Kunezingane eziningi, abangajabule futhi abazi ngempela ukuthi bangobani, futhi uzizwe elahlekile emphakathini. Izingane eziningi zizizwa njengengane elahlekile futhi zicindezelekile futhi azifuni ukuphila futhi. Yize uNkulunkulu aqoke owesilisa nowesifazane; umyeni nomkayo njengabazali futhi baphathise izingane ukuba zinakekele, vikela, imfundiso yokulalela, -fanele, futhi wawakhulisa eNkosini naseZwini lakhe, Bambalwa bamlalela futhi benze lokho uNkulunkulu abaye babayalile ukuba bakwenze. Lo msebenzi obalulekile uNkulunkulu awunikeze kancane kancane ngemuva kwangemuva nabazali banikeze uDeveli ngqo lokho akufunayo, okungukuthi ukuthatha umntwana ukuba athathe ingane yakhe, abhubhise ingane. UDeveli angabulala uhlelo lakhe olubi ngoba abazali abaningi bamatasa kakhulu nabo. Bagxile kubo, amaphupho abo, izifiso, nokuphila, futhi uthole umsebenzi wabo, ukwenza, nemali ebaluleke kakhulu kunokukhulisa ingane yabo(˙). Banquma ukuthi bafuna kanjani ukuphila izimpilo zabo futhi balindele ingane yabo(˙) ukujwayela izidingo zabo. Ngenxa yalokhu kuziphatha, Izingane eziningi zishiywe esiphelweni sazo futhi ziphathiswe abanye ukuba zibakhulise futhi zibakhulise. Kepha abakwazanga ukubuyisela ukufutheka kwangempela kwabazali. Abazali abaningi ababoni ukulimala ekuletheni ingane yabo ukunakekela izingane noma ezinye izikhungo zokunakekela izingane futhi bacabange ukuthi basiza ingane. Ngoba umhlaba usho, Ukuthi kuhle ukuthuthukiswa kwengane namakhono abo emphakathini.
Ukunganaki kwengane
Kunabazali abaningi, abangenalo ulwazi ngeZwi nentando kaNkulunkulu ngakho-ke abaningi bakholelwa lawo manga futhi asebenze kuwo. Ngenxa yalokho, Izingane eziningi zilahlekelwe amakhaya abo ajabule nendawo ephephile. Abaze ekhaya ngemuva kwesikole, Ngenkathi umama wabo ulindele inkomishi yetiye kanye nokudla futhi wazise ngosuku lwabo, ngenkathi belalelisisa kubo.
Emindenini eminingi, Ingane isivele iphathiselwe abanye ngemuva kwamasonto ambalwa kuphela ngemuva kokuzalwa, Esikhundleni sokuphakanyiswa futhi wakhuliswa ngabazali. Ingane yaphonswa phansi; ekunakekelweni kwengane, isikhwebu lomntwana, Umkhulu nogogo, Umalume kanye nomalume, Umakhelwane, njll. Ngenxa yalokho, Ingane ayikhuli futhi ayizithuthukise emvelweni yokuphila ephephile ephephile futhi ayifundi ukunamathela ngokwakhe. Abazali abanakho ukuqonda ngendlela ingane yabo ephakanyiswe ngayo futhi kwezinye izimo, baze balahlekelwe yingane yabo.
Ubungacabanga, ukuthi uma ingane itholwa ekugcineni kosuku ngomunye wabazali futhi iza ekhaya, Umzali uyakujabulela ukubona ingane futhi anake ingane edingekayo enganeni. Ngeshwa, Lokhu akunjalo njalo. Ngoba kaningi umzali ukhathele umsebenzi wakhe futhi akhathele kakhulu ukulalela futhi anikeze ingane edingekayo enganeni. Ukuyeke ukudlala nengane. Izikhathi eziningi umzali adinga ukulungiselela isidlo sakusihlwa. Lapho lokhu kunjalo, Umzali akakwazi ukuphazamiseka. Ngakho-ke emindenini eminingi, i umabonakude, iphilisi, noma (ukugembula)ikhompiyutha ivuliwe, ukuze ingane ijabuliswe, ngenkathi umzali engenza lokho (s)Ufuna ukukwenza kukho konke ukuthula nokuthula.
Bese kubazali abaningi basazibuza, Okwenza Izingane Zazo Zimatasa Kangaka, ngezwi elikhulu, ukuphindisela, -ngenampilo, -vukelayo, futhi ukungalaleli futhi ungabalaleli.
Kepha uma abazali bengabeki isibonelo esihle sengane yabo(˙) futhi bamatasa kakhulu nabo futhi bangazinikeli isikhathi sokulalela ingane yabo, Ingane kufanele ifunde kanjani ukulalela? Uma ingane inikezwa futhi iphathiswe abanye, Ngabe ingane izozizwa ifuneka futhi iyathandwa? Ngabe ingane ifunda kanjani ukuzola nokunamathela futhi ithembeke, Lapho ingane ingakhuli futhi yathuthukiswa endaweni yayo yokuphila ephephile kodwa yaphonswa phezulu? Uma owesilisa nowesifazane babheka ezabo izimpilo zabo, umsebenzi okhethiweyo wokuziphilisa, nemali ebaluleke kakhulu kunokukhulisa izingane zabo, Kungani benquma ukuba nezingane noma kunjalo?
Ingane kungenzeka ingabe isaseyingane
Qeqesha ingane ngendlela okufanele ihambe ngayo: futhi lapho esemdala, Ngeke asuke kuwo (Izaga 22:6)
Emphakathini wethu, Ingane kungenzeka ingabe isaseyingane kepha iphathwa njengomuntu okhulile futhi obekulindelwe kusukela esemncane ukuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo, enza, futhi wenze izinqumo. Kepha ingane esevele ikwazi ukwenza izinqumo ezifanele?
Abazali abaningi bamatasa kakhulu nabo futhi ngenxa yalokho abanaleli ingane yabo(˙), ngakho-ke izinto eziningi, ezingalungile ukuthi ingane iyabekezelelwa. Ngokuvamile abazali abazi ukuthi ingane yabo yenzani, yiziphi izinto ingane yazo ezihilelekile nayo, Futhi ingane yabo idlala naye kuye. Ukuze uvikele izingxabano nokulwa, Banikeza ingane yabo yonke inkululeko yokwenza lokho ingane efuna ukukwenza. Ngokubanika inkululeko yabo abazali bangaphila impilo yabo, futhi wenze lokho abafuna ukukwenza. Esikhundleni sokubeka intando yabo nokuphila kwabo eceleni nokutshala ingane yabo.
Ukungabikho kwegunya labazali
Ngaphezu kwalokho sinobaba benyama yethu eyasilungisa, futhi sabanikela inhlonipho: Ngeke yini sizithobe kuYise wemimoya, futhi uphile? Ngoba impela izinsuku ezimbalwa zasichitha nenjabulo yabo; kodwa yena ngenzuzo yethu, ukuze sihlanganyele ubungcwele bakhe. Manje akukho ukujeziswa okwamanje okubonakala kujabulise, kodwa kube kubi: Noma kunjalo emva kwalokho kuveza isithelo sokuthula sokulunga kubo abaye basebenza ngalokho (IsiHebheru 12:9-11)
Emindenini eminingi, Igunya labazali alikho futhi ingane ayifundiswa nsuku zonke eZwini nasezintweni zoMbuso kaNkulunkulu, Kepha ingane iyazondla ngezinto zalo mhlaba. Abazali abajezisi futhi balungisa ingane yabo, Kepha ingane yabo mayibe nendlela yakhe. Ngenxa yokuthi ingane ayibheki kubazali futhi ayibaniki inhlonipho.
Izingane, Lalelani abazali bakho eNkosini: ngoba lokhu kulungile. Hlonipha uyihlo nonyoko; (okuwumyalo wokuqala onesithembiso;) Ukuthi kungenzeka kube kuhle kuwe, Futhi uyophila isikhathi eside emhlabeni (AbaseKolose 3:20)
Abazali abaningi bafuna ukugcina impilo, ababenakho ngaphambi kokuba bashade. Futhi yingakho abazali abaningi bengavuthi ngokuphelele futhi bathathe umthwalo wokuphakamisa futhi bahlakulele ingane yabo. Kunalokho, bafuna ukuhlala bemncane kuze kube phakade, ube nesikhathi esimnandi, futhi wachitha umthwalo wabo kwabanye. Emindenini eminingi, Abazali abasababazali, ophakamisa, khulisa, nakekela, vikela, -fanele, futhi ujezise ingane, kepha kufana nomngane, ofuna ukuthandwa futhi wamukelwa yingane. Babeka ingane yabo esisekelweni futhi 'bagoqwe’ kwintando yabo yokugcina ingane yaneliseke nokuqukethwe, Esikhundleni sokuqondisa ingane nokulungisa indlela abaziphatha ngayo. Kodwa iZwi liyasho, ukuthi uma ungajezisi futhi ulungile (xaka) Ingane Yakho, Awuthandi ingane (Umhlaba 13:24; 29:15; 29:17)
Ingane idinga imingcele kanye nokuqondisa abavela kubazali bayo futhi idinga ukuqondiswa futhi kulungiswe. Uma lokhu kuntuleka empilweni yengane ukwedlula ingane iba nobugovu, -zidlayo, ozihlwini, -vukelayo, futhi ungahloniphi abazali. Ingane ayiyikulalela abazali ezintweni zonke futhi bengasabi (Ukuba nokwesaba) abazali, Ngakho-ke ingane ayiyikuwahlonipha, Njengoba iZwi liyala (Kwabase-Efesu 6:1-3, AbaseKolose 3:20, Eksodusi 20:12). Uma bengalaleli futhi badumise abazali, Ngabe ingane izokwazi kanjani ukulalela uNkulunkulu ezintweni zonke futhi idumise? Futhi akukhona konke, Ngoba lokhu kuziphatha kudala ukuthi ingane ibe umcibisholo ongathandeki emphakathini futhi ngeke ikwazi noma ikwazi ukuguqula futhi ithumele kwabanye. Le nto isivele yenzeka ngabathola iziqu, abangalindele ukuqala phansi kwenkampani kepha esigabeni esiphezulu.
Abanye abazali banxephezela ngokungabikho kwabo ngokulimaza ingane nazo zonke izinhlobo zezipho, Getaways, namaholide. Banikeza ingane konke (s)ufuna, Ngaphandle kwazo. Kepha ngalokhu kuziphatha, bazokwenza izinto zibe zimbi kakhulu, Ngoba ingane izophangwa futhi thanda abazali kuphela ngezipho abayithola hhayi ukuthi bangobani. Lapho ingane iba umuntu omdala, (s)uzovakashela noma abize abazali bakhe lapho (s)Udinga okuthile hhayi ngoba (s)uyabathanda futhi ufuna ukuchitha isikhathi nabo. Cha, (s)Kungcono achithe isikhathi nabangane, kunokuba nomndeni. Ngoba bakwabaphi abazali, Lapho ingane ibadinga?
Umphumela wesehlukaniso ezinganeni
Futhi masingakhohlwa umphumela wesehlukaniso empilweni yengane. Isehlukaniso akugcini nje kuphela kubantu abangakholwayo kodwa naphakathi kwamakholwa. Amakholwa amaningi aphula isivumelwano sawo somshado futhi afake isehlukaniso sesehlukaniso. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi amakholwa amaningi ahlala e-carnal futhi aphile njengomhlaba, ngakho-ke baholwa yimimoya yezwe.
Lapho abazali bethola isehlukaniso, Ingane ivame ukuzizwa inecala ngoba ingane ivame ukucabanga lokho (s)Unesibopho sesehlukaniso. Ingane kufanele ibhekane nayo futhi ithole indlela yokubhekana nayo. Lokhu cishe akunakwenzeka, Ngoba manje ingane ayisenayo ikhaya eliphephile elinomama nobaba, kepha uyakuphila emindenini eyodwa noma emibili ephukile.
Ngokuvamile abazali bacabanga ukuthi izingane zabo zingasingatha lesi simo ngokuba nengxoxo enhle. Kodwa izikhathi eziningi, Ingane ayibonisi futhi yabelane ngayo imizwa yangempela yangempela futhi ibalekile.
Ingane ikhiya ngokwakhe egumbini lakhe futhi izama ukuphunyula ngokoqobo ngokoqobo Izincwadi Zokufunda, Ukubuka ithelevishini, Ukudlala imidlalo, Ukulalela umculo, kanye nokuchitha isikhathi kukhompyutha noma kwabezindaba zenhlalo. Ingane ingakwazi ukuyiphonsela yona uqobo emhlabeni wayo odalisayo futhi yaze yakha ama-alters ukuze abalekele okungokoqobo futhi abhekane nalesi simo. Ngokwenza lezi zinto, Izingane eziningi zingenisa umbuso wobumnyama futhi zisendleleni eya kwalasha
Ukuzibulala phakathi kwezingane
Ngenxa yokuthi izingane eziningi azijabuli futhi zinelisekile kepha zizizwa zilahlekile emndenini wazo, esikoleni noma emphakathini. Abazizwa befunwa, -nenzekile, futhi kuqondakala, Kepha bazizwa benqatshiwe, kungabonakali futhi kulahlekile. Bahlushwa imizwa yokudangala elawula izimpilo zabo. Izikhathi eziningi le mizwa yokudangala inamandla kangangokuba izingane azifuni ukuphila, kepha balangazelela ukufa. Yingoba le mizwa yokudangala ivela embusweni wobumnyama, lapho kubusa khona ukufa. Lapho ukufa kubiza, bayakulalela baqede izimpilo zabo.
Indlela le mimoya engcolile engombusweni ubumnyama iye yangena kanjani empilweni yengane, -kanandaba. Ngoba kunamasango amaningi lapho le mimoya emibi ingangena kuyo impilo. Babengangena ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa uma abazali bebandakanyeke imikhuba noma bathuke ingane ngoba ukukhulelwa bekungahlelwanga. Babengangena ngenkathi bekhula, ngokungabikho kwabazali babo, Ukushoda kwanganakwa, ukubandakanyeka nemimoya emibi ngokusebenzisa (social) abezindaba; umabonakude, izincwadi, amageyimu evidiyo, umculo, amathoyizi, Imidlalo Yemilingo, a isehlukaniso, Ukuxhashazwa esikoleni, Ukuhlukumeza ngokocansi noma ngokomzimba njll.. Kungaba nezimbangela eziningi kakhulu.
Kepha embusweni kaNkulunkulu, Awufuni imbangela futhi bamba esikhathini esedlule, Kepha uza nesixazululo. Awusebenzi enyameni, njengomhlaba, Ngokusebenzisa zonke izinhlobo zokwelapha nemithi, Kepha uyaphuma emoyeni. Esimweni esinjalo, Uyala lo moya ongcolile wokufa ukuze ushiye ingane ku Igama likaJesu; egunyeni Lakhe.
Lapho ingane ilethwa ekufeni kubalulekile ukukhulisa ingane eZwini nasezintweni zoMbuso kaNkulunkulu.
Ukukhulisa Ingane Ezwini LikaNkulunkulu
Uyakuthanda uJehova uNkulunkulu wakho ngayo yonke inhliziyo yakho, langomphefumulo wakho wonke, Futhi ngamandla akho onke. Nalawa mazwi, engikuyala ngalo lolu suku, Kuzoba senhliziyo yakho: Uyakubafundisa ngenkuthalo ezinganeni zakho, Futhi ukhulume ngabo lapho uceba endlini yakho, futhi lapho uhamba ngendlela, futhi lapho uthamba phansi, Futhi lapho uqala phezulu. Uzakubabopha ngesibonakaliso esandleni sakho, bayoba ngamakhompiyutha phakathi kwamehlo akho. Uyakubhala ezinsikeni zendlu yakho, emasangweni akho (Duteronomi 6:5-9)
UNkulunkulu uphathise izingane kubazali, ukubakhulisa futhi bawafundise ukwesaba uJehova. Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele uthuthukise ukwesaba njengokwesaba uNkulunkulu ukuze ingane yakho isamese. Futhi akusho ukuthi kufanele ubeke enganeni yakho nazo zonke izinhlobo zemithetho yezomthetho etholakala enyameni. Njengasezinsukwini zakudala kwenzeka, futhi kwaholela ekuhlubukeni okuvela kuNkulunkulu.
Kepha ukukhulisa ingane yakho ngokwesaba iNkosi kusho ukuthi uyaphakamisa futhi ufundise ingane yakho eZwini noMoya futhi uzenze bajwayelane noNkulunkulu nokuthi wenzeni futhi bahlakulele ukwesaba ngokuthi uNkulunkulu.
Wenza bajwayelane futhi bajwayelene noMbuso kaNkulunkulu nentando yakhe futhi bafunde umntwana umehluko phakathi kombuso kaNkulunkulu nombuso wobumnyama ukuze ingane ithuthukise ukuqonda ngokomoya.
Ufakaza ngezimangaliso zikaNkulunkulu empilweni yakho futhi uzikhombise ubukhulu bakhe nokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba yikho ehlezi kuKristu nokuhamba kuye. Awuyikufihla imisebenzi kaDeveli, Kepha bazenzele ingane, ukuze ingane ixwayiswe. Khumbula, ukuthi ukholo luyimpilo okufanele uphile. Ngokuchitha isikhathi nengane yakho eZwini likaNkulunkulu esikhundleni sokubeka ingane yakho ngemuva kwethelevishini noma ikhompyutha, Ingane izokwazi igama (Funda futhi: “Vumela izingane ukuthi zize kimi, Ungabenqabeli”).
Abazali bayizibonelo zezingane
Bobabili abazali bayadingeka ukukhulisa ingane. Umama kufanele anakekele futhi akhulise ingane, Ngenkathi uBaba kufanele ajezise futhi alungise ingane futhi alethe umntwana ekufunweni nasekuhlelweni kweNkosi. Ubaba akufanele adumaze ingane ngokuvusa ingane ngentukuthelo (ulaka), Isibonelo ngokunciphisa ingane futhi ukhulume amagama amabi (Kwabase-Efesu 6:4, AbaseKolose 3:21).
Izimpilo zabazali kanye nezibonelo zabo zibalulekile ekukhuliseni ingane. Ngoba izingane eziningi zibheka izimpilo kanye nokuziphatha kwabazali babo, Futhi uma bephila impilo eqondisiwe lapho amazwi abo ahlangana khona nezenzo zawo.
Ngoba uma ufundisa ingane yakho ingaqambi amanga, Kepha uqamba amanga, Isibonelo lapho umuntu ebiza futhi ingane yakho ithatha ifoni, Futhi uthi enganeni "tshela umuntu ukuthi angikho lapha", uqamba amanga futhi uzolahlekelwa ukuthembeka kwakho. Akufanele umangale lapho ingane yakho ingakwethembi ngokuphelele noma lapho ingane yakho ikopisha ukusebenza kwakho futhi ingu. Kodwa Ukuqamba amanga akunandawo Empilweni yekholwa elibhalwe kabusha.
Okufanayo kusebenza ekudumiseni abazali bakho. Lapho ufundisa ingane yakho ukuba inhlonipho yabazali futhi ibahloniphe, Kepha inhlebo ngawe futhi ukhulume okubi kwabazali bakho (abasemzin), Lokhu kunemiphumela enjani enganeni?
Ungummeleli wombuso kaNkulunkulu nesibonelo sengane yakho ngoba ekubona futhi ungamboni uNkulunkulu (okwamanje). Uma ufundisa ingane eZwini kodwa ungalaleli amazwi kaNkulunkulu futhi ungakwenzi lokho okufundisayo ingane yakho, Lapho-ke iBhayibheli likubiza ngokuthi ungumzenzisi (Mat 23:3, Mar 7:6-7, Uthayela 1:16). Uma ungenzi okushoyo, Umntwana kufanele akholelwe futhi athembele kanjani kuNkulunkulu futhi enze lokho akushoyo eZwini lakhe? Njengoba kusho ngaphambili, Ungummeleli kaNkulunkulu futhi njengoJesu wayefana, futhi kusenjalo, Ukuboniswa kukaYise, Kufanele futhi ube yinkomba yakhe.
Yonke ingane ihlukile
Umhlaba usebenzisa incwadi yokukhulisa izingane, okudalwe yi.o. Izazi zezenhlalo, ama-pedagogues nengane ochwepheshe bezengqondo kanye nezengqondo. Baqokwa emhlabeni nangokomhlaba, banolwazi nokuhlakanipha okusiza nokuqondisa izingane futhi bacebisa abazali futhi banikeze amathuluzi okukhulisa ingane yabo(˙).
UNkulunkulu unaye futhi Umsebenzi wezandla; Ibhayibheli. Kepha le ncwajana ihlukumeza kule ncwadi, ukuthi umhlaba usetshenziswa, bese usho okuphambene nalokho okushiwo yizwe. Kepha uma ukholelwa eZwini, Lapho-ke uyakulalela iZwi futhi usebenzise izwi empilweni yakho nasekuphileni kwengane yakho.
Yonke imibhalo iphefumulelwe nguNkulunkulu, futhi inenzuzo yokufundisa, ngokusola, ukuze kulungiswe, ukuze kufundiswe ekulungeni: Ukuze umuntu kaNkulunkulu aphelele, ifakwe kahle kuyo yonke imisebenzi emihle (2 UThim 3:16)
INkosi izokufundisa nsuku zonke futhi ikuqondise eZwini lakhe nakulolo lwaKhe, okudingeka ukhulise ingane yakho. Uzokukhuthaza futhi akunikeze ezwini lakhe nakuMoya ukuqonda okudingayo. Ungacela abanye ngezeluleko noma babhekane nomhlaba, Kepha uYihlo osezulwini, Ngubani umenzi wengane yakho, uzokunikeza iseluleko esihle kunazo zonke. Uyazi kahle ukuthi ingane yakho ikudinga futhi ikuveze futhi ikuvezeleni izinto ezifihliwe ngamehlo akho. Kungakho kubalulekile ukuchitha isikhathi naye eZwini futhi emthandazweni nsuku zonke futhi uphakamise ingane yakho ebuhlotsheni bakho naye.
Isisulu soDeveli
Njengekholwa azelwe ngokusha, Umelela uMbuso kaNkulunkulu futhi uma uhlala emva komoya, Uyothwala Izithelo Zomoya. Lesi sithelo kufanele sibe khona empilweni yakho futhi senzelwe ukunikela abanye, esimweni esinjalo, enganeni yakho. Ukuze wondle ingane yakho ngokomoya futhi ukhule wazi olwazini lweZwi nasemandleni kaMoya oNgcwele.
Ungakhonondi ngengane yakho, Kepha mbonga iNkosi ngengane yakho futhi ubize lezo zinto ezingafani. Esikhundleni sokusho njalo okubonayo futhi wabelane ngaleyo zwe elikuzungezile.
Thandaza futhi ufune ingane yakho ngombuso kaNkulunkulu futhi ufune umphefumulo wengane yakho. Vikela ingane yakho ethonyeni lomhlaba ngisho nasesikoleni. Ngoba kunezikole ezingamaKristu ezifundisa i-yoga, Amasu Okuzindla, ukuqaphela, nezinye izinto zokusebenzelana futhi zihilelekile nezinye izinkolo. Ngakho-ke uhlale uphapheme futhi uhlanganyele, ukuze wazi kahle ukuthi kwenzekani esikoleni sengane yakho futhi Thatha umele uJesu. Thandazela izikole nothisha bese ubizela lezo zinto okungeyona, futhi ngokwentando kaNkulunkulu, sengathi bakhona.
Njengokristu ozelwe ngokusha ukuthi usempini engokomoya eqhubekayo njalo, Akufanele ukhohlwe lokhu. Kufanele futhi wazi ukuthi ingane yakho iyisisulu soDeveli futhi izokwenza noma yini angayakwazi ukuzonqoba ingane yakho, ukumisa umbuso wakhe emhlabeni. UDeveli usebenzisa zonke izinhlobo zemithombo yezokuzijabulisa, isikole, I-DayCare njll. Ukuze afeze umsebenzi wakhe futhi anqobe isizukulwane esisha.
‘Yibani usawoti womhlaba’
