Musa ukuyila ububi ngommelwane wakho, yena uhleli kuwe ekholosile (IMizekeliso 3:29)
ILizwi liyayalela, ungacebi ububi ngommelwane wakho, xa ummelwane wakho ekuthembile. Ithetha ntoni le nto? Kunini na ukuba ucinge ububi ngommelwane wakho?? Kwaye ngubani ummelwane wakho? Makhe sijonge imizekelo yembono yobomi bemihla ngemihla:
- Ummelwane wakho unokuba: abazali bakho okanye abazali bakho:
Xa uthetha nabazali bakho (abasemzini) kumnxaba, okanye xa nidibana ngexesha lokuzalwa okanye ngexesha leholide, ungenza friendly. Unokuthetha amazwi amnandi kubo, kwaye mabacinge, ukuba uyabathanda kwaye ube nobudlelwane obuhle kunye nabo. Bakuthembile, ngenxa yendlela owenza ngayo, xa ukunye nabo. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza xa ubeka ifowuni, okanye xa ubuyela ekhaya ngemoto yakho, uthetha kakubi ngabo. Kule meko, ucingela ububi ngabazali bakho, nabazali bomyeni wakho.
- Ummelwane wakho unokuba, umhlobo wakho okanye umntu omaziyo:
Umhlobo wakho(s) okanye ukwazana(s) usenokucinga, ukuba ungumhlobo olungileyo (okanye ukwazana), kuba xa nidibene nenza ubuhlobo. Kodwa xa bengekho uyahleba kwaye uthethe kakubi ngabo. Ngolwimi lwakho, uceba ububi ngommelwane wakho(s) okanye ukwazana(s).
- Ummelwane wakho unokuba: umlingane wakho(s) okanye umphathi wakho:
Unobubele kubo xa kukho into oyidingayo, okanye xa nisebenza kunye, okanye isidlo sasemini kunye, kodwa ngokukhawuleza nje omnye wabalingane bakho, okanye umphathi ushiya igumbi, uyamhleba uthethe negative ngaye. Xa usenza oko, umcingela ububi ummelwane wakho(s) okanye umphathi.
- Ummelwane wakho unokuba: Iqabane lakho:
Iqabane lakho likuthembile, kwaye ucinga ukuba (s)usindiswe nawe. (S)uthatha oko unako, amava, kunye nokwabelana kunye, uhlala phakathi kwenu nobabini. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza ukuba iqabane lakho lingenzi ngendlela ofuna ukuba lenze ngayo, okanye xa iqabane lakho lingasazanelisi ‘iimfuneko’ zakho kwakhona. Uya kumhlobo wakho(s) okanye ukwazana(s), kwaye uthethe ngazo zonke izinto ezimbi zeqabane lakho. Mhlawumbi nawe uya kwabelana ngezinto zabucala, oko bekumele kuhlale phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho. Okanye mhlawumbi awunyanisekanga kwiqabane lakho, kwaye umqhathe kwaye wenze umbulo. Kuzo zombini ezi meko nicinga ububi ngeqabane lakho.
Ulwimi lwakho sisikrweqe, Amazwi akho anjengeentolo ezinomlilo, loo nto inokumenzakalisa umntu. Ngalo lonke ixesha uthetha kakubi ngomntu, uyambulala loo mntu ngamazwi akho. Ewe, uyamthuka lamntu.
Awuyiboni kwihlabathi lendalo (ihlabathi elibonakalayo), kodwa kwihlabathi lomoya, nantso into eyenzekayo, xa uthetha kakubi ngomntu.
Ngoko ke musani ukucinga ububi ngamazwi enu, musa ukuba ngumhanahanisi. Musa ukuba ngumdlali weqonga okanye umlingisi ebomini kwaye ungabaqhathi abantu. Kodwa nyaniseka, unyanisekile kwaye ungene ingqibelelo.
‘Yibani yityuwa yehlabathi’
