Yini eyabaseKolose 3:18-19 kusho, Amakhosiyo, Zitholeleni kubayeni benu, njengoba kufanele eNkosini. Amadoda, thanda abafazi bakho, futhi ungabi nanzondo kuye?
Indima yenkosikazi nendoda ngaphakathi kwesivumelwano somshado
KwabaseKolose 3:18-19 UPawulu wabhalela abesifazane namadoda ebandla laseKolose ngendima yabo emshadweni. Le ndima yenkosikazi nomyeni esivumelwaneni somshado isasebenza, naphezu kokwanda kokuhlubuka kukaNkulunkulu neZwi lakhe ngemimoya yezwe ekhohlisayo ebandleni nokwanda kobubi emhlabeni..
UNkulunkulu uyafana phakade! Intando kaNkulunkulu nemithetho yoMbuso waKhe kuyomiswa phakade futhi akusoze kwashintsha.
Lokhu kuyasebenza nasesivumelwaneni somshado, UNkulunkulu wasungula phakathi kwendoda eyodwa nowesifazane oyedwa.
IBhayibheli lithi, ukuthi indoda izatshiya uyise lonina inamathele kumkayo, labo ababili bazakuba nyamanye (Oh. Genesis 2:24, Kwabase-Efesu 5:31).
Lokhu kusho ukuthi owesilisa nowesifazane bayoba munye ngesivumelwano abangene kuso omunye nomunye.
Lobu bunye bukhona bokwakha iyunithi; omunye wokukholwa, omunye kaMoya, eyodwa yokuvuma, enze ngokufanayo, nokumela into efanayo.
Njengoba owesilisa nowesifazane bobabili bema emva kukaNkulunkulu phezu kweZwi laKhe, umfazi uzakuma ngemva kwendoda yakhe, lendoda ime ngemva komkayo.
Ukungcolisa nokwephula isivumelwano somshado
Nokho, ukuntuleka kolwazi lweZwi likaNkulunkulu ekuphileni kwamaKristu kanye nokuntuleka kokuziphatha okungokweBhayibheli (izimilo zikaNkulunkulu) futhi ukwehlukana emshadweni kungamasango kasathane namandla obumnyama ukungena angcolise isivumelwano somshado ekugcineni aphule isivumelwano somshado..
Ofcourse kufanele ubhekane nezinhlamvu ezimbili ezahlukene emshadweni, okungase kushayisane, kodwa lokho kujwayelekile.
Akufanele ushade nomuntu ngenhloso yokuguqula omunye umuntu enze intando yakho uma usushadile. Akufanele usebenzise futhi uphoqe omunye umuntu ukuthi enze intando yakho emshadweni
Ngemva kwakho konke, akuseyona intando yakho, kodwa intando kaKristu.
Uzelwe kabusha kuKristu futhi wangena esivumelwaneni noNkulunkulu, lapho, ngaphandle kwefa elikuKristu, uyadingeka futhi ukuthi ufeze izibopho zakho nezibopho zakho.
UPawulu noPetru baqhathanisa isivumelwano somshado nesivumelwano sikaJesu Kristu (ikhanda) kanye neBandla (Umzimba wakhe). Bazama ukucacisa indima nokubambisana kwenkosikazi nomyeni emshadweni.
Endaweni yomoya, akukho mehluko phakathi kowesilisa nowesifazane, kodwa emshadweni, UNkulunkulu ubeke izindima zendoda nomfazi. Indima yekhanda inikezwa indoda futhi indima yomzimba inikezwa umfazi (Oh. KwabaseGalathiya 3:28, 1 AbaseKorinte 11:3, Kwabase-Efesu 5:22-33 futhi 1 UPetru 3:1-7).
Lithini iBhayibheli ngomfazi emshadweni?
Inkosikazi yenza isivumelwano nomyeni wayo phambi kukaNkulunkulu. Wenza isifungo sokuphila ngokuvumelana nalesi sivumelwano kusukela mhla eshada nomyeni wakhe.
Kusukela ngosuku lomshado kuqhubeke, umfazi ngeyakhe indoda. Njengoba nje indoda ingeyomkakhe. Baye bazihlukanisa nabanye abesilisa nabesifazane futhi sebeyimpahla yomunye nomunye, abandawonye banyamanye.
Indoda nomkayo bathembisana ukwethembeka komunye nomunye ebuhleni nasebubini ukuphila kwabo konke. Lokhu kusho isivumelwano sokufa. Kungukufa okuhlukanisa isivumelwano somshado hhayi abantu. Okungenani, kufanele kube njalo nokuthi uNkulunkulu wasimisa kanjani isivumelwano somshado
Umfazi kufanele azithobe kumyeni wakhe
Umfazi kufanele azithobe kumyeni wakhe, njengoba nje lizinikele kuKristu. Lokhu kusho, ukuthi umfazi kufanele athembeke kumyeni wakhe futhi aqaphele umyeni wakhe njengenhloko futhi amlalele, umlalele futhi umhloniphe.
Ngemva kwakho konke, wamkhetha ukuthi abe ngumyeni wakhe. Wangena naye esivumelwaneni somshado. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ngeke aphinde athandane namanye amadoda, kepha uyakuhluka endodeni yakhe.
Angaqomi futhi angaphingi noma aphinge namanye amadoda. Ngeke alulaze, lulaza, agcone noma agcone umyeni wakhe (phambi kwabanye) kanye/noma akhulume kabi ngaye ngemuva kwakhe.
Ingabe umfazi uyayithanda indoda yakhe?
Umfazi angathembeka kumyeni wakhe kuphela futhi amhloniphe futhi amlalele uma ethanda umyeni wakhe.
Kuphela uma inkosikazi imthanda ngempela umyeni wayo, angakwazi yini ukwethembeka kuye futhi amlalele futhi amlalele. Njengoba nje ibandla lingelikaKristu futhi kufanele liMthande ngaphezu kwakho konke futhi limlalele futhi liMlalele.
Futhi njengoba nje uJesu ayethanda uYise, futhi wazinikela kuYe, wamlalela, wamlalela.
Baningi abantu besifazane abashadile, abajabulela ukubuka amanye amadoda futhi baqome futhi/noma balalele amanye amadoda futhi bazithobe kubo ngokwenza abakushoyo, kuyilapho bengabanaki abayeni babo futhi bengabalaleli, ingasaphathwa eyokumlalela.
Kodwa iZwi likaNkulunkulu lithi, ukuba umfazi azithobe endodeni yakhe futhi athembeke endodeni yakhe futhi ayilalele njengoba kufanele eNkosini. Kukunkosikazi ukulalela amazwi kaNkulunkulu noma ukungalaleli amazwi kaNkulunkulu.
Ukuzithoba akusho ukuthi inkosikazi kufanele ivumele umyeni wayo ukuba amsebenzise njengesigqila noma isikhwama sokubhoboza futhi avumele umyeni abuse phezu kwakhe njengomashiqela.. Ngoba kulotshiwe, ukuthi indoda akufanele ithukuthelele umkayo futhi ingamhlukumezi ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba.
Lithini iBhayibheli ngendoda emshadweni?
Indoda kufanele ithande umkayo (hhayi abanye abantu besifazane) futhi ungabi lukhuni futhi umunyu kuye. Umuntu akufanele aziphathe njengomashiqela, oshaya umfazi, noma indoda efuna ucansi endlini.
Cha, inqobo nje uma amadoda elawulwa ukuziqhenya, imizwa yamandla kanye (engalawuleki) intukuthelo (ukufutheka) kanye/noma eqhutshwa ngokuqhubekayo imizwa yocansi yenkanuko, okungenakwaneliswa futhi kuholele ekukhohlakaleni, bangabenyama futhi abakazibethelanga inkanuko yenyama.
Wonke amaKristu azelwe ngokusha afanele nivuselele ingqondo yabo ngamazwi kaNkulunkulu futhi bahambise imizwa yabo eZwini naseMoyeni aka intando kaNkulunkulu.
Emadodeni amaningi ucansi luyinto ebaluleke kakhulu, ngisho emshadweni. Yingakho amadoda amaningi enza ukungcola kobulili futhi aphathe abafazi bawo njengento yokufeza izinkanuko zabo zenyama esikhundleni sokuphatha abafazi bawo njengomuntu onemizwa yangempela., imicabango yakhe ayihambisani nocansi ngaso sonke isikhathi ngakho-ke akazizwa ethanda njalo.
Indoda kufanele ithande umkayo
Indoda kufanele ithembeke kumkayo, imthande futhi imhloniphe. Njengoba nje owesifazane kufanele ethembeke kumyeni wakhe futhi amthande futhi amhloniphe.
Indoda kufanele ihlale nomkayo ngokuqonda, nimdumise njengesitsha esibuthakathaka kakhudlwana, nanjengezindlalifa kanye naye zomusa wokuphila.
Indoda kufanele inakekele umkayo futhi imnakekele futhi imvikele. Kufanele imphathe ngendlela ephatha ngayo owakhe umzimba.
Njengoba uKristu wawuthanda uMzimba Wakhe futhi wazinikela ngenxa yawo ngokubethela intando Yakhe futhi enze intando kaBaba esikhundleni sakhe..
Ngokufanayo indoda kufanele ithande umkayo futhi imcabangele umkayo esikhundleni sokuphoqelela intando nentando yenyama yayo kuye..
Lapho indoda ithanda umkayo ngothando lukaNkulunkulu futhi imphatha ngalolu thando lwaphezulu futhi ingamcasuli futhi imphathe kabi., khona umfazi makahloniphe indoda yakhe. Uyomhlonipha futhi amlalele futhi amlalele.
Uma indoda nomfazi bephathana ngale ndlela, ngokweZwi likaNkulunkulu, futhi siphile ngokukaMoya, akusayikuba khona ahlukanisa. Khona-ke indoda nomkayo bayothandana ngempela futhi bahlale nyamanye baze bahlukaniswe ukufa.
Umshado usho ukubethela intando yakho ukuze ukhonze omunye. Njengoba nje uJesu anikela ngempilo Yakhe uqobo ukwenza intando kaBaba futhi amkhonze. Futhi njengoba nje amaKristu efanele abeke phansi intando yawo ukwenza intando kaJesu bese ulandela, lalela futhi umkhonze.
Izivunguvungu nokuhlasela kukasathane ngesikhathi somshado
Kuyoba nezikhathi ezimnandi nezikhathi ezijabulisayo nezijabulisayo, kodwa futhi kuyoba nezikhathi ezingezinhle neze nezikhathi ezinzima nezidabukisayo phakathi nomshado. Ngoba kuzoba nezivunguvungu!
Ngaphandle kwalokho, udeveli uyokwenza konke okusemandleni akhe ukuze ephule zonke izivumelwano zomshado uNkulunkulu azimisa futhi wazingcwelisa. Futhi uma sibheka ngathi, siyakubona lokho umsebenzi wakhe uphumelele.
Hhayi phakathi kwezivakashi zesonto kuphela kodwa nabefundisi, abadala nabanye abaholi bebandla, okufanele bavuthiwe emoyeni futhi bahambe ngokungcwele ngokukaMoya ngobumsulwa ngokwentando kaNkulunkulu esikhundleni sentando kaNkulunkulu, izinkanuko, lezifiso zenyama yabo.
Umshado ungasinda kanjani ezivunguvungwini nasekuhlaseleni kukasathane?
Umshado ungasinda ezivunguvungwini nasekuhlaseleni kukadeveli uma indoda nomkayo bethanda uNkulunkulu ngaphezu kwakho konke, bazalwa ngokusha kuKristu, phila ngokoMoya, futhi bakhe izimpilo zabo phezu kweDwala.
Lapho sebenakho bakhe izimpilo zabo phezu kweDwala bayoma banqobe izivunguvungu nokuhlasela kobumnyama lutho futhi akekho oyokwazi ukwephula isivumelwano somshado.
Bayohlala bethembekile futhi bagcine isivumelwano somshado singcwele esikhundleni sokusingcolisa.
Nokho, uma indoda nomfazi bengabezwe futhi bethanda izwe futhi bephila ngokwenyama futhi bakhe umshado wabo phezu kwemizwelo, imizwa, kanye nokuhlakanipha nolwazi lwezwe, khona-ke umshado wabo awuyikuma ngaphandle kokuphela kwentambo.
‘Yibani usawoti womhlaba’
