Kaua e whakaaro kino ki tou hoa, kei te noho humarie hoki ia i tou taha (Whakatauki 3:29)
Ka whakahau te Kupu ki a koe, kei whakaaro kino ki tou hoa, ina whakapono tou hoa ki a koe. He aha te tikanga o tēnei? Ahea koe e whakaaro ai i te kino mo tou hoa?? A ko wai to hoa tata? Kia titiro tatou ki nga tauira tirohanga o te oranga o ia ra:
- Ka taea e to hoa tata: ō mātua, ō mātua hūi rānei:
Ina korero koe ki o matua (i roto i te ture) i runga i te waea, i te wa e hui tahi ana koe i te ra whanau, i te wa hararei ranei, ka taea e koe te mahi hoa. Ka taea e koe te korero kupu pai ki a ratou, a ma ratou e whakaaro, e aroha ana koe ki a ratou me te whai hononga pai ki a ratou. Ka whakawhirinaki ratou ki a koe, na te ahua o to mahi, i a koe e karapoti ana ia ratou. Engari ka whakairihia e koe te waea, ina hoki koe ki te kainga i runga i to motoka, korero kino koe mo ratou. I tenei take, e whakaaro kino ana koe ki o matua, ki o hungawai ranei.
- Ka taea e to hoa tata, to hoa, hoa mohio ranei:
To hoa(s) he mohio ranei(s) whakaaro pea, he hoa pai koe (he mohio ranei), no te mea ka huihui koe ka mahi hoa. Engari ki te kore ratou e tata ki a koe ka kohukohu me te korero kino mo ratou. Ma to arero, e whakaaro kino ana koe ki tou hoa(s) he mohio ranei(s).
- Ka taea e to hoa tata: to hoa mahi(s) to rangatira ranei:
He hoa koe ki a ratou ina hiahia koe ki tetahi mea, i a koe e mahi tahi ana ranei, he tina tahi ranei, engari katahi ano o hoa mahi, ka wehe ranei te rangatira i te ruma, ka korero kino koe mo ia. Ina mahi koe i tera, ka whakaaro kino koe ki to hoa(s) rangatira ranei.
- Ka taea e to hoa tata: to hoa rangatira:
Ka whakawhirinaki to hoa ki a koe, me te whakaaro tera (s)kei a koe ano ia hei whakaora. (S)ka whakaaro ia ko nga mea kei a koe, taunga, me te tiri tahi, noho i waenganui i a korua. Engari i te mea kaore to hoa wahine e mahi i te huarahi e hiahia ana koe kia mahia e ia, aore ra ia ore to hoa faaipoipo e haamâha faahou i ta oe mau titauraa. Haere koe ki to hoa(s) he mohio ranei(s), me te korero mo nga mea kino katoa o to hoa rangatira. Akene ka tohatoha ano koe i nga mea motuhake, me noho tonu tena i waenganui i a koe me to hoa rangatira. Kaore ranei koe i te pono ki to hoa, me te tinihanga ki a ia, ka moepuku. I enei take e rua ka whakaaro koe i te kino ki to hoa rangatira.
He patu to arero, a ko au kupu he pere mura, tera e mamae te tangata. I nga wa katoa ka korero kino koe mo tetahi, ka patua e koe taua tangata ki o kupu. Āe, kanga koe i taua tangata.
Kaore koe e kite i te ao taiao (te ao kitea), engari i te ao wairua, koira te mahi, ina korero kino koe mo tetahi.
Na kaua e whakaaro kino ki a koutou kupu, kaua e waiho hei tangata tinihanga. Kaua e waiho hei kaiwhakaari, hei kaiwhakaari ranei i roto i te ao, kaua hoki e tinihanga ki nga tangata. Engari kia pono, pono me te haere ki roto tapatahi.
'Kia tote mo te whenua’
