Çok sayıda çocuk var, mutlu olmayan ve gerçekte kim olduğunu bilmeyenler, ve toplumda kaybolmuş hissediyorum. Pek çok çocuk kendini kaybolmuş bir çocuk gibi hissediyor, depresyonda ve artık yaşamak istemiyor. Her ne kadar Tanrı erkeği ve kadını görevlendirmiş olsa da; karı-koca ebeveyn olarak çocukları onlara emanet etmiştir, korumak, disiplin, doğru, ve onları Rab'de ve O'nun Sözü'nde yetiştirin, sadece birkaçı O'na itaat ediyor ve Tanrı'nın onlara yapmalarını emrettiği şeyleri yapıyor. Allah'ın verdiği bu önemli görev yavaş yavaş ikinci plana düşer ve ebeveynler şeytana tam olarak istediğini verir., yani çocuğu kendi krallığı için ele geçirmek ve onu yok etmek. Şeytan şeytani planını uygulayabilir çünkü birçok ebeveyn kendileriyle çok meşguldür. Kendilerine odaklanırlar, onların hayalleri, Arzu, ve hayat, ve kariyerlerini bul, performance, and money more important than raising their child(Ren). They decide how they want to live their lives and they expect their child(Ren) to adjust to their needs. Bu davranış yüzünden, many children are left to their fate and are entrusted to others to raise and nurture them. But they can never replace the real nurture of the parents. Many parents don’t see any harm in bringing their child to daycare or other childcare facilities and think that they help the child. Çünkü dünya diyor ki, that it’s good for the development of a child and their social skills.
A lack of attention to the child
Birçok ebeveyn var, who don’t have knowledge of the Word and the will of God and therefore many believe this lie of the world and act upon it. Bu yüzden, many children have lost their happy homes and safe environment. They don’t come home after school, while their mother is waiting for them with a cup of tea and a snack and informs them about their day, while they listen attentively to them.
Birçok ailede, the baby is already entrusted to others after only a few weeks after birth, instead of being raised and nurtured by parents. The child is tossed to and fro; to the childcare, a babysitter, grandpa and grandma, uncles and aunts, bir komşu, ve saire. Bu yüzden, the child is not raised and doesn’t develop himself/herself in a stable safe living environment and doesn’t learn to attach himself/herself. The parents don’t have insights into the way their child is raised and in some cases, they even lose control over their child.
Sen düşünürdün, eğer bir çocuk günün sonunda ebeveynlerinden biri tarafından alınır ve eve gelirse, ebeveyn çocuğu gördüğü için mutludur ve çocuğa gereken ilgiyi gösterir. Maalesef, bu her zaman böyle değildir. Çünkü çoğu zaman ebeveyn işinden yorulur ve çocuğunu dinleyemeyecek ve ona gerekli ilgiyi gösteremeyecek kadar yorgun olur.. Bırakın çocukla oynamayı. Çoğu zaman ebeveynin akşam yemeği hazırlaması gerekir. Durum böyle olduğunda, ebeveynin dikkati dağılamaz. Bu nedenle birçok ailede, the televizyon, tablet, veya (oyun)bilgisayar açık, böylece çocuk eğlenir, ebeveyn ne yapabilirse (S)tam bir huzur ve sessizlik içinde yapmak istiyor.
Ve birçok ebeveyn hala merak ediyor, çocukları neden bu kadar meşgul, yüksek sesle, huzursuz, hiperaktif, asi, itaatsiz ve onları dinlemeyin.
Ancak ebeveynler çocuklarına iyi bir örnek oluşturmazlarsa(Ren) and are too busy with themselves and don’t take the time to listen to their child, how should a child learn how to listen? If a child is given and entrusted to others, will the child feel wanted and loved? How does a child learn to be calm and to attach and be loyal, when the child is not raised and nurtured in their own safe living environment but is tossed to and fro? If a man and woman consider their own lives, career, and money more important than raising their own children, why do they decide to have children anyway?
A child may no longer be a child
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it (Atasözleri 22:6)
Toplumumuzda, a child may no longer be a child but is treated as an adult and expected from a young age to take responsibility, rol yapmak, ve kararlar ver. Ancak bir çocuk zaten doğru kararları verebiliyor mu??
Birçok ebeveyn kendileriyle çok meşgul olduğundan çocuklarına yeterince dikkat etmezler.(Ren), bu nedenle birçok şey, çocuk için iyi olmayan şeyler hoşgörüyle karşılanır. Ebeveynler çoğu zaman çocuklarının ne yaptığını bilmiyorlar, çocuklarının ne gibi şeylerle meşgul olduğu, ve çocuklarının kiminle oynadığı. Çatışma ve kavgaların önlenmesi için, çocuğun yapmak istediği şeyi yapması için çocuğa tüm özgürlüğü verirler. Ebeveynler onlara özgürlüklerini vererek kendi hayatlarını yaşayabilirler, ve yapmak istediklerini yap. Kendi iradesini ve hayatını bir kenara bırakıp çocuğuna yatırım yapmak yerine.
Ebeveyn otoritesinin yokluğu
Üstelik bizi düzelten kendi bedenimizden olan babalarımız da vardı., ve onlara saygı gösterdik: ruhların Babasına tabi olmayı tercih etmeyecek miyiz?, ve yaşa? Çünkü onlar bizi birkaç gün kendi zevkleri uğruna cezalandırdılar.; ama O bizim çıkarımız için, O'nun kutsallığına ortak olabilmemiz için. Şimdilik hiçbir cezalandırma keyifli görünmüyor, ama üzücü: yine de daha sonra bu şekilde uygulananlara barışçıl doğruluk meyvesini verir. (İbranice 12:9-11)
Çoğu ailede, the parental authority is missing and the child is not being taught daily in the Word and the things of the Kingdom of God, but the child feeds himself/herself with the things of this world. The parents don’t discipline and correct their child, but let their child have his/her own way. Because of that the child doesn’t look up to the parents and doesn’t give them reverence.
Çocuklar, Rab adına anne ve babanıza itaat edin: çünkü bu doğru. Babana ve annene saygı duy; (which is the first commandment with promise;) That it may be well with thee, ve yeryüzünde uzun süre yaşayabilirsin (Koloseliler 3:20)
Many parents want to keep the life, which they had before they got married. And that’s why many parents don’t fully mature and take responsibility to raise and nurture their child. Yerine, they want to stay young forever, have a good time, and shed their responsibility to others. Birçok ailede, the parents are no longer parents, kim yükseltir, yetiştirmek, ilgilenmek, korumak, doğru, and disciplines the child, but is more like a friend, who wants to be liked and accepted by the child. They put their child on a pedestal and ‘bow’ to their will to keep the child satisfied and content, instead of directing the child and correcting their behavior. Ama Söz diyor ki, that if you don’t discipline and correct (cezalandırmak) senin çocuğun, you don’t love the child (Prov 13:24; 29:15; 29:17)
A child needs boundaries and direction from their parents and needs to be disciplined and corrected. If this is lacking in the child’s life than the child becomes selfish, kibirli, gururlu, asi, and disrespectful to the parents. The child shall not obey the parents in all things and don’t fear (having an awe) ebeveynler, and therefore the child shall not honor them, as the Word commands (Efesliler 6:1-3, Koloseliler 3:20, Çıkış 20:12). If they don’t obey and honor the parents, how will the child be able to obey God in all things and honor Him? Ve hepsi bu değil, because this behavior causes the child to become an unguided missile in society and will not be able or willing to adjust and submit to others. This phenomenon already happens with graduates, who don’t expect to start at the bottom of a company but at an executive level.
Some parents compensate for their absence by spoiling the child with all kinds of presents, getaways, and vacations. They give the child everything (S)O istiyor, kendileri dışında. But by this behavior, they will only make things worse, because the child shall become spoilt and only love the parents for the gifts they receive and not for who they are. When the child becomes an adult, (S)he will only visit or call his/her parents when (S)he needs something and not because (S)he loves them and wants to spend time with them. Hayır, (S)he would rather spend time with friends, than with the family. Because where were the parents, when the child needed them?
The effect of a divorce on children
And let’s not forget the effect of a divorce on the life of a child. Divorcements not only happen among unbelievers but also among believers. Many believers break their marriage covenant and file for divorce. This is mainly because many believers stay carnal and live like the world, and therefore they are led by worldly spirits.
When the parents are getting a divorce, the child often feels guilty because the child often thinks that (S)he is responsible for the divorce. The child has to deal with it and find a way to cope with it. This is almost impossible, because now the child has no longer a safe home with a mother and father, but shall live in one or two broken families.
Parents often think that their children can handle the situation by having a good conversation. Ama birçok kez, the child doesn’t show and share his/her true real feelings and becomes traumatized.
The child locks himself/herself up in his/her room and tries to escape reality by reading books, televizyon izlemek, playing games, listening to music, and spending time on the computer or social media. The child can efface himself/herself in his own created fantasy world and even create alters to escape reality and cope with the situation. By doing these things, many children upon themselves up for the kingdom of darkness and are on their way to the abyss
Suicide among children
Due to the fact that many children are not happy and content but feel lost in their family, at school or in society. They don’t feel wanted, appreciated, and understood, but they feel rejected, invisible and lost. They suffer from feelings of depression that control their lives. Many times these feelings of depression are so strong that children don’t want to live anymore, but are longing for the death. That’s because these feelings of depression originate from the kingdom of darkness, ölümün hüküm sürdüğü yer. When the death calls them, they shall obey and end their lives.
How these unclean spirits from the kingdom of darkness have entered the child’s life, doesn’t matter. Because there are many gates through which these evil spirits can enter a life. They could have entered during the pregnancy if the parents have been involved with occult practices or cursed the child because the pregnancy was not planned. They could have entered while growing up, by the absence of their parents, an attention deficit, involvement with evil spirits through (sosyal) medya; televizyon, kitaplar, video games, müzik, oyuncaklar, gizli oyunlar, A boşanmak, bullying at school, sexual or physical abuse etc.. There could be so many causes.
Ama Tanrı'nın Krallığında, you are not looking for the cause and geçmişi kazmak, but you come with the solution. You don’t act out of the flesh, dünya gibi, by using all kinds of therapies and medication, but you act out of the Spirit. Bu durumda, you command this unclean spirit of death to leave the child in the İsa'nın adı; onun yetkilisinde.
When a child is delivered from the death it is important to raise the child in the Word and the things of the Kingdom of God.
Raising a child in the Word of God
And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, ve tüm ruhunla, and with all thy might. Ve bu sözler, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up. And thou shalt bind them for a sign upon thine hand, and they shall be as frontlets between thine eyes. And thou shalt write them upon the posts of thy house, and on thy gates (Tesniye 6:5-9)
God has entrusted children to parents, to raise them and educate them in the fear of the Lord. This doesn’t mean that you should develop a fear as in a terror for God so that your child becomes afraid of Him. It also doesn’t mean that you should impose on your child with all kinds of legalistic rules that derive from the flesh. Like in the old days happened, and resulted in apostasy from God.
But raising your child in the fear of the Lord means that you raise and educate your child from the Word and the Spirit and make them acquainted with God and what He has done and develop a fear as in having an awe for God.
You make them acquainted and familiar with God’s Kingdom and His will and learn the child the difference between the Kingdom of God and the kingdom of darkness so that the child will develop spiritual discernment.
You testify of the miracles of God in your life and show them His greatness and what it means to be Mesih'te oturmak and to walk in Him. Şeytanın işlerini gizlemeyeceksin, ama bunları çocuğa açıkla, çocuğun uyarılması için. Hatırlamak, bu inanç yaşanacak bir hayattır. Çocuğunuzu televizyon ya da bilgisayarın başına koymak yerine çocuğunuzla Tanrı Sözü'nü okuyarak vakit geçirerek, çocuk Sözü tanıyacak (Ayrıca okuyun: “Çocukların Bana gelmesine izin ver, onları yasaklama”).
Ebeveynler çocukların örneğidir
Çocuk yetiştirmek için her iki ebeveyne de ihtiyaç var. Anne çocuğa bakmalı ve onu beslemelidir, babanın ise çocuğu disipline etmesi, düzeltmesi ve çocuğu Rab'bin eğitimi ve öğüdüyle yetiştirmesi gerekir.. Baba çocuğu öfkelendirerek cesaretini kırmamalı (gazap), örneğin çocuğu küçümsemek ve olumsuz sözler söylemek (Efesliler 6:4, Koloseliler 3:21).
The lives of the parents and their examples are important factors in raising a child. Because many children look at the lives and behavior of their parents, and if they live a disciplined life whereby their words line up with their actions.
Because if you teach your child not lie, but you do lie, for example when someone calls and your child picks up the phone, and you say to the child “tell the person that I am not here”, you lie and shall lose your credibility. You shouldn’t be surprised when your child doesn’t fully trust you or when your child copies your behavior and also lies. Ama lying has no place in the life of a born again believer.
The same applies to honoring your parents. When you teach your child to have respect for parents and honor them, but gossip about yourself and speak evil of your parents (Hukuk), what kind of effect does this have on the child?
You are a representative of the Kingdom of God and an example to your child because they see you and don’t see God (henüz). If you teach the child in the Word but don’t obey the words of God and don’t do what you teach your child, then the Bible calls you a hypocrite (Mat 23:3, Martı 7:6-7, Baştankara 1:16). If you don’t do what you say, how should a child believe and trust in God and do what He says in His Word? As said before, you are a representative of God and just like Jesus was, Ve hala, a reflection of the Father, you also should be a reflection of Him.
Every child is unique
The world uses a manual for raising children, which is created by a.o. sociologists, pedagogues and child psikologlar ve psikiyatristler. They are appointed in the world and according to the world, they have the knowledge and wisdom to help and guide children and advise parents and give them tools to raise their child(Ren).
God has also a Manual; İncil. But this Manual deviates from the manual, that the world uses, and says the exact opposite of what the world says. But if you believe in the Word, then you shall obey the Word and apply the Word in your life and in the life of your child.
Tüm kutsal yazılar Tanrı'nın ilhamıyla verilmiştir, ve doktrin açısından karlıdır, azarlamak için, düzeltme için, doğruluk konusunda eğitim için: Tanrı adamının mükemmel olabilmesi için, tüm iyi işler için iyice döşenmiş (2 Tim 3:16)
The Lord shall daily teach you and guide you from His Word and in His knowledge and wisdom, which you need to raise your child. He shall inspire you and provide you from His Word and Spirit the insights you need. You can ask others for advice or even consult the world, but your heavenly Father, Who is the Maker of your child, will give you the best counsel there is. He knows exactly what your child needs and reveals to you the things which are hidden for your eyes. That’s why it’s important to spend time with Him in the Word and in prayer daily and raise your child from your relationship with Him.
A prey for the devil
As a born again believer, you represent the Kingdom of God and if you live after the Spirit, you shall bear the fruit of the Spirit. This fruit should be present in your life and is meant to give to others, bu durumda, to your child. So that you feed your child spiritually and grow up into the knowledge of the Word and in the power of the Holy Spirit.
Don’t complain about your child, ama çocuğunuz için Tanrı'ya şükredin ve olmayan şeyleri sanki varmış gibi adlandırın.. Gördüğünüzü sürekli söylemek ve bunu etrafınızdaki dünyayla paylaşmak yerine.
Çocuğunuza Tanrı'nın Krallığı için dua edin ve sahip çıkın ve çocuğunuzun ruhunu talep edin. Çocuğunuzu okulda bile dünyanın etkisinden koruyun. Çünkü öğreten Hıristiyan okulları var yoga, meditasyon teknikleri, farkındalık, ve diğer gizli şeyler ve diğer dinlerle ilgili. Bu nedenle uyanık kalın ve dahil olun, Böylece çocuğunuzun okulunda tam olarak neler olduğunu bileceksiniz ve İsa'nın yanında yer almak. Okullar ve öğretmenler için dua edin ve olmayan şeyleri çağırın., ve Tanrı'nın isteğine göredirler, sanki onlarmış gibi.
Yeniden doğmuş bir Hıristiyan olarak sürekli ruhsal savaş içindesiniz, you should never forget this. You should also know that your child is a prey for the devil and he shall do anything he can to win your child for himself, to establish his kingdom on this earth. The devil uses all kinds of sources of entertainment, okul, daycare etc. to accomplish his mission and win the new generation for himself.
‘Yeryüzünün tuzu ol’
