Ibali lika-Amnon noTamare ngo 2 uSamuweli 13 ngumzekelo wendlela uthando olunokuguquka ngokukhawuleza ngayo lube yintiyo. UAmnon wayengunyana kaDavide yaye wayephethwe luthando ngodade wabo uTamare. UAmnon wayemthanda ngokwenene uTamare, ke uAmnon akabanga nakuluphumeza olo thando. Kuba olo thando lwalungavumelekanga. Wayengenako ukuba noTamare kwaye ngenxa yoko wayekhathazekile kwaye egula luthando lwakhe ngoTamare. Usuku nosuku ngaphandle, UAmnon wonganyelwa ziimvakalelo zakhe kwaye akazange akwazi ukuzizalisekisa ezi mvakalelo. Kodwa kwathi gqi umntu othile kusapho lwakhe waza wamnika icebiso elajika uthando lwakhe lwaba yintiyo.
UAmnon waphulaphula umhlobo wakhe nomtshana wakhe uYonadabhi endaweni kaThixo
Umhlobo wakhe nonyana womntakwabo uYonadabhi babona ukuba uAmnon ubhityile waza wabuza uAmnon ngale nto. UAmnon wamxelela uYonadabhi yonke loo nto.
Endaweni yokuba uYonadabhi athi, “ewe uAmnon, Ndiyakwazi ukucinga ukuba oku kunzima kuwe, kodwa kufuneka uxhathise ezi mvakalelo, kuba akulunganga ukunikezela kwezi mvakalelo nesono”, Wathi uYonadabhi kuAmnon, ukuba wayenombono omkhulu wokufumana uTamare kwaye azalisekise iimvakalelo zakhe.
UYonadabhi waxelela uAmnon ukuba makazenze ngathi uyagula aze abuze kuyise ukuba uTamare udade wabo wayengeza na.. Kwaye xa eyeza, wayebandulula bonke, amthabathe.
Endaweni yokuba uAmnon athi akanakuyenza loo nto, Wenza ubudenge uAmnon. Waliphulaphula icebo likaYonadabhi waza wenza icebo likaYonadabhi.
Lwajika njani uthando luka-Amnon ngoTamare lwaba yintiyo?
UAmnon wenza icebo likaYonadabhi waza wazenza ogulayo. UAmnon wabuza kuyise ukumkani uDavide ukuba uTamare unokuza na ukuze amenzele izonkana ezimbalwa. UDavide wathumela uTamare kuAmnon, waza uTamare wenza izonkana phambi kwakhe.
Xa uTamare wayesele elungile waza wafuna ukunika uAmnon amaqebengwana, UAmnon wathumela wonke umntu, owayesegumbini, Wemka waza wacela uTamare ukuba eze egumbini, ukuze adle esandleni sakhe.
Xa uAmnon wayeyedwa noTamare, UAmnon wambamba, wacela uTamare ukuba alale naye, UTamare wala waza wacela uAmnon ukuba angamnyanzela. Kodwa uAmnon akavumanga ukwala kwakhe, UAmnon wamlalisa uTamare. Emva kokuba uAmnon elele noTamare, UAmnon wamthiya uTamare, wamndulula.
Emva kokuba uAmnon elele noTamare, iimvakalelo zakhe zothando nenkanuko zazingasenamandla kangako, kodwa iimvakalelo zakhe zothando nenkanuko zaguqulwa zaba ziimvakalelo zentiyo. Lo mzekelo uyasibonisa, uthando lujika lube yintiyo ngokulula.
Ukwenza ibali elide libe lifutshane, uAbhisalom, Umninawa kaTamare wamthabatha uTamare wamsa endlwini yakhe, weva okwenzekileyo, emva kweminyaka emibini uAbhisalom wambulala uAmnon. Kulungile, UAbhisalom akazange ambulale ngokwenene uAmnon, ke uAbhisalom wabawisela umthetho abakhonzi bakhe, nabakhonzi bakhe, bamphulaphula uAbhisalom, bambulala uAmnon.
Yintoni esinokuyifunda kwibali lika-Amnon noTamare eliseBhayibhileni?
UAmnon wonganyelwa ziimvakalelo zothando, eneneni yayizimvakalelo zenyama zokukhanukela uTamare. Wayesazi ukuba kwakungavumelekanga ukuba alale naye.
UAmnon wayesazi intando kaThixo ngalo mbandela, UAmnon wayewazi umthetho wakhe. Kodwa kunokuba ahlale ethobela uThixo aze enze ukuthanda Kwakhe aze aqonde ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe zokwenyama zaziphosakele waza wazixhathisa ezi mvakalelo ngokuthabatha igunya phezu kwazo aze ahambele phambili., UAmnon wazivumela ezi mvakalelo ebomini bakhe. Nje ngeziphumo, iimvakalelo zakhe zazisiya zisiba namandla.
Ekugqibeleni, iimvakalelo zakhe zazinamandla, bamthuthumbisa uAmnon ngabo; wayebandezelekile, esifa.
U-Amnon wayebuthathaka kwaye ebuthakathakeni bakhe, UAmnon waliphulaphula icebo lomhlobo wakhe osenyongweni. Icebiso lomhlobo wakhe kunye nesicwangciso sakhe samenza ukuba one. Ewe, UAmnon wakhohliswa waza wabanjiswa esonweni.
UAmnon wamxokisa uyise nabanye abantu, ukuze afumane oko wayekufuna. Waziphendula iimvakalelo zakhe zenyama zothando nenkanuko.
Kodwa emva kokuba uAmnon wona, iimvakalelo zakhe ezikhohlisayo zothando zazingasekho zaza zatshintsha zaba yintiyo. Ngokunikezela kwiimvakalelo zakhe zenyama zenkanuko nesono, intiyo yangena ebomini bakhe kwaye ekugqibeleni wafa. Umphumo waba eyahlukileyo kunokuba uAmnon wayelindele.
Ayizizo zonke iimvakalelo ezizizo iimvakalelo ezilungileyo
Singabantu kwaye sineemvakalelo. Kodwa asizizo zonke iimvakalelo ezilungileyo. Kubalulekile njengamakholwa kunye nabalandeli bakaYesu Kristu ukucalula ezi mvakalelo. Ngamanye amaxesha sinokukhokelwa kukubawa, inkanuko, umona, uloyiko, ixhala, uthando ngemali, njl, kodwa zonke ezi ziimvakalelo zenyama.
Ukuba iimvakalelo ezithile azivisisani neLizwi likaThixo, nokuba zikhangeleka kakuhle kwindawo yendalo, ke azilunganga kwaye ziimvakalelo zenyama.
Kufuneka siziqonde ezi mvakalelo ngokwazi iLizwi likaThixo nokwazi ukuthanda kukaThixo kuyo yonke imibandela yobomi bethu.
Asifanele sivumele iimvakalelo zokwenyama zisilawule, kodwa kufunekanibalawule. UThixo wasidala kwaye uyakwazi okusilungeleyo, yiyo loo nto uThixo wasinika imiyalelo yakhe eLizwini laKhe.
Imvakalelo yokubawa
Masithi, ukuba ubone isixhobo sombane, umdlalo yevidiyo, ipere yezihlangu okanye …, othanda ngokwenene. Awuyifuni, kodwa uyafuna. Uyijonge, ngapha nangaphaya kwakhona. Okukhona uyijonga, kokukhona ufuna ukuba nayo. Ngaphandle kokwazi wena, hlwayela inyama.
Iqala ukulawula ingqondo yakho kwaye ucinga ngayo imini nobusuku. Ekugqibeleni, unikezela kwaye ugqibe kwelokuba uyithenge. Mhlawumbi unokuzama okanye mhlawumbi awukwazi. Masithi, kule meko, ukuba awunayo imali eyaneleyo kwaye awukwazi ukwenza umgudu. Ngoko ke, akufanele uthenge.
Kodwa xa imvakalelo yokubawa, oluyimvakalelo engalunganga yenyama, womelele kakhulu, ukuba bulawula ubomi bakho. Endaweni yokuthi hayi, ugqiba ekubeni uyifumane, noba kwenzekani. Nokuba kufuneka uboleke imali ebantwini okanye ebhankini. Kwaye yiloo nto kanye oyenzayo.
Uboleke imali ebhankini okanye uhlawule ngekhadi lakho letyala kwaye ungene ematyaleni. Uya evenkileni uthenge isixhobo sombane okanye izihlangu.
Oko ukuhlwayeleyo wovuna
Wonwabile kwaye unomdla kakhulu, kodwa xa ufika ekhaya inyani iyangena. Uziva njani emva kokuba uyithengile? Ngaba usavuya kwaye unomdla okanye uziva ulusizi kwaye mhlawumbi unetyala? Kutheni kunjalo?
Kulungile, uzalisekise imvakalelo yakho yenyama yokubawa. Uyithobele imvakalelo yakho yenyama kwaye uhlwayele enyameni yakho. Nje ngeziphumo, Uya kuvuna isiqhamo senyama (Funda kwakhona: Into oyihlwayelayo, uya kuvuna).
Akulunganga ukuthenga into. Kodwa imalunga nesizathu. Ngaba uthenga into kuba uyidinga? Okanye uthenga into ngenxa yokubawa?
Ukungathembeki
Ukukrexeza ngomnye umzekelo, nto leyo ingenzekiyo phakathi kwabangakholwayo kuphela, kodwa naphakathi kwabakholwayo. Masithi, kukho umntu osebenza naye osebenza naye ngokusondeleyo. Okukhona usebenza nogxa wakho, ngcono umazi umntu osebenza naye. Ngequbuliso, iimvakalelo zenkanuko; iimvakalelo ‘zothando’ kulowo mntu, ongelilo iqabane lakho, ivela. Ezi mvakalelo azilunganga, ngenxa yokuba ziimvakalelo zenyama, ezikhokelela esonweni.
Ekuqaleni, ucinga ukuba ezi mvakalelo zimsulwa kwaye aziyongozi kwaphela. Kodwa ke uqala ukuqaphela ukuba ucinga ngogxa wakho ngakumbi kunokuba ufanele. Iingcinga malunga nomntu osebenza naye kunye neemvakalelo onazo ngogxa wakho ziqala ukulawula ingqondo yakho.
Ucinga kakhulu ngogxa wakho kwaye awukwazi ukumkhupha umntu osebenza naye engqondweni yakho. Kwenzeka ntoni xa kuvela imeko kwaye uya kuhendwa? Kwenzekani, xa uwedwa nomntu osebenza naye kunye nomntu osebenza naye naye ubonisa uthando kuwe? Ngaba uyaphendula kwaye unikezele kuyo kwaye ukrexeze?
Ngokukhawuleza nje ukuba uthobele kwaye uphendule kwiimvakalelo zakho zenyama kwaye ukrexeze, emva koko iimvakalelo zokuba netyala, intiyo, usizi, usizi, etc kuya kukongamela kwaye isenzo sakho sinokukhokelela kuqhawulo-mtshato. (Funda kwakhona: ‘Ithini iBhayibhile ngoqhawulo-mtshato?‘).
Ukuba ukhokelwa ziimvakalelo zenyama kwaye uzithobele kwaye uzizalisekise, ngoko uya kuvuna imvakalelo yenyama eyahlukileyo.
UAmnon wayeneemvakalelo zothando ezingalunganga. Xa uAmnon wazalisekisa ezo mvakalelo zasenyameni wona kwaye iimvakalelo zakhe zothando zajika zaba yintiyo. Uyabona, lukhawuleza kangakanani uthando ukuba luguquke lube yintiyo. Kwaye ekugqibeleni, isono sakhe sakhokelela ekufeni.
Masifunde kweli bali kwaye singenzi impazamo enye. Musa ukuvumela uthando lujike lube yintiyo, kodwa ziqonde ezi mvakalelo zenyama ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Ungazixhathisa njani iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zenyama?
Ungazichasa njani iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zenyama kwaye uzithintela njani ukuba ukhokelwe yinyama yakho; Iimvakalelo zakho, iimvakalelo, njl.? Kulungile, impendulo ilula kakhulu: ngokondla umntu wakho womoya ngeLizwi likaThixo kwaye uhambe emva koMoya.
Funda kwaye umamele iLizwi lakhe kwaye uthobele iLizwi laKhe. Sebenzisa amazwi nemiyalelo yakhe ebomini bakho kwaye ube ngumenzi weLizwi. (Funda kwakhona: ‘Abaphulaphuli vs abenzi‘).
Okukhona uzizondla ngeLizwi likaThixo, kokukhona uhlwayela kumntu wakho womoya.
Okukhona uhlwayela ngakumbi kumntu wakho womoya, kokukhona umntu wakho womoya uya komelela kwaye inyama iya isiba buthathaka.
Uya kukhula njengonyana kaThixo, olawulwa nguMoya esikhundleni senyama.
IBhayibhile inempendulo yayo yonke ingxaki.
Xa unzima kwindawo ethile okanye ngeemvakalelo ezithile kunye neemvakalelo, khangela iZibhalo uze ufumanise ukuba uThixo uthini na ngaloo nto.
Bhala iZibhalo phantsi ephepheni kwaye uhlaziye ingqondo yakho ngamazwi kaThixo.
Camngca ngamazwi kaThixo endaweni yokucamngca ngengxaki yakho, Iimvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo. Ukuba wenza oku, uya kuqaphela ukuba ekugqibeleni ingxaki kunye neemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo, uyasokola, iya kunyamalala.
Thetha kwiimvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo kwaye uthathe igunya phezu kwazo. Bayalele ukuba bahambe endaweni yokubongoza uThixo ukuba azisuse ezo mvakalelo. Thabatha iLizwi, ngenxa yokuba ikrele lakho kwidabi lomoya.
KuKristu ninegunya lonke
Ninikwe lonke igunya kuYesu Krestu namandla ngoMoya oyiNgcwele, ukulawula ezo mvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo.
Xa uhamba emva koMoya ngokweLizwi ngokuthobela uThixo, aniyi kuyenza inkanuko nenkanuko yenyama yenu (kwabaseGalati 5:16).
Funda kwakhona: ‘Thatha igunya phezu kweengcinga zakho, ngaphambi kokuba bathathe igunya phezu kwakho‘‘
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