udibane nomntu ofanelekileyo ngexesha lomtshato wakho.
Xa ungekatshati, musa ukunkwantya, kodwa linda iqabane elifanelekileyo. Gcina amehlo akho kuYesu hayi ekungabikho kweqabane. Ungavumeli ukungabikho kweqabane kube yingqwalasela yakho ephambili kunye nombindi wobomi bakho, kuba ukuba wenza, uya kuphoswa bubomi kwaye ubomi buya kudlula kuwe.
‘Yibani yityuwa yehlabathi’
