People talk a lot, sometimes even too much. But what kind of words come out of their mouth? Do they speak words of life that keep them save or do they speak words of death that bring them into trouble? Muitas pessoas, incluindo cristãos, have a victim mentality and speak out of their carnal heart, whereby they present themselves as victims, instead of victors in Christ. Instead of presenting Christ and experiencing joy, they have pity parties and invite as many people as possible to their pity parties. E você? Where does your mouth lead you? Festa da alegria ou da pena?
Pity party conversations
Sometimes it looks like a game, whereby people compete against each other to see, who is the most pitiest of them. Let’s have a look at two examples of everyday ‘pity party’ conversations deriving from a victim mentality.:
Person a: Hello, it’s good to see you again!
Person b: Hello, how are you?
Person a: “Bem, I have had such a difficult week at my work. Pff, you can see that the devil is after me”.
Person b: “Well isn’t that something! I experience the same thing! My colleagues are always so mean to me. You can see, who their master is”.
Person a: “Yeah, but nothing compares to what they did to me, you will never believe it”.
Person b: “Oh I believe you, because nothing can be worse than the way they’ve treated me, pff”.
Person a+b: “How long Lord, do we need to suffer?”
Person a: “Oi, how are you?”
Person b: “Oh, I have had such a tough week, and now I feel so miserable and tired. It feels like I am having the flu”.
Person a: “I don’t feel that great either, maybe I also have the flu. I have a sore throat, am sneezing the whole time, and have a drippy nose”.
Why are people always looking for a pity party?
Vivemos em um mundo com uma visão de mundo negativa. Quanto mais negativo e lamentável você for, quanto mais legal você fica e mais atenção você recebe. Vivemos em um mundo, onde as pessoas constantemente murmuram e reclamam. A maioria das pessoas não mantém seus problemas privados, mas informa a todos sobre seus problemas e suas lutas e como a vida é difícil para elas.. Eles sempre fazem uma festa de piedade e com suas palavras, eles convidam pessoas para participar de sua festa de piedade.
Por que muitas pessoas têm essa mentalidade de vítima e competem contra outras para ver quem tem mais problemas?? Quem teve a infância mais difícil e problemática? Cujo passado é o pior? Quem é o mais doente? Quem tem uma vida mais difícil?
Alguém está farejando no trabalho e de repente todo mundo fica doente.
O mundo está clamando por atenção! Mas espere um minuto… Isn’t this also happening in the church?
A única diferença é, that the church blames the devil. But the church has the same mentality and acts the same way as the world.
The main reason is that the church is carnal and therefore led by her senses, sentimentos, pensamentos, e emoções. Many Christians love to have a pity party and invite others to join their pity party.
Do you believe what you proclaim?
Do you believe that the Word of God is the Truth? Do you believe the Scriptures you proclaim? Let’s say you don’t feel well. You are at home and constantly proclaim Isaiah 53:5 e 1 Peter 2:24, that by His stripes you are healed. Then it’s time to go to the grocery store.
At the grocery store, you meet a friend, who asks you how you are doing. You will probably automatically say: “I am good, Obrigado”. But when the person notices that you look a little bit pale and asks you, how you really feel, you probably will be tempted to say: “Você está certo, I don’t feel well“.
When you speak out the words: “I don’t feel well”, you invalidate the words you proclaimed at home. When you said, that by His stripes you were healed.
Do you walk after the Spirit or after the flesh?
Você anda segundo o Espírito? And do you live according to what the Word says? Ou… Do you walk after the flesh? Do you live according to what your senses, sentimentos, and emotions say?
Como cristão, você é não como o mundo. Because you don’t belong to the generation of fallen mankind anymore, but you are a new creation (Leia também: O oitavo dia, o dia da nova criação).
You are separated in Christ from the world. You are reconciled to God and are accepted by God. Your life should revolve around Him and His Kingdom.
When you accepted Jesus as your Saviour and Lord, you decided to Siga-o. And as you renew your mind with the Word, you shall speak words of life instead of death.
You shouldn’t allow your senses, emoções, pensamentos, and feelings to rule and dictate your life. Em vez de, you should rule over them by the authority of Jesus Christ; a palavra de Deus, e o poder do Espírito Santo (Leia também: Assuma autoridade sobre seus pensamentos antes que eles assumam autoridade sobre você).
Chame aquelas coisas que não existem como se fossem
A Bíblia diz, that with your words you call those things which be not as though they were. Portanto, it is important to read and study the Bible and hold on to the words of truth and life and speak the words of God instead of speaking the words of the world, coming from the knowledge and wisdom of the world, and speaking negatively about yourself, your situations, circunstâncias, pessoas, etc.
You need to guard your mouth and be careful of what you say. Because life and death are in the power of the tongue. Therefore every word you speak produces life or death.
Will you be a sower of the Word of God and produce life? Or will you be a sower of the world and produce death?
Watch your mouth!
I challenge you to watch your mouth and pay attention to your words. If you watch your mouth, you will be amazed at how many negative things you say about your own life, your family, amigos, trabalhar, circunstâncias, futuro, etc., or how many times you use words that are related to death and sickness. Por exemplo, words such as die, morto, matar, doente, shoot me, etc..
Will you experience resistance from the people around you and will you experience hardships? Sim, você vai. But the only way to keep standing is to stay in the Word and keep speaking what the Word says.
As soon as you are born again and enter the Kingdom of God, você não pertence mais ao mundo, but you become an enemy of the world and the devil.
Every born-again Christian has entered spiritual warfare and has a spiritual battle to fight. Não há ninguém excluído! Although many Christians think they are (Leia também: Lutando contra um inimigo invisível).
Você já se perguntou, why you want to tell others about your life, lutas, e circunstâncias? Do you really need to inform others about your struggles, problemas, (marital) brigas, sentimentos, emoções, etc.. so that you will draw attention to yourself?
Não há ninguém, who can solve your problems and change your circumstances. O Único, Who can do anything about it is Jesus Christ.
Portanto, go to Jesus and stay in the Word. Keep your joy and don’t allow yourself to throw a pity party and dwell in your pity party. When you stay in the Word and speak and obey the Word, you will experience peace and joy in your life. Because the Kingdom of God is righteousness, paz, e alegria no Espírito Santo.
Let the joy of the Lord be your strength.
‘Seja o sal da terra’
