Šta kolosijci 3:18-19 značiti, Živa, Pošaljite sebi svojim muževima, kako dolikuje u Gospodu. Muževi, Volite svoje žene, i ne budi ogorčen na nju?
The role of the wife and the husband within the marriage covenant
U Kološanima 3:18-19 Paul wrote to the women and men of the church at Colosse about their role in marriage. This role of the wife and husband in the marriage covenant still applies, despite the increase of apostasy of God and His Word through the deceiving worldly spirits in the church and the increase of wickedness in the world.
God is forever the same! God’s will and the laws of His Kingdom are settled forever and will never change.
This also applies to the marriage covenant, God instituted between one man and one woman.
Biblija kaže, that a man shall leave his father and mother and be joint unto his wife and they two shall be one flesh (Oh. Genesis 2:24, Efežanima 5:31).
This means that the man and woman shall be one through the covenant they entered into with each other.
This unity exists of forming a unit; one of faith, one of Spirit, one of confession, act alike, and standing for the same thing.
Since the man and the woman both stand behind God upon His Word, the wife shall stand behind her husband and the husband shall stand behind his wife.
Defiling and breaking the marriage covenant
Međutim, the lack of knowledge of God’s Word in the lives of Christians and the lack of Biblical morals (God’s morals) and division in marriage are gateways for the devil and the powers of darkness to enter and defile the marriage covenant and eventually break the marriage covenant.
Ofcourse you have to deal with two different characters in marriage, which can often clash, but that’s normal.
You shouldn’t marry someone with the intention to change the other person to your will once you are married. You shouldn’t manipulate and force the other person to do your will in marriage either
Ipak, it’s not your will anymore, but the will of Christ.
You are born again in Christ and entered into a covenant with God, u kojoj, besides the inheritance in Christ, you are also required to fulfill your responsibilities and obligations.
Paul and Peter compared the marriage covenant with the covenant between Jesus Christ (the Head) and the Church (Njegovo telo). They tried to clarify the role and the cooperation of the wife and husband in marriage.
In the spirit realm, there is no distinction between male and female, but in marriage, God appointed roles for the husband and the wife. The role of the head is given to the husband and the role of the body is given to the wife (Oh. Galaćanima 3:28, 1 Korinćanima 11:3, Efežanima 5:22-33 i 1 Peter 3:1-7).
What does the Bible say about the wife in marriage?
The wife entered a covenant with her husband before God. She made a vow to live according to this covenant from the day she marries her husband.
From the marriage day onward, the wife belongs to her own husband. Just like the husband belongs to his own wife. They have separated themselves from other males and females and have become each other’s possession, who are together one flesh.
The husband and wife promised fidelity to each other for better or worse the rest of their lives. This means a covenant unto death. It’s the death that separates the marriage covenant and not people. Barem, that’s how it should be and how God instituted the marriage covenant
The wife should submit herself to her own husband
The wife should submit herself to her own husband, just as she has submitted herself unto Christ. To znači, that the wife should be faithful to her own husband and acknowledge her husband as the head and listen to him, obey him and respect him.
Ipak, she chose him to become her husband. She entered the marriage covenant with him. This means that she will not be intimate with other men again, but she shall be devoted to her own husband.
She shall not flirt and shall not commit fornication or adultery with other men. She shall not undermine, belittle, mock or ridicule her husband (in the presence of others) and/or speak evil about him behind his back.
Does the wife love her own husband?
The wife can only be faithful to her own husband and respect and obey him if she loves her husband.
Only when the wife truly loves her husband, can she be faithful to him and listen and obey him. Just like the church belongs to Christ and ought to love Him above all and listen to Him and obey Him.
And just like Jesus loved His Father, and yielded to Him, listened to Him, and obeyed Him.
There are a lot of married women, who enjoy looking at other men and flirt and/or listen to other men and submit to them by doing what they say, while they ignore their own husbands and don’t listen to them, let alone obey him.
But God’s Word says, that the wife should submit to her own husband and be faithful to her own husband and obey him as it is fit in the Lord. It’s up to the wife to obey the words of God or disobey the words of God.
Submission doesn’t mean that the wife should allow her husband to use her as a slave or a punching bag and let the husband rule over her as a dictator. Jer je napisano, that the husband should not be bitter and rough against his wife and certainly not emotionally and physically abuse her.
What does the Bible say about the husband in marriage?
The husband should love his own wife (and not other women) and not be rough and bitter to her. Man shouldn’t behave as a dictator, a wife-beater, or a sexually demanding husband in the house.
Ne, as long as husbands are controlled by pride, feelings of power and (nekontrolisano) ljutnja (fury) and/or continuously driven by sexual feelings of lust, which can’t be satisfied and lead to perversity, they are carnal and have not crucified the lust of the flesh.
All born-again Christians ought to obnoviti svoje umove with the words of God and submit their feelings to the Word and the Spirit aka the will of God.
For many men sex is the most important thing, even in marriage. That’s why a lot of men engage in sexual impurities and treat their wives as an object to fulfill their own carnal lust instead of treating their wives as a person with real feelings, whose thoughts don’t revolve around sex all the time and therefore doesn’t always feel like it.
The husband should love his own wife
A husband should be faithful to his own wife and love her and respect her. Just like the woman ought to be faithful to her own husband and love him and respect him.
The husband ought to live with his wife in an understanding way, showing honor to her as the weaker vessel and as being heirs together of the grace of life.
The husband should take care of his own wife and provide for her and protect her. He ought to treat her as he treats his own body.
As Christ loved His Body and gave Himself for her by crucifying His own will and doing the will of the Father instead.
Likewise the husband should love his wife and take his wife into account instead of forcing his will and the will of his flesh upon her.
When a husband loves his wife with the love of God and treat her from this divine love and not be bitter and rough against her, then the wife shall respect her husband. She shall respect him and listen and obey him.
If a husband and a wife treat each other this way, prema Reči Božijoj, and live after the Spirit, there shall be no more razvodi. Then shall the husband and wife really love each other and remain one flesh until death do them part.
Marriage means crucifying your own will to serve the other. Just like Jesus laid down His own life to do the will of the Father and serve Him. And just like Christians ought to lay down their own will to do the Isusova volja and follow, obey and serve Him.
The storms and attacks of the devil during marriage
There will be good times and happy and joyful moments, but there will also be not-so-good times and difficult and sad moments during marriage. Because there will be storms!
Osim toga, the devil will do everything in his might to break every marriage covenant that God instituted and sanctified. A ako pogledamo oko sebe, we see that his mission is successful.
Not only among church visitors but also pastors, elders and other church leaders, who are supposed to be spiritually mature and walk holy after the Spirit in purity according to God’s will instead of the will, Požude, i želje njihovog mesa.
How can a marriage survive the storms and the attacks of the devil?
A marriage can survive the storms and attacks of the devil if the husband and wife love God above all, are born again in Christ, live after the Spirit, and have build their lives upon the Rock.
When they have build their lives upon the Rock they shall stand and overcome the storms and the attacks of the darkness and nothing and no one shall be able to break the marriage covenant.
They shall stay faithful and keep the marriage covenant holy instead of defiling it.
Međutim, if a husband and wife belong to the world and love the world and live after the flesh and build their marriage upon emotions, Osećanja, i mudrost i znanje sveta, then their marriage shall not stand but strand.
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