Izingane, Lalelani abazali bakho ezintweni zonke: ngoba lokhu kuyathandeka kuJehova (AbaseKolose 3:20)
indima yezingane emndenini
Ku isihloko esandulele, kwaxoxwa ngendima yendoda nomfazi emshadweni. Kulesi sihloko, kuzoxoxwa ngendima yezingane emkhayeni. Ngoba izingane nazo zinendima emkhayeni. Izingane zingaphansi kwabazali bazo’ igunya futhi kufanele bathobele abazali babo.
Kuyintando kaNkulunkulu ukuba abantwana bazithobe kubazali babo, bahloniphe abazali babo, futhi balalele abazali babo ezintweni zonke. Ngakho-ke, kuyathandeka eNkosini lapho abantwana belalela abazali babo ezintweni zonke,
Ukuhlonipha ubaba nomama kwase kuvele a Umyalo KaNkulunkulu esivumelwaneni esiDala.
Kwakungumlayo wokuqala onesithembiso.
Uma izingane zihlonipha abazali bazo, izinsuku zabo zaziyoba zinde ezweni uJehova uNkulunkulu wabo ayeyobanika lona (Eksodusi 20:12)
Lo myalo usasebenza eSivumelwaneni Esisha.
Uma abantwana belalela abazali babo futhi ngokulalela kwabo bahloniphe abazali babo, kuyobahambela kahle futhi bayohlala isikhathi eside emhlabeni.
Izingane, Lalelani abazali bakho eNkosini: ngoba lokhu kulungile. Hlonipha uyihlo nonyoko; okungumlayo wokuqala onesithembiso; ukuze kube kuhle kuwe, Futhi uyophila isikhathi eside emhlabeni (Kwabase-Efesu 6:1-2)
Yonke ingane izalelwa esonweni inemvelo yesono
Yonke ingane izalelwa esonweni inemvelo yesono (Amahubo 51:5). Lolu hlobo luyazidla futhi luyadlubulunda futhi ngeke luzithobe kwabanye kodwa lufuna ukubusa nokubusa.. Lokhu sekuvele kubonakale ekuzalweni.
Into yokuqala eyenziwa umntwana lapho umntwana ekhishwa esibelethweni sikanina (nendawo ephephile) ukukhala.
Ingane kufanele ivumelane nokushintsha kwendawo futhi ayikuthandi lokho, ebonakala ngokukhala futhi (kamuva futhi) ukwenqaba ukwenza lokho umntwana ayalwe ukuba akwenze, njengokudla nokulala.
Kusukela ekuzalweni, kubalulekile ukuthi ubaba nomama bangaholwa imizwa nemizwa yabo kanye nobuhle bengane yabo, kodwa bathathe izinto ngokungathi sína futhi bangaguquguquki futhi bakhulise ingane yabo esikhundleni nendima yabo njengomzali nomnakekeli wengane yabo kanye nolwazi nokuhlakanipha kweZwi likaNkulunkulu.
Abazali banikezwe uNkulunkulu umthwalo wemfanelo wokunakekela izingane zabo nokuvikela, nibafundise futhi nibakhulise babe ngabasha ngokomoya nangokwemvelo ekwesabeni iNkosi (ukumesaba okukhulu uNkulunkulu).
Isimo sengqondo, ukuziphatha, nempilo yabazali
Ekukhuliseni izingane, abazali’ isimo sengqondo, ukuziphatha, nokuphila kunendima ebalulekile. Abazali bayisibonelo ezinganeni zabo. Abazali babonisa izingane zabo ukuthi ukuzithoba nokulalela kusho ukuthini ngokuzithoba kanye ukulalela uNkulunkulu nendlela abaphatha ngayo abazali babo
Bakhuluma kanjani ngoBaba noJesu, futhi benza lokho Akushoyo? Bakhuluma kanjani ngabazali babo bengekho?
Izingane ziyabuka, lalela, futhi bagcine lokho abakuzwayo nabakubonayo ezingqondweni zabo futhi bathathe abazali babo’ amazwi nokuziphatha. Izingane zilingisa amazwi nokuziphatha kwazo, nokho, abahlukaniseli okuhle nokubi.
Uma izingane zibona izenzo zokuhlubuka kubazali bazo futhi zingakwenzi okulotshwe eBhayibhelini noma ziphathe abazali bazo ngendlela engafanele futhi zikhulume kabi ngabo., bese izingane zikopela lokhu kuziphatha, ecabanga ukuthi kulungile ukwenza.
Uma abazali bengaphili kahle, akufanele balindele ukuthi izingane zabo ziphile kahle.
Ekabani intando enamandla: intando yomzali noma yengane?
Cishe yonke ingane inentando eqinile efuna ukubusa emndenini. Kungumsebenzi womzali ‘ukwephula’ le ntando futhi ayenze ibe ngaphansi kwentando yabazali.
Akukhona ngalokho okufunwa ngumntwana kodwa okufunwa abazali.
Abazali (I-WHO thanda uNkulunkulu futhi ulalele uKristu futhi uhambe ezindleleni zeNkosi) babe nezinhloso ezinhle nezingane zabo.
Banolwazi futhi bayakwazi okuhle nokubi kubantwana babo.
Izingane azikabi nalo lolu lwazi nokuqonda, kodwa balawulwa yinyama yabo (izinzwa, imizwa, nemizwelo). Ngakho-ke, izingane kufanele zithembele kubazali bazo futhi zithembele kubazali bazo’ ulwazi nokuhlakanipha.
Uma izingane zithemba abazali bazo, bayozilalela.
Ngakho-ke, njengabazali, kubalulekile ukukhombisa izingane zakho ukuthi uyazithanda futhi uzinakekele ngezenzo zakho esikhundleni sokusho nje.
Izingane zikufunda kanjani ukuzithoba nokulalela uNkulunkulu?
Ukuzithoba nokulalela uNkulunkulu kakade kuqala kusukela ekuqaleni ukukhuliswa. Cizingane zifunda ukungenzi intando yazo futhi zihlale zifuna indlela yazo, kodwa ukwenza intando yabazali. Uma izingane zifunda lokhu futhi zenze lokhu, bazokwazi ukuzithoba kuNkulunkulu futhi yenza intando kaNkulunkulu Emhlabeni.
Uma izingane zingakufundi lokhu futhi abazali bengazikhulisi izingane zabo ngendlela efanele kodwa bazinikele entandweni yabo futhi bavumele izingane zabo zenze ngendlela yazo futhi zizenzele ezazo izinqumo., ukubajabulisa nokushweleza futhi kuvinjwe izingxoxo nokulwa ekhaya, lapho-ke izingane ngeke zikwazi ukuzithoba kwabanye (kuhlanganise noNkulunkulu nezinye iziphathimandla) futhi ubalalele.
Bayoba ngabazigqajayo nabavukelayo futhi bangavumeli noma yimuphi omunye umuntu noma igunya ukuba libatshele okufanele bakwenze. Bazokwenza intando yabo kuphela futhi baqhube intando yabo kwabanye futhi balindele ukuthi bazithobe kubo, njengoba kwenza abazali babo.
I-Pedagogy iphikisana ngokuphelele neBhayibheli (IZwi LikaNkulunkulu)
Namuhla siyabona, ukuthi ngokugxambukela kolwazi nokuhlakanipha kwezwe (i-pedagogy, i-psychology kanye nezengqondo), okuwubuwula kuNkulunkulu ngokweBhayibheli futhi kuphambene ngokuphelele neZwi likaNkulunkulu, kanye nomthelela we (social) abezindaba, abantwana bangamahlongandlebe futhi abakwenzi lokho abazali babo abakushoyo nabakufunayo, nalokho uNkulunkulu akushoyo nakufunayo, kodwa bamelene nabazali babo, UNkulunkulu, nezinye iziphathimandla (Oh. 1 AbaseKorinte 3:18-21, 2 UThimothewu 3:1-2).
Umoya wezwe ubusa emikhayeni eminingi
Umoya wezwe, elivela kuSathane futhi lihlala kubantwana bakhe (abantwana bokungalaleli), ibusa emindenini eminingi, kuhlanganise nemikhaya yamaKristu.
Mhlawumbe uyacabanga, Lokho kungase kube yiqiniso, kodwa emndenini wami, usathane akakwazi ukungena. Oh, cha?
Uyazi yini izinhlelo zethelevishini namamuvi izingane zakho zibukele?
Uyazi ukuthi izingane zakho zibukelani kumakhalekhukhwini wazo, I-iPad, noma ikhompuyutha futhi baxhumana nobani?
Futhi uyazi hlobo luni lwemidlalo bayadlala?
Ingabe uyazi hlobo luni lwezincwadi izingane zakho ziyafunda nokuthi zilalela hlobo luni lomculo?
Ezinsukwini zakudala, konke kwakufihliwe, kodwa namuhla, ithonya nokubonakaliswa kwemimoya yamademoni nobumnyama kubonakala ngokucacile kumabonakude (social) abezindaba, imidlalogu Imidlalo, amapaki okuzijabulisa, okunye imithombo yokuzijabulisa, njll.
Njengoba abazali abaningi bematasa kakhulu ngabo kanye nemisebenzi yabo yansuku zonke, bayaphuthelwa yilezi zinto.
Abazali, qaphela izingane zakho
Qaphela ingane yakho futhi unake ingane yakho; yazi ukuthi ingane yakho yenzani. Bambelela eZwini likaNkulunkulu esikhundleni sokuhlakanipha kwenyama nolwazi lwezwe, futhi uyale futhi uqondise ingane yakho uma kudingeka.
Ungakuxwayi ukuxabana, kodwa bhekana nengane yakho, wazi ukuthi yonke into oyenzayo usuke uyithanda futhi uzuzisa ingane yakho futhi ekugcineni uzuzisa ingane yakho.
Ingabe kulula ukukhulisa ingane kulesi sikhathi sesikhathi? Cha, akulula ngoba izwe ligcwele ububi nobumnyama. Kodwa bekulokhu kulula? Cha, ngaso sonke isikhathi kwaba nezinselele zayo.
Kodwa njengabazali, unqume futhi wathatha umthwalo wokuba nezingane nokukhulisa, hlinzeka, futhi ubavikele. Ukukhulisa ingane kuyinselele, kodwa ndawonye njengendoda nomfazi emandleni nasekuhlakanipheni kukaNkulunkulu nangosizo lwaKhe, ungakwena lokhu.
‘Yibani usawoti womhlaba’
