Wenzani, uma ungumKristu futhi ukholelwa kuJesu Kristu, kodwa owakwakho akakholelwa kuNkulunkulu futhi uyenqaba ukwamukela uJesu njengoMsindisi neNkosi? Wenzani, lapho uhlala nomngane womshado ongakholwa futhi owakwakho akafuni ukuya nawe esontweni, funda iBhayibheli, futhi nikhuleke? Ingabe uzizwa unesizungu emshadweni wakho, ngoba owakwakho akakholwa ngendlela efanayo nawe futhi akavumelani nendlela ofuna ukukhulisa ngayo izingane zakho? Mhlawumbe uzame zonke izinhlobo zezinto ukuze uguqule umngane wakho womshado ongakholwa, njengokusebenzisa izindlela zomkhuleko kumyeni ongakholwa noma izimemezelo, kodwa akusebenzanga futhi manje uyazibuza ukuthi wenzeni. Hhayi-ke, ke lesi sihloko ngeyakho! Thola ukuthi lithini iBhayibheli ngokuhlala nomyeni ongakholwa nokuthi ungaguqula kanjani umngane wakho womshado ongakholwa abe umKristu.
Ingabe uzizwa unesizungu emshadweni wakho?
Lapho wena nomngane wakho womshado ningakholwa okufanayo futhi anikho ezingeni elifanayo, ungaba nesizungu kakhulu emshadweni wakho. Kunabesifazane abaningi abangamaKristu, abashade nongakholwayo.
Abanye besifazane abangamaKristu bashada ngamabomu nomuntu ongakholwa, naphezu kwesixwayiso seZwi likaNkulunkulu. Babecabanga ukuthi bangazuzela uJesu abashade nabo, ngokuphazima kweso, kodwa lokho akwenzekanga. Kukhona nabanye besifazane abangamaKristu, abaguqukayo ngesikhathi beshadile. Futhi kukhona abesifazane, owaganwa yikholwa, kodwa ngesikhathi somshado wabo, umyeni wabo walushiya ukholo.
Kodwa wenzani, kulezi zimo? Ingabe uhlala unesineke futhi uthembekile kumngane wakho womshado ongakholwa? Noma ucikwa yisona sonke lesi simo bese uphuma esivumelwaneni somshado nesehlukaniso?
Ingabe akhona amasu omthandazo asebenzayo okuguqula owakwakho ongakholwa?
Ziningi izintshumayelo nezincwadi zobuKristu mayelana amasu omthandazo ngokuhlanganiswa ne ukuvuza ukuguqulwa kwabantu. AmaKristu amaningi asebenzisa lamasu nezindlela zomkhuleko ukuze aguqule abashade nabo. Kodwa uma abashade nabo bengaguquki ngemva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa noma iminyaka, bakhungatheke badele. Noma okubi nakakhulu, bayawudela umshado wabo bese bephula isivumelwano sabo somshado.
Lapho amaKristu elahla umshado wawo futhi ephula isivumelwano sawo somshado ngokudivosa, benza ngaphandle kwenyama; ngenxa yobugovu. Abenzi ngokuphuma emoyeni ngokulalela iZwi likaNkulunkulu. Ngoba isehlukaniso akuyona intando kaNkulunkulu futhi ayisoze yaba intando Yakhe. (Funda futhi: ‘Lithini iBhayibheli ngedivosi?‘).
Uma uzizwa ungenathemba futhi uthukuthele mayelana neqiniso lokuthi umyeni wakho ongakholwa akakaphenduki, naphezu kwemithandazo yenu eminingi, Ngithanda ukukukhuthaza ngithi, ukuthi kunendlela eyodwa yokuholela oshade naye ongakholwa kuJesu Kristu ngokweBhayibheli.
Ungamguqula kanjani umngane wakho womshado ongakholwa?
Kunendlela eyodwa yokuguqula owakwakho ongakholwa futhi lokho kungenxa yakho! Yebo, uyifunde kahle, ngawe! Ake sibheke ukuthi iBhayibheli lithini ngomyeni ongakholwa nendlela yokuguqula umngane womshado ongakholwa:
Ngokunjalo, nina bafazi, thobelani amadoda enu; lokho, uba bekhona abangalilaleliyo ilizwi, nabo bangazuzwa ngaphandle kwezwi ngengxoxo yamakhosikazi; Lapho bebona inkambo yenu emsulwa kanye nokwesaba. Ukuhloba kwenu makungabi yilokho kwangaphandle kokweluka izinwele, nelokwembatha igolide, loba lokwembatha; Kodwa makube ngumuntu wenhliziyo ocashile, kulokho okungaboliyo, ngisho umhlobiso womoya omnene nonokuthula, okuyinani elikhulu emehlweni kaNkulunkulu (1 UPetru 3:1-4)
Kubalulekile ukuthi wazise umyeni wakho njengenhloko yomndeni wakho, njengoba uKristu enguye Inhloko yesonto. Ngokuzithoba kwakho kumngane wakho womshado nangokumhlonipha, ngokuziphatha kwakho owakwakho uzozuzwa ngenxa kaJesu Kristu. Yilokho iBhayibheli; kusho iZwi likaNkulunkulu.
“Ungazithoba kanjani kuNkulunkulu,
uma ungakwazi ukuzithoba kumyeni wakho?”
INkosi immisile umuntu, njengenhloko yomndeni. Kodwa ngoba umoya wobufazi (umoya wobumnyama), imithetho ezimpilweni zabesifazane abaningi, abesifazane bavukela abalingani babo. Bafuna ukuba yinhloko yomkhaya futhi benqabe ukuzithoba kwabashade nabo.
Ukuzithoba akusho ukuphathwa njengesigqila nokulawulwa nokuhlukunyezwa (ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo) ngowakwakho. Kodwa ukuzithoba kusho, ukuthi ubona umlingani wakho njengomyeni wakho, njengenhloko yomndeni, nokuthi uyamhlonipha umyeni wakho.
Ungamahluleli umyeni wakho. Ungabeki phansi, ngokumhlekisa noma ngokukhuluma amazwi abhuqayo ngomyeni wakho, ikakhulukazi phambi kwezingane zakho nabanye. Kodwa hlonipha umyeni wakho.
Yazisa umsebenzi womyeni wakho wokunakekela nokondla umndeni wakhe. Ngenkathi umsebenzi wakho uwukunakekela amalungu omndeni wakho. (Funda futhi: Isivumelwano somshado).
Ukhuluma ngokuzithoba, kodwa kuthiwani ngokuhamba kwakhe?
Ingabe uzoguqula umngane wakho womshado ongakholwa, ngamazwi akho? Ngokushumayela kwakho kwansuku zonke, ukulungiswa, kanye nezijeziso? Impendulo ithi cha. Lokhu kuzomxosha umyeni wakho kude ekukholweni.
Okuwukuphela kwendlela yokuguqula umngane wakho womshado ongakholwa iwukuziphatha kwakho; ngendlela yenu yokuphila emsulwa ehambisana nokwesaba okunenhlonipho.
Lapha sinenkinga enkulu ngoba abesifazane abaningi abangamaKristu abasitheli lesi sithelo. Abangane babo bomshado abayiboni indlela yabo yokuphila emsulwa.
Ababoni owesifazane oshintshile, ohamba ngemuva komoya. Kunalokho, babona owesifazane oyisihlubuki, ongamhloniphi umyeni wakhe futhi ongafuni ukulalela nokuzithoba kumyeni wakhe.
Babona umuntu, ofuna ukuphila impilo yakhe, enze intando yakhe futhi ephoqelela intando yakhe kumyeni wakhe nasezinganeni zakhe.
Babona umuntu, ozidlayo, mhlawumbe inhlebo, bakhulume kabi ngabanye, khalaza, ukhololo, njll.
Umngane womshado ongakholwa ubona owesifazane ongashintshile, ophila njengomhlaba, benza imisebenzi efanayo futhi bathele izithelo ezifanayo (ukuphinga, ubufebe, ukungcola, ukuxega, ukukhonza izithombe, ubuthakathi, ukuvukela, inzondo, ukwehluka, ukulingisa, ulaka, ingxabano, iziyaluyalu, amambuka, umona, ukubulala, ukudakwa, izintambo, futhi kanjalo).
Ngakho-ke, umyeni ongakholwa akadonseleki ukuba abe umKristu futhi akhonze uJesu. Umyeni akayiboni inzuzo yokuba umKristu kanye nesidingo sokuphenduka. Ngoba akawuboni umehluko endleleni yokuphila yomKristu nongakholwa.
Ukuphela kwento umyeni ayibonayo ukuthi ihlukile endleleni yakhe yokuphila, ukuthi umngane wakhe womshado okholwayo ufunda iBhayibheli futhi uya esontweni ngamaSonto. Kodwa yilokho. (Funda futhi: Uma amaKrestu ephila njengezwe kumele izwe liphenduke ngani?).
Uma nje, njengoba ungeke ushintshe,
owakwakho naye ngeke ashintshe
Uma wenza lokho iZwi elikushoyo ukuthi ukwenze futhi uzithoba eZwini futhi uqale ukuhlonipha umyeni wakho, esikhundleni sokulawula umyeni wakho nokubhekana nomyeni wakho ngaso sonke isikhathi ngamaphutha akhe, ukushiyeka, namaphutha, khona-ke isimo sizoshintsha.
Kuzoba khona ushintsho ngoba usushintshile.
Lapho wenza okushiwo iBhayibheli futhi uthela izithelo zikaMoya, okusho ukuthi uthando, injabulo, ukuthula, ukubekezela, ubumnene, ukulunga, ukholo, ubumnene, futhi ukugxila, umyeni wakho uzolubona ushintsho kuwe. Ngale ndlela, uyakuzuzela uKristu umyeni wakho.
Ungaguquleli owakwakho ongakholwa ngamazwi akho, kodwa ngezenzo zakho
IBhayibheli lithi, ukuze ungazuzi indoda yakho engakholwayo ngamazwi akho amanengi, kodwa ngezenzo zakho.
Lapho umyeni wakho ongakholwa ebona umoya wakho omnene futhi onokuthula futhi ebona isithelo sikaMoya, khona-ke ngeke kube yinde, ngaphambi kokuba umyeni wakho ongakholwayo anikele ukuphila kwakhe kuJesu Kristu.
Kuthatha isikhathi eside kangakanani? Akekho owaziyo, kodwa kuzokwenzeka ngoba iBhayibheli lisho njalo. Futhi siyazi ukuthi iBhayibheli; i IZwi likaNkulunkulu liyiqiniso. Ngakho-ke uma ufuna ukuguqula owakwakho ongakholwa, Iba nesineke, thobela iZwi, futhi wenze lokho iBhayibheli elikutshela ukuba ukwenze, ngoba iZwi likaNkulunkulu aliqambi amanga.
‘Yibani usawoti womhlaba’
