Can Christians marry non-Christians? How often do Christians fall in love with unbelievers? They meet someone they like and soon their feelings and emotions take over. They fall in love with an unbeliever, who is not like-minded and born again and doesn’t believe in God and doesn’t know Jesus Christ and have a personal relationship with Jesus and serve Him. And so the Christian and the unbeliever become unequally yoked. Maybe in the beginning when the Christian and the unbeliever are dating and are in love, they may not encounter huge problems, but once the Christian and non-Christian are married the problems will come and many times the marriage will end in a divorce. Being unequally yoked is one of the ways of destruction. What does the Bible say about an unequal yoke? What does the Bible say about a relationship with an unbeliever? Should a Christian marry an unbeliever?
“The Lord gave me approval“
How often do Christians meet non-Christians and fall in love and say, “But the Lord gave me the approval to marry this person. It is ok, the Lord told me, that this person will eventually repent and accept Jesus”.
Dear saints, let me remind you, that the devil is a liar and that the devil comes as an angel of light. Therefore it is difficult to discern the devil from Jesus. Only if you know the true Jesus Christ; the Word, you will be able to discern the truth from the lie.
In this case, if you receive a revelation, telling you that the Lord approves your relationship with an unbeliever, it is a lie from the devil!!!
Satan himself is transformed into an angel of light (2 Corinthians 11:2)
Maybe there are some marriages of Christians and non-Christians, in which the unbelieving spouse repented and accepted Jesus Christ after some time. But those cases are very rare.
And let’s not forget the most important factor, which is, that this revelation and so-called approval of marrying an unbeliever is against the Word of God.
There was only one exception in the life of Hosea. God instructed Hosea to take a strange woman, but that was for a specific reason and was meant to confront Israel with their behavior towards God. You can’t use that, to approve a relationship with an unbeliever.
What is the danger of an unequal yoke?
Let me remind you of the story of Solomon. If you haven’t read this blog post, you can click on the following link: How do you enter the way to destruction?
Solomon took a lot of strange women because he loved them. Despite the fact, that God warned Solomon and had commanded Salomon not to take strange women, Solomon was led by his feelings and emotions and put the strange women above the words of God. His love for strange women was greater than his love for God.
Solomon formed an unequal yoke with these strange women and you see what happened to Solomon at the end of his life.
But Solomon isn’t the only example. Look at the book of Ezra (Ezra 9:2-12) and Nehemiah (Nehemiah 10:13. 13:25).
Paul wrote in the letter to the church at Corinth the following::
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? (2 Corinthians 6:14)
Paul saw the danger and reminded the Christians, who were carnal, of the words of God. He warned them of the trap of the devil.
The devil knows the weakness of the flesh
The devil knows exactly how to seduce and tempt people and draw them to his side. He wants to take people captive, so that he can make their lives miserable and destroy their lives. Because that’s the devil’s nature. To get what he wants, he uses the weakness of the flesh.
Therefore as long as Christians stay carnal and keep walking after the flesh, it will be easy for the devil and his minions, to tempt and seduce them. When he succeeds in his temptation, he causes destruction and causes the believer to fall.
The devil uses charming handsome men and pretty women, to tempt and seduce believers in the flesh. He uses everyone, even prophets, who walk after the flesh. He can even give you a vision, or a dream, or he may even imitate the Lord, to tell Christians, it is ok to marry an unbeliever.
Why the Bible should be the final authority in your life?
But saints, let the final authority in your life always be the Bible; the Word of God. If a prophecy, vision, dream, voice, etc., contradicts the Word of God, please reject it, instead of believing and acting upon that vision, dream, voice, etc. The only thing trustworthy in your life is the Word of God. The Word doesn’t lie, doesn’t contradict, but the Word is the Truth.
I know many women, who were devoted Christians until they met handsome men, who weren’t born-again Christians.
They thought it was from God, because of the way they met, which was very extraordinary and special and looked like a miracle.
At the beginning of their relationships, the men seemed to be interested in Jesus and attended church with them (in my opinion it’s just a tactic, to win the women).
But after they got married, after a while they stopped attending church and stayed home instead. Their character changed and worldly things entered their marriages.
Eventually, their marriages became a struggle and they experienced a lot of problems, pain, sorrow, (emotional) abuse, etc. After only a few years, these marriages ended in divorce (Read also: May a Christian divorce?
I can tell you a lot of other similar stories about marital problems of an unequal yoke marriage and about unequal yoke marriages that ended up in a divorce.
Don’t be led by feelings, but be led by the Word of God
We can learn from the story of Solomon and don’t make the same mistake, by being carnal and being ruled by feelings. But let us rule over them and love Jesus and keep His commandments, which are also the commandments of God.
When the Bible says do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, we must obey the Word and follow His counsel and not enter a relationship with an unbeliever and be unequally yoked (Read also: ‘The commandments of God and the commandments of Jesus‘).
Despite the warnings of God in His Word, many Christians put themselves above the Word and think they will convert their partner and draw the unbeliever to their side. But God knows the weakness of the flesh. God knows that the believer will not draw the unbeliever, but the unbeliever will draw the believing Christian to his or her side instead.
An unequal yoke will lead the believer to destruction and that is the will of the devil and not the will of God.
Therefore stay obedient to the Word and let the Word be the final authority in your life. Don’t put the creature above the Creator but stay faithful to Him.
“Be the salt of the earth”
