Ingaba wenza ntoni, xa ungumKristu kwaye ukholelwa kuYesu Kristu, kodwa iqabane lakho alikholelwa kuThixo kwaye liyala ukwamkela uYesu njengoMsindisi neNkosi? Ingaba wenza ntoni, xa uhlala neqabane elingakholwayo kwaye iqabane lakho alifuni ukuya nawe ecaweni, Funda iBhayibhile, kwaye nithandaze? Ngaba uziva ulilolo emtshatweni wakho, kuba iqabane lakho alikholelwa ngendlela efanayo kwaye alivumelani nendlela ofuna ukukhulisa ngayo abantwana bakho? Mhlawumbi uzame zonke iintlobo zezinto ukuguqula iqabane lakho elingakholwayo, njengokusebenzisa iindlela zomthandazo kumyeni ongakholwayo okanye izibhengezo, kodwa ayizange isebenze kwaye ngoku uyazibuza ukuba wenze ntoni. Kulungile, ke eli nqaku lelakho! Funda ukuba ithini iBhayibhile ngokuhlala nomyeni ongakholwayo nendlela yokuguqula iqabane lakho elingakholwayo libe ngumKristu.
Ngaba uziva ulilolo emtshatweni wakho?
Xa wena kunye neqabane lakho ningabelani ngokholo olufanayo kwaye anikho kwinqanaba elifanayo, unokuba lilolo kakhulu emtshatweni wakho. Kukho abafazi abaninzi abangamaKristu, abatshatileyo nabangakholwayo.
Abanye abafazi abangamaKristu ngabom batshata nomntu ongakholwayo, naphezu kwesilumkiso seLizwi likaThixo. Babecinga ukuba bangazuza amaqabane abo ngenxa kaYesu, akukho xesha, kodwa oko akwenzekanga. Kukho namanye amabhinqa angamaKristu, abaguqukayo ngexesha lomtshato wabo. Kwaye kukho abafazi, owatshata ikholwa, kodwa ngexesha lomtshato wabo, umyeni wabo walushiya ukholo.
Kodwa wenza ntoni, kwezi meko? Ngaba uhlala unomonde kwaye uthembekile kwiqabane lakho elingakholwayo? Okanye udikwe yiyo yonke imeko kwaye uphume kumnqophiso womtshato kwaye uqhawule umtshato?
Ngaba zikhona iindlela zomthandazo ezisebenzayo zokuguqula iqabane lakho elingakholwayo?
Zininzi iintshumayelo kunye neencwadi zobuKristu malunga izicwangciso zomthandazo ngokudibanisa ne ukuzila ukutya yokuguqulwa kwabantu. AmaKristu amaninzi asebenzisa ezi ndlela zomthandazo kunye neendlela zokuguqula amaqabane awo. Kodwa xa iqabane labo lingaguquki emva kweenyanga okanye iminyaka embalwa, bayakhathazeka baze banikezele. Okanye nangakumbi, bayawuncama umtshato wabo, bawaphule umnqophiso wabo womtshato.
Xa amaKristu ewuncama umtshato wawo aze aphule umnqophiso wawo womtshato ngokuqhawula umtshato, benza ngokwasenyameni; ngenxa yokuzingca. Azenzi izinto eziphuma emoyeni ngokuthobela iLizwi likaThixo. Kuba uqhawulo-mtshato asiyontando kaThixo kwaye alusayi kuze lube yintando yakhe. (Funda kwakhona: ‘Ithini iBhayibhile ngoqhawulo-mtshato?‘).
Ukuba uziva uphelelwe lithemba yaye ucatshukiswa sisibakala sokuba umyeni wakho ongakholwayo akakaguquki, Naphezu kwemithandazo yenu emininzi, Ndingathanda ukukukhuthaza kwaye ndithi, ukuba kukho indlela enye yokukhokelela iqabane lakho elingakholwayo kuYesu Kristu ngokutsho kweBhayibhile.
Ungaguqula njani iqabane lakho elingakholwayo?
Kukho indlela enye yokuguqula iqabane lakho elingakholwayo kwaye kungowe! Ewe, uyifunde kakuhle, ngawe! Makhe sijonge oko iBhayibhile ikutshoyo ngomyeni ongakholwayo nendlela yokuguqula iqabane elingakholwayo:
Ngokufanayo, nina bafazi, wathobeleni awenu amadoda; loo nto, ukuba kukho bani ungalivayo ilizwi, nabo banokuthi ngaphandle kwelizwi bazuzeke ngencoko yabafazi; beyibona ihambo yenu enyulu, enoloyiko. Ukuhomba kwenu makungabi kokokwangaphandle, kokulukwa kweenwele, nokunxitywa kwegolide, okanye ukwambatha ingubo; Kodwa makube kokomntu ofihlakeleyo wentliziyo, kwinto engenakonakala, nesivatho somoya ozolileyo nowobulali, Elixabiso likhulu emehlweni kaThixo (1 UPetros 3:1-4)
Kubalulekile ukuba umamkele umyeni wakho njengentloko yosapho lwakho, njengokuba uKristu enguye INtloko yeBandla. Ngokuthobela iqabane lakho nangokulihlonela, ngokuziphatha kwakho iqabane lakho liya kuzuza uYesu Kristu. Yiloo nto kanye iBhayibhile; litsho ilizwi likaThixo.
“Unokuzithoba njani kuThixo,
ukuba awukwazi ukuzithoba kumyeni wakho?”
INkosi imisele indoda, njengentloko yosapho. Kodwa ngenxa yokuba umoya wobufazi (umoya wobumnyama), imithetho kubomi abafazi abaninzi, abafazi bayabavukela amaqabane abo. Bafuna ukuba yintloko-ntsapho baze bangavumi ukuzithoba kumaqabane abo.
Ukuzithoba akuthethi ukuba uphathwe njengekhoboka kwaye ulawulwe kwaye uxhatshazwe (ngokwasemzimbeni nasengqondweni) ngeqabane lakho. Kodwa ukuzithoba kuthetha, ukuba uqaphele iqabane lakho njengomyeni wakho, njengentloko yosapho, kwaye uyamhlonela umyeni wakho.
Musa ukugweba umyeni wakho. Musa ukumbeka phantsi, ngokuhlekisa ngaye okanye ngokuthetha amazwi ahlabayo ngomyeni wakho, ngakumbi phambi kwabantwana bakho nabanye. Kodwa hlonipha umyeni wakho.
Wamkele umsebenzi womyeni wakho wokunyamekela nokubonelela intsapho yakhe. Ngelixa umsebenzi wakho ikukukhulisa amalungu osapho lwakho. (Funda kwakhona: Umnqophiso womtshato).
Uthetha ngokuzithoba, kodwa kuthekani ngokuhamba kwakhe?
Ngaba uya kuliguqula iqabane lakho elingakholwayo, ngamazwi akho? Ngentshumayelo yakho yemihla ngemihla, izilungiso, kunye nezohlwayo? Impendulo nguhayi. Oku kuya kumgxotha kuphela umyeni wakho elukholweni.
Ekuphela kwendlela yokuguqula iqabane lakho elingakholwayo kukuziphatha kwakho; ngobomi benu obunyulu, obuhamba noloyiko.
Apha sineyona ngxaki iphambili kuba abafazi abaninzi abangamaKristu abasithwali esi siqhamo. Amaqabane abo abuboni ubomi babo obusulungekileyo.
Ababoni umfazi otshintshileyo, ohamba emva koMoya. Kunoko, babona umfazi oyinjubaqa, ongayihloniphiyo indoda yakhe kwaye ongafuni ukumamela nokuzithoba kumyeni wakhe.
Babona umntu, ofuna ukuphila ubomi bakhe, ukwenza ukuthanda kwakhe nokunyanzelisa ukuthanda kwakhe kumyeni nakubantwana bakhe.
Babona umntu, ngubani na onekratshi, mhlawumbi bayahleba, bathethe kakubi ngabanye, ukhalaza, murmur, njl.
Iqabane elingakholwayo libona umfazi ongatshintshiyo, ophila njengehlabathi, esenza imisebenzi efanayo, nivelisa isiqhamo esinye (ukukrexeza, uhenyuzo, ukungahlambuluki, I-Lascivied, unqulo-zithixo, ubugqwirha, imvukelo, intiyo, umahluko, ukufuya, ingqumbo, Imbambano, ukumiselwa, i-heredies, umona, ukubulala, ukunxila, iziyunguma, kwaye kanjalo).
Ngoko ke, indoda engakholwayo ayitsaleleki ekubeni ngumKristu ize ikhonze uYesu. Umyeni akayiboni nayiphi na ingenelo yokuba ngumKristu nemfuneko yokuguquka. Ngenxa yokuba akawuboni umahluko kwindlela aphila ngayo umKristu nongakholwayo.
Ekuphela kwento ayibonayo umyeni ukuba yahlukile kwindlela yakhe yokuphila, kukuba iqabane lakhe elikholwayo lifunda iBhayibhile yaye liya ecaweni ngeeCawa. Kodwa yiloo nto. (Funda kwakhona: Ukuba amaKrestu aphila njengehlabathi kufuneka ihlabathi liguquke ngantoni?).
Oko-u, njengoko ungatshintshi,
iqabane lakho aliyi kutshintsha nalo
Xa usenza le nto iLizwi likuxelela ukuba yenze kwaye uyazithoba eLizwini kwaye uqale ukumhlonipha umyeni wakho, endaweni yokulawula umyeni wakho nokusoloko ujongana nomyeni wakho ngeempazamo zakhe, iintsilelo, kunye neziphene, ke imeko iya kutshintsha.
Kuya kubakho utshintsho ngenxa yokuba utshintshile.
Xa usenza oko iBhayibhile ikutshoyo kwaye uthwala isiqhamo soMoya, oko ikukuthi uthando, uvuyo, uxolo, ixesha elide, ubumnene, ukulunga, ukholo, ukuthobeka, kwaye ushushu, umyeni wakho uya kulubona utshintsho kuwe. Le ndlela, woyizuza indoda yakho ngenxa kaKrestu.
Uze ungaliguquleli iqabane lakho elingakholwayo ngamazwi akho, kodwa ngezenzo zakho
IBhayibhile ithi, ukuze ungayifumani indoda yakho engakholiweyo, ngamazwi akho amaninzi, kodwa ngezenzo zakho.
Xa umyeni wakho ongakholwayo eqaphela umoya wakho othobekileyo nozolileyo aze abone isiqhamo soMoya, ke akuyi kuba lixesha elide, ngaphambi kokuba indoda yakho ingakholiweyo inikele ubomi bayo kuYesu Kristu.
Ingaba ithatha ixesha elingakanani? Akukho mntu waziyo, kodwa kuya kwenzeka kuba iBhayibhile itsho njalo. Kwaye siyazi ukuba iBhayibhile; i ILizwi likaThixo liyinyaniso. Ngoko ke ukuba ufuna ukuguqula iqabane lakho elingakholwayo, Linda, Ngenisa kwigama, uze wenze oko iBhayibhile ikuxelela ukuba ukwenze, kuba iLizwi likaThixo alixoki.
‘Yibani yityuwa yehlabathi’
