Ingozi kamabonwakude ebantwaneni idla ngokufihlwa kubantu abaninzi, kuquka namaKristu. Uninzi lwabantu aluboni bungozi ekubukeleni umabonwakude. Bathi, ukuba umabonwakude unempembelelo entle ekukhuleni kwabantwana. Ukubukela umabonwakude kube nawuphi umphumo engqondweni nakwihambo yabantwana? Makhe siqwalasele ingozi yokomoya kamabonwakude ebantwaneni.
Umoya weli hlabathi ungena engqondweni ngomabonwakude
Ngelishwa, AmaKristu amaninzi akazalwa ngokutsha kwaye awacalulani umhlaba womoya kunye nemimoya. Abaziboni iingozi zomoya kwaye bavula ucango lobomi babo ukuze imimoya engendawo ingene kwaye iyithabathe..
Oku kwenzeka nangokubukela umabonakude. Ngomabonakude, umoya wehlabathi ungena ezingqondweni zabantu uze ubenze babukholelwe ubuxoki bakhe. Umoya wehlabathi ubenza bacinge baze baphile njengehlabathi baze babe banye nehlabathi.
AmaKristu amaninzi awakwazi oko ngokubukela umabonwakude, bayalungiselelwa ukuza komchasi-Kristu.
Ngokubukela umabonwakude, AmaKristu aba dikidiki ngaselukholweni kuKristu kwaye angasikhathaleli isono. Baye banyamezele kwaye bavumele isono endaweni yokujonga isono njengento embi kwaye ukungamthobeli uThixo. Akukho mahluko phakathi kwamakholwa nabangakholwayo.
Ngoku, ngako konke oku engqondweni, iyintoni ingozi yokomoya kamabonwakude ebantwaneni?
Lixesha eliyingozi lokuba abantwana bakhule
Abantwana bachanabeka kwiingozi ezininzi. Bakhulela kuluntu olungadibaniyo noThixo neLizwi lakhe. Kuyo yonke iminyaka, abantu bavelisa indawo kaThixo. Le ndlela, bazimela yaye babengasayi kumfuna uThixo kwakhona. Kungcono, Yiloo nto abacinga ngayo.
Ngenxa yokuba uluntu lwethu luphila ngaphandle koThixo, abantwana bakhulela kwihlabathi, apho phantse yonke imilinganiselo yokuziphatha yeBhayibhile (ILizwi likaThixo) abasekho.
Kwiintsapho ezininzi zamaKristu, abantwana abakhuliswanga ngeLizwi likaThixo, kodwa kulwazi lwehlabathi, ubulumko, kunye neziphumo. Abantwana abalungiswa ngabazali ngeLizwi likaThixo, kodwa bavunyelwe ukwenza, nantoni na abafuna ukuyenza.
Abazali abaninzi balalanisa kwaye baqubuda kwintando yomntwana. Kuba xa abantwana bengayifumani indlela yabo, baba nomsindo, bancwine, khala, kwaye ukhwaze kwaye ayisiyiyo into efunwa ngabazali.
Hayi, abazali abaninzi baxakekile ngezinye izinto okanye bediniwe xa bebuya emsebenzini kwaye abafuni ukulungisa umntwana ongathobeliyo. Bafuna ukuba noxolo nokuzola.
Yaye ngoko basebenzisa umabonwakude ukonwabisa abantwana babo nokubagcina bexakekile yaye bezolile. Nangona kunjalo, amaxesha amaninzi abazali abayazi into ejongwa ngabantwana babo nokuba kwenzeka ntoni kwabo ‘bamsulwa’ iinkqubo zabantwana. Kodwa uninzi lwabazali alukhathali, abantwana babo bathi cwaka.
Ngaba ukukhulisa abantwana kwisitayile sasimahla kulungile ebantwaneni?
Abazali babavumela abantwana babo ukuba benze izinto ngendlela yabo baze babavumele ukuba bagqibe ngoko bafuna ukukwenza ukuze bahlale banelisekile. Le yeyona ndlela ilula yokukhulisa umntwana. Ngaloo ndlela umntwana akanakuze akhombe abazali ngomnwe aze asole abazali ngendlela abakhuliswe ngayo.
Abazali abaninzi bakhetha ukukhulisa abantwana babo ngendlela ekhululekileyo kuba bekholelwa kubuxoki behlabathi.
Bayakholelwa, ukuba esi simbo sasimahla yeyona ndlela yokukhulisa umntwana. Ngokuba isayensi (abafundisi, Iingcali zengqondo) utsho njalo.
Bacinga ukuba kulungile ukuba abantwana bazenzele izigqibo. Kodwa abantwana kwiminyaka yobudala 4, 8, 10, okanye 12, abakwazi kuzenzela izigqibo.
Endaweni yokubona iziphumo ezincumisayo kunye neziqhamo ezihle zolu hlobo lwentlawulo, sibona okwahlukileyo.
Sibona ukuhla kwemilinganiselo yokuziphatha nokwanda kwemvukelo (kubazali, ootitshala, usapho, ootitshala, okusingqongileyo, kunye nabasemagunyeni), inkohlakalo, ukungathobeli, ukungabi nantlonipho, ikratshi, nokuzingca. Kwakhona sibona ukwanda koloyiko, ixhala, uxinzelelo, kunye nokuzibulala.
Umabonwakude unempembelelo enkulu ekukhuleni kwabantwana, ingqondo, ubume bengqondo, kunye nokuziphatha. Yaye ngenxa yokuba abazali abaninzi abayiboni ingozi yokomoya kamabonwakude, abantwana abaninzi baba ngamaxhoba esi sixhobo sibi.
Bafunda ntoni abantwana kumabonakude?
Makhe siqwalasele ingozi yokomoya kamabonwakude ebantwaneni nezinye iinkqubo zokufundisa ezaziwayo zabantwana.
Bafunda ntoni abantwana kuDora?
UDora uthathwa njengenkqubo yokufundisa, ngokuba abantwana bafunda ukubala, funda, babe nolwazi ngokusingqongileyo, njl. Kodwa yintoni enye abantwana abayifundayo kuDora?
Abantwana bafunda ukuhamba kude nekhaya, ncokola ‘nabasemzini’, uhambe nabo. Inkqubo kamabonwakude uDora ufundisa abantwana kwi iminyaka entsha, ukuvumisa ngeenkwenkwezi, nobugqwirha.
Bafunda ntoni abantwana kwiSpongebob Squarepants?
I-Spongebob Squarepants ibonakala imsulwa, kodwa into abaninzi abangayaziyo, kukuba kubonakala kukho imiyalezo yesondo efihliweyo. Kwaye jonga abalinganiswa, abakhangeleka njengezidalwa zeedemon (kwaye abanye bade bathi, umva amalungu angasese).
Bafunda ntoni abantwana kuCalliou?
UCalliou yinkwenkwana eneminyaka emi-4 ubudala, ohlala encwina kwaye ekhala, nokuba abazali bakhe benza ntoni na. Ngokuncwina nokulila ngalo lonke ixesha, UCaliou uhlala efumana indlela yakhe.
UCalliou ngoyena mntu ubalulekileyo kwintsapho kwaye ubonisa ngokucacileyo kulo lonke uchungechunge. Unomona ngodade wabo omncinane yaye usoloko esilwa naye. Kukho ithuba elikhulu lokuba abantwana abancinci kunye nabaqalayo ukuya esikolweni bathathe isimilo sikaCalliou.
Ngaba abahlobo bayathandeka?
Kwaye masingalibali amaqabane, abathabatha ihlabathi. Naphi na apho uya khona, uyazibona ezi zidalwa zeedemon ezityheli, ukuba abantu abaninzi bakufumanisa kumnandi.
Iimini zithandwa kakhulu phakathi kwabantwana, Ulutsha, kunye nabantu abadala abancinci. Bayakonwabela ukubukela iimuvi ezinje nge ‘Despicable Me’, 'Ndiyadelela mna II' (lo mboniso bhanyabhanya ubonakalisa nje usathana needemon zakhe (abalandeli)), kunye 'neMinions'.
Ezimuvi ziqulathe ubundlobongela, umxholo ngesondo, ubugqwirha (ukulalisa ngengqondo), njl..
Yintoni ingozi yeTV yabantwana?
Ingozi kamabonwakude ebantwaneni yeyokuba abantwana bachanabeka kwimikhosi yeedemon. Ngokubukela ezi nkqubo, imimoya engendawo yemvukelo, umsindo, ubugqwirha, ubugqwirha, ukuvumisa, inkanuko, ukungcola kwesondo, ubundlobongela, ukufa, njl. ngena kubomi babantwana.
Ekubeni abantwana bazichaza kumanqanaba okuqala obomi kunye nabanye abalinganiswa, baya kwamkela indlela yokuziphatha yabalinganiswa abaphambili kumabonwakude baze benze ngendlela abenza ngayo. Bacinga ukuba le ndlela yokuziphatha iqhelekile.
Umoya wobugqwirha nobugqwirha
Utsho kangaphi umntwana osaqalayo okanye ongekafiki esikolweni, I-Hocus pocus, uya kuba lisele! Uninzi lwabazali luyifumana le nto intle kwaye ithandeka. Abamkhathazi umntwana wabo xa ethetha loo nto, basenokuhleka kancinci. Kodwa xa umntwana ethetha ngolu hlobo, iphuma kumoya wobugqwirha. Lo moya wobugqwirha ubunokungena kubomi bomntwana ngenkqubo kamabonakude equka ubugqwirha.
Mhlawumbi umntwana ubukele inkqubo okanye imuvi enegqwirha, njengeentsomi Tangled, I-Emperor's Groove entsha, Ikrele Etyeni, I-Snow-white kunye ne-dwarfs ezisixhenxe, Intombazana encinci, Ubuhle bolele (Maleficent), njl.
Iintsomi zichazwa kummandla wendalo njengezingenabungozi kodwa aziyongozi kummandla womoya. Abantwana abathakathayo sele bethakatha.
Akukho ngozi kamabonwakude kuphela ebantwaneni, kodwa kukwakho nengozi kamabonwakude kwabakwishumi elivisayo.
Yintoni ingozi kamabonwakude kwabaselula?
Ingozi kamabonwakude kwabakwishumi elivisayo kukuba bafundiswa umoya weli hlabathi; umoya womchasi-Kristu nobumnyama. Ngokubukela umabonwakude abakwishumi elivisayo bafumana ingqondo yehlabathi baze baphile njengehlabathi ebumnyameni.
Abafikisayo bondla iingqondo zabo ngeenkqubo ezifana nePretty Little Liars, Intombi ehlebayo, 90210, Vampires Diary, IiHathaways ezizisiweyo, Iifilimu zikaHarry Potter, USabrina iGqwirha Elifikisayo, Ngandlela zonke, kunye nobunye ubugqwirha obudumileyo kunye nothotho lwevampire.
Kwaye masingalibali uthotho olufana noGlee. I-Glee ibonakala ngathi luchungechunge oluhle lwezikolo eziphakamileyo ezigcwele iingoma zomculo njl. Kodwa iGlee izele nomxholo wesondo; isondo, ukwenza umfuniselo, ukukopela, isisu, ubufanasini, ubundlobongela, iziyobisi, ulwimi olubi, kwaye nangokunjalo.
Umabonwakude uyichaphazela njani ingqondo nehambo yabantwana?
Umtyholi ufuna ukutshabalalisa uluntu. Ufuna ukulawula nokutshabalalisa iingqondo zabantu, kuquka nabantwana. Uyayazi ukuba ulawula ingqondo, ulawula ubomi. Usathana ubamba abantwana kwiwebhu yakhe embi yobumnyama kuba abantwana likamva.
Enye yeendlela zikasathana kukusebenzisa umabonakude wabantwana. Ngomabonakude, umtyholi uyaphembelela, ingcolisa, kwaye ulawula iingqondo zabantwana.
Ngokunqongophala kolwazi lwabazali malunga nobungozi bukamabonakude, usathana ungcolisa iingqondo zabantwana ngomabonakude.
Umabonwakude ufundisa abantwana ububi, ubumnyama, ubugqwirha, ubugqwirha, iminyaka entsha, ulwaphulo-mthetho, ubundlobongela, ukungcola kwesondo, njl. Baya kwamkela isimilo sikaMtyholi nentando yakhe.
Kwaye kanye njengosathana, abantwana baya kumthiya uThixo, UYesu, noMoya oyiNgcwele. Abantwana baba nemvukelo yaye baya kuyithiya yonke into ebandakanya ubuKristu. Abafuni ukufunda iBhayibhile yaye abafuni ukuya ecaweni.
Kwaye ke abazali basazibuza, kutheni umntwana wabo ezicingela yedwa, kunye nemvukelo kwaye abafuni ukuthobela nokuzithoba kwigunya labo.
Umtyholi akazange afune ukuzithoba kwigunya likaThixo aze amthobele. Sibona into enye isenzeka nakubantwana besi sizukulwana.
Kukho iinketho. Nangona kunjalo, uninzi lwabantwana ludlamkile, phezulu, nemvukelo, abangathobeliyo, ukungabi nantlonipho kwabanye, ukuzingca, ezinobundlobongela, ngokugqithisileyo, amaxoki, njl.
Ngaba umntwana mncinane kakhulu ukuba angayiqonda iBhayibhile nezinto zoBukumkani bukaThixo?
Amaxesha amaninzi abantu bathi umntwana mncinane kakhulu ukuba angayiqonda iBhayibhile, umsebenzi wokuhlangula kaYesu, izinto zoBukumkani bukaThixo, kunye nemfazwe yokomoya. Nje ukuba uthethe ngosathana namandla eedemon abantu bazama ukukumisa bakuthulise. Kaloku xa uthetha ngosathana nobumnyama ungaboyikisa abantwana ubangele uloyiko namaphupha amabi.
Ayisiyonto leyo? Umntwana uvumelekile ukuya bukela izinto ezothusayo kunye nezothusayo kwaye uzibandakanye namandla eedemon angendawo, ubugqwirha, ubugqwirha, umlingo, Izipho, ukufa, vampires, zombies, (ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwesondo) ubundlobongela, imfazwe, ukungcola kwesondo, njl., kodwa umntwana mncinane kakhulu kuYesu Kristu; ILizwi likaThixo kwaye umncinci kakhulu ukuba angabuqonda uBukumkani bukaThixo kunye nemfazwe yokomoya?
Uyayibona indlela ehlekisa ngayo? Ngaba uyayibona le ngqondo iphosakeleyo amaKristu amaninzi adalwe?
Abazali bafanele bakhulise abantwana babo ngeLizwi likaThixo
Ukuba abazali bebenokukhulisa abantwana babo ngeLizwi likaThixo baze bafundise abantwana babo ngeLizwi nangemfazwe yokomoya, kwaye ukuba bangabeka esweni ukuba zeziphi iinkqubo ezibukelwa ngabantwana babo, ngoko iingqondo nokuziphatha kwabantwana bekuya kwahluka kakhulu kuleyo siyibonayo namhlanje.
Ngoko abantwana babeza kuthobela uThixo, abazali, kunye nabasemagunyeni, ngentlonipho, yiba nengqibelelo, ukuthanda, ngokuvumayo, iluncedo, uthobekile, njl.
Wathi uYesu, Ukuhlupheka bantwana abancinci, kwaye ungabaleli, ukuza kum: kuba ubukumkani bamazulu bobabo banjalo (UMateyu 19:14, Phawula 10:14, ULuka 18:16).
Kodwa abazali abaninzi banqande abantwana babo ukuza kuYesu.
Babalela njani abantwana babo ukuba beze kuYesu? Ngokungabakhuliseli eLizwini likaThixo (Ibhayibhile) nangokungabalungisi.
Ukukhulisa umntwana eBhayibhileni akuthethi ukufunda ngokukhawuleza iindinyana ezimbalwa zeBhayibhile emva kwesidlo sangokuhlwa okanye ngaphambi kokuba umntwana aye kulala. Ezi zinto zilungile, kodwa ukukhulisa umntwana eBhayibhileni kuthetha ukufundisa iBhayibhile.
Fundisa umntwana indlela yokuthandaza nendlela yokuphila nokuhamba njengomKristu ozelwe ngokutsha. Bafundise abantwana umahluko phakathi kobukumkani bukaThixo nobukumkani bukaMtyholi. Lo nto, umntwana uya kuphila kwaye enze ngokwelizwi leLizwi, kungabi ngokokutsho kwehlabathi.
Abantwana abakho bancinane kakhulu ukuba bangaqonda iLizwi
Abantwana abakho bancinane kakhulu ukuba bayiqonde iBhayibhile (ILizwi LikaThixo). Nangona kunjalo, abazali bafanele babe ngokomoya yaye bangaguquguquki yaye ‘baphuke’ nentando yomntwana kamsinya nje akuba ezelwe umntwana. Ithetha ukuba, ukuba ungasoloko unikezela kwinto umntwana ayifunayo nayinqwenelayo. Le ndlela, umntwana akayi kuziphakamisa, yiba nekratshi, nokuzicingela, kodwa uthobeke aze abathobe kubazali, kuThixo, kunye neLizwi; UYESU khristu.
Xa abazali bengafundisi umntwana ukuba azithobe kubazali, umntwana angamthobela njani uThixo? Ayinakwenzeka loo nto! Yintoni eza kwenzeka, ukuba baya kudala uThixo wentelekelelo, kunye ne Umfanekiso ngqondweni kaYesu, Engqondweni yabo, kwaye ukhule nalo Yesu wentelekelelo. Yiloo nto esiyibona isenzeka kufutshane nathi: abadala, abadale owakhe uThixo, noYesu wabo ezingqondweni zabo.
Ngoko ke musani ukubalela abantwana ukuba beze kuYesu naseBukumkanini. Ukuba awubangi umntwana wakho kuBukumkani bukaThixo, usathana uya kubanga umntwana wakho ebukumkanini bakhe kwaye atshabalalise umntwana wakho.
Mkhulise umntwana wakho ngeLizwi likaThixo; UYesu. Ukuze umntwana wakho afumane ukumazi, ezithoba kuYe, aze abe lijoni laKhe; Umphumi-mkhosi wakhe wokomoya eBukumkanini bukaThixo.
Musa ukuphulukana nesizukulwana esilandelayo ebumnyameni
Musa ukuphulukana nesizukulwana esilandelayo ebumnyameni, kodwa masibange abantwana ngenxa yobukumkani bukaThixo. Lo nto, baya kuzishumayela iindaba ezilungileyo; iindaba ezilungileyo zikaYesu Krestu nezaKhe umsebenzi wokuhlangula kwaye usasaze ubomi ebantwini, kwaye sindisa imiphefumlo ngenxa yobukumkani bukaThixo.
Musa ukuvumela isizukulwana esitsha silahleke, ngenxa yentuthuzelo, nokuzingca (kuba uxakeke kakhulu nawe, umsebenzi wakho, ubomi bakho bentlalo, Imidiya yokuncokola, njl.), kodwa tyala imali ebantwaneni bakho. Bakhulise abantwana bakho kwaye uchithe ixesha kunye nabo. Baqeqeshe kwaye ubalungise, kwaye ubakhulisele eLizwini nakuMoya, ngenyaniso nangokoyika uYehova.
Ukuba awubangi umntwana wakho(ren) ngenxa yobukumkani bukaThixo, usathana uyakubanga umntwana wakho ebukumkanini bakhe.
‘Yibani yityuwa yehlabathi’
