Indaba ka-Amnoni noTamari in 2 Samuweli 13 iyisibonelo sendlela uthando olungashesha ngayo luphenduke inzondo. U-Amnoni wayeyindodana kaDavide futhi wayegula ngenxa yothando lukadadewabo uTamari. U-Amnoni wayemthanda ngempela uTamari, kepha u-Amnoni akakwazanga ukulugcwalisa lolo thando. Ngoba lolo thando lwalungavunyelwe. Wayengenakuba noTamari ngakho-ke wayekhathazekile futhi egula ngothando lwakhe ngoTamari. Usuku nosuku, U-Amnoni wagajwa imizwa yakhe futhi akakwazanga ukufeza le mizwa. Kodwa kwabe sekuqhamuka othile emndenini wakhe wamnika iseluleko esaguqula uthando lwakhe lwaba inzondo.
U-Amnoni walalela umngane wakhe kanye nomshana wakhe uJonadaba esikhundleni sikaNkulunkulu
Umngane wakhe kanye nomshana wakhe uJonadaba baqaphela ukuthi u-Amnoni wayenciphile futhi wabuza u-Amnoni ngakho. U-Amnoni wamtshela uJonadaba yonke indaba.
Esikhundleni sokuthi uJonadaba athi, “yebo Amnoni, Ngingacabanga ukuthi lokhu kunzima kuwe, kodwa kufanele umelane nale mizwa, ngoba akulungile ukuvumela le mizwa nesono”, UJonadaba wathi ku-Amnoni, ukuthi wayenomqondo omuhle wokuthola uTamari futhi agcwalise imizwa yakhe.
UJonadaba watshela u-Amnoni ukuthi kufanele enze sengathi uyagula futhi abuze uyise ukuthi udadewabo uTamari angafika yini.. Futhi wayezofika nini, wayebamukisa bonke amthathe.
Esikhundleni sokuthi u-Amnoni athi wayengenakukwenza, U-Amnoni wenza ubuwula. Walalela umqondo kaJonadaba futhi wenza icebo likaJonadaba.
Uthando luka-Amnoni ngoTamari lwaphenduka kanjani inzondo?
U-Amnoni wenza icebo likaJonadaba futhi washaya sengathi uyagula. U-Amnoni wabuza uyise inkosi uDavide ukuthi uTamari angafika yini azomenzela amaqebelengwane ambalwa. UDavide wathuma uTamari ku-Amnoni; uTamari wenza amaqebelengwane phambi kwakhe.
Kwathi uTamari eselungile efuna ukunika u-Amnoni amaqebelengwane ukuze adle, U-Amnoni wathumela wonke umuntu, owayesekamelweni, wahamba futhi wacela uTamari ukuba eze ekamelweni, ukuze adle esandleni sakhe.
Lapho u-Amnoni eyedwa noTamari, U-Amnoni wambamba, wacela uTamari ukuba alale naye, UTamari wala wacela u-Amnoni ukuthi angamphoqi. Kodwa u-Amnoni akakwamukelanga ukwenqaba kwakhe kanjalo, U-Amnoni wamphoqa uTamari ukuba alale naye. Ngemva kokuba u-Amnoni elala noTamari, U-Amnoni waqala ukumzonda uTamari, wamxosha.
Ngemva kokuba u-Amnoni elala noTamari, imizwa yakhe yothando nenkanuko yayingasenamandla kangako, kodwa imizwa yakhe yothando nenkanuko yaguqulwa yaba imizwa yenzondo. Lesi sibonelo siyasibonisa, uthando luphenduka inzondo kalula nje.
Ukwenza indaba ende ibe mfushane, Absalomu, umfowabo kaTamari wamngenisa uTamari endlini yakhe, wezwa okwenzekileyo, kwathi emva kweminyaka emibili u-Abisalomu wambulala u-Amnoni. Hhayi-ke, U-Absalomu akazange ambulale ngempela u-Amnoni, kepha u-Abisalomu wayala izinceku zakhe, nezinceku zakhe zalalela u-Abisalomu, zambulala u-Amnoni.
Yini esingayifunda endabeni ka-Amnoni noTamari eBhayibhelini?
U-Amnoni wagajwa imizwa yothando, empeleni okwakuyimizwa yenyama yokukhanukela uTamari. Wayazi ukuthi kwakungavunyelwe ukulala naye.
U-Amnoni wayeyazi intando kaNkulunkulu ngale ndaba, U-Amnoni wayewazi umthetho waKhe. Kodwa esikhundleni sokuhlala elalela uNkulunkulu futhi enze intando yaKhe futhi aqaphele ukuthi imizwa yakhe yenyama yayingalungile futhi wamelana nalemizwa ngokuthatha igunya phezu kwayo futhi aqhubekele phambili., U-Amnoni wayivumela le mizwa empilweni yakhe. Ngenxa yalokho, imizwa yakhe yayiqina futhi iqina.
Ekugcineni, imizwa yakhe yayinamandla kakhulu, ukuthi u-Amnoni wahlushwa yibo; wayekhathazekile futhi egula.
U-Amnoni wayebuthakathaka futhi ebuthakathakeni bakhe, U-Amnoni walalela icebo lomngane wakhe oseduze. Iseluleko somngane wakhe kanye necebo lakhe kwamenza ukuba one. Yebo, U-Amnoni wakhohliswa futhi wavaleleka esonweni.
U-Amnoni waqamba amanga kuyise nakwabanye, ukuze athole ayekufuna. Waphendula imizwa yakhe yenyama yothando nenkanuko.
Kodwa ngemva kokona kuka-Amnoni, imizwa yakhe yothando olukhohlisayo yayingasekho futhi yashintsha yaba inzondo. Ngokuvumela imizwa yakhe yenyama yenkanuko nesono, inzondo yangena empilweni yakhe futhi ekugcineni ukufa. Umphumela wawuhlukile kunalokho u-Amnoni ayekulindele.
Akuyona yonke imizwa eyimizwa emihle
Singabantu futhi sinemizwa. Kodwa akuyona yonke imizwa emihle. Kubalulekile njengamakholwa nabalandeli bakaJesu Kristu ukubona le mizwa. Kwesinye isikhathi singaholwa ukuhaha, inkanuko, umona, ukwesaba, uvalo, uthando ngemali, njll, kodwa konke lokhu kuyimizwa yenyama.
Uma imizwa ethile ingahambelani neZwi likaNkulunkulu, ngisho noma zibukeka zizinhle endaweni yemvelo, ngakho-ke azilungile futhi ziyimizwa yenyama.
Kumelwe siqaphele le mizwa ngokwazi iZwi likaNkulunkulu futhi sazi intando kaNkulunkulu kuzo zonke izindaba zokuphila kwethu.
Akufanele sivumele imizwa yenyama isibuse, kodwa kufanelebabuse phezu kwabo. UNkulunkulu wasidala futhi uyakwazi okusilungele, yingakho uNkulunkulu asinikeza imiyalo Yakhe eZwini Lakhe.
Umuzwa wokuhaha
Ake sithi, ukuthi ubone idivayisi kagesi, umdlalo we video, izicathulo noma …, ukuthi uthanda ngempela. Awuyidingi, kodwa uyakufuna. Uyibuke, ngokuphindaphindiwe. Uma ubheka kakhulu, kulapho ufuna ukuba nayo. Ngaphandle kokwazi wena, hlwanyela enyameni.
Iqala ukulawula ingqondo yakho futhi ucabange ngayo imini nobusuku. Ekugcineni, uyanikezela futhi unqume ukuyithenga. Mhlawumbe ungazama noma mhlawumbe awukwazi. Ake sithi, esimweni esinjalo, ukuthi awunayo imali eyanele futhi awukwazi ukuzikhandla. Ngakho-ke, akufanele uyithenge.
Kodwa lapho umuzwa wokuhaha, okuwumuzwa wenyama ongalungile, inamandla kakhulu, ukuthi ilawula impilo yakho. Esikhundleni sokuthi cha, unquma ukuthi kufanele ukuthole, Akunandaba noma yini. Ngisho noma kufanele uboleke imali kubantu noma ebhange. Futhi yilokho kanye okwenzayo.
Uboleke imali ebhange noma ukhokhe ngekhadi lakho lesikweletu bese ungena ezikweletini. Uya esitolo uyothenga isisetshenziswa sikagesi noma izicathulo.
Lokho okuhlwanyelayo uyovuna
Ujabule kakhulu futhi ujabule, kodwa uma ufika ekhaya iqiniso liyangena. Uzizwa kanjani ngemva kokuyithenga? Usajabule futhi ujabule noma uzizwa udabukile futhi mhlawumbe unecala? Kungani kunjalo?
Hhayi-ke, ugcwalise umuzwa wakho wenyama wokuhaha. Ulalele umuzwa wakho wenyama futhi uhlwanyele enyameni yakho. Ngenxa yalokho, uyakuvuna isithelo senyama (Funda futhi: Okuhlwanyelayo, uyakuvuna).
Akulungile ukuthenga okuthile. Kodwa kumayelana nesisusa. Ingabe uthenga okuthile ngoba ukudinga? Noma uthenga okuthile ngenxa yokuhaha?
Ukungathembeki
Ukuphinga kungesinye isibonelo, okungenzeki kuphela kwabangakholwayo, kodwa naphakathi kwabakholwayo. Ake sithi, kunozakwenu emsebenzini osebenza naye eduze. Uma usebenza kakhulu nozakwenu, ngcono umazi uzakwenu. Ngokuphazima kweso, imizwa yenkanuko; imizwa ‘yothando’ kulowo muntu, ongeyena umlingani wakho, kuvela. Le mizwa ayilungile, ngoba ziyimizwa yenyama, okuholela esonweni.
Ekuqaleni, ucabanga ukuthi le mizwa ayinacala futhi ayilimazi nhlobo. Kodwa-ke uqala ukuqaphela ukuthi ucabanga ngozakwenu kakhulu kunalokho okufanele. Imicabango ngozakwenu kanye nemizwa onayo ngozakwenu iqala ukulawula ingqondo yakho.
Ucabanga kakhulu ngozakwenu futhi awukwazi ukukhipha ozakwenu engqondweni yakho. Kwenzekani uma kuvela isimo futhi uzolingeka? Kwenzakalani, uma uwedwa nozakwenu kanye nozakwenu naye ukhombisa ukukuthanda? Ingabe uyaphendula futhi unikeze kuwo futhi uphinge?
Ngokushesha nje lapho ulalela futhi usabela emizweni yakho yenyama futhi uyaphinga, bese kuba nemizwa yecala, inzondo, usizi, ukudabuka, njll kuzokuqeda amandla futhi isenzo sakho singaholela ekwahlukaneni. (Funda futhi: ‘Lithini iBhayibheli ngedivosi?‘).
Uma uholwa imizwa yenyama futhi uyilalele futhi uyifeze, khona-ke uyovuna umuzwa wenyama ophambene.
U-Amnoni wayenemizwa yothando engalungile. Lapho u-Amnoni egcwalisa leyo mizwa yenyama wona futhi imizwa yakhe yothando yaphenduka inzondo. Uyabona, ngokushesha kangakanani uthando luphenduka inzondo. Futhi ekugcineni, isono sakhe saholela ekufeni.
Asifunde kule ndaba singalenzi iphutha elifanayo. Ungavumeli uthando luphenduke inzondo, kodwa qaphela lemizwa yenyama ngesikhathi.
Ungamelana kanjani nemizwa nemizwa yenyama?
Ungamelana kanjani nemizwa nemizwa yenyama futhi uzivimbela kanjani ekuholweni yinyama yakho; imizwa yakho, imizwelo, njll.? Hhayi-ke, impendulo ilula kakhulu: ngokondla umuntu wakho womoya ngeZwi likaNkulunkulu futhi uhambe ngokulandela uMoya.
Funda futhi ulalele iZwi laKhe futhi ulalele iZwi laKhe. Sebenzisa amazwi nemiyalelo Yakhe empilweni yakho futhi ube umenzi weZwi. (Funda futhi: ‘Abezwayo vs abenzi‘).
Lapho uzondla ngokwengeziwe ngeZwi likaNkulunkulu, lapho uhlwanyela kakhulu kumuntu wakho womoya.
Lapho uhlwanyela kakhulu kumuntu wakho womoya, lapho umuntu wakho womoya uyoba namandla futhi inyama iba buthaka.
Uzokhula njengendodana kaNkulunkulu, obuswa ngumoya esikhundleni senyama.
IBhayibheli linempendulo yazo zonke izinkinga.
Lapho uzabalaza endaweni ethile noma unemizwa nemizwelo ethile, bhekani imiBhalo futhi nithole ukuthi uNkulunkulu uthini ngakho.
Bhala phansi imiBhalo ephepheni futhi uvuselele ingqondo yakho ngamazwi kaNkulunkulu.
Zindla ngamazwi kaNkulunkulu esikhundleni sokuzindla ngenkinga yakho, imizwa nemizwelo. Uma wenza lokhu, uzoqaphela ukuthi ekugcineni inkinga nemizwa nemizwelo, uzabalaza nawe, izonyamalala.
Khuluma nemizwa yakho kanye nemizwa yakho futhi uthathe igunya phezu kwayo. Batshele ukuthi bahambe esikhundleni sokuncenga uNkulunkulu ukuba asuse leyo mizwa. Thatha iZwi, ngoba lokho inkemba yakho Empini Engokomoya.
KuKristu unegunya lonke
Niphiwe lonke igunya kuJesu Kristu namandla ngoMoya oNgcwele, ukubusa phezu kwaleyo mizwa nemizwa.
Uma uhamba emva kukaMoya ngokweZwi ngokulalela uNkulunkulu, aniyikugcwalisa izifiso nezinkanuko zenyama yenu (KwabaseGalathiya 5:16).
Funda futhi: ‘Thatha igunya phezu kwemicabango yakho, ngaphambi kokuba bathathe igunya phezu kwenu‘‘
‘Yibani usawoti womhlaba’
