Living together unmarried or premarital cohabitation has become very common in the Western world. What started in Scandinavia (ইউরোপ) by non-religious young adults, spread all over the western countries during the past decades. Young unbelievers didn’t want to commit to the bonds of marriage anymore. They didn’t want to be told what to do and how to live their lives and submit to rules and regulations. পরিবর্তে, young people wanted to be free and live their own lives, making their own choices and rules in life. এই দিনগুলোতে, অনেক মানুষ, খ্রিস্টান সহ, consider cohabitation normal and a good thing. But although many consider living together before marriage normal and a good thing, does God approve of it? বাইবেল অবিবাহিত থাকার বিষয়ে কী বলে, and should Christians live together with someone, যারা তাদের স্ত্রী নয়?
How the decline of Christianity influenced western culture and its moral standards
দুর্ভাগ্যবশত, the decline of Christianity and rejection of the Bible influenced western culture and its moral standards, including replacing the institution of marriage with cohabitation, aka living together unmarried.
Many people live together unmarried and don’t see the need to get married. এখন, you would think that cohabitation is part of the world and that only unbelievers are living together unmarried. কিন্তু দুর্ভাগ্যবশত, ব্যাপারটা এমন নয়.
Due to the carnal mindset and the worldliness of Christians, যারা মাংসের পরে হাঁটেন, many Christians adopted the customs of the world, including living together unmarried.
They have the spirit of this world abiding in them. অতএব, they think and live just like the world. They have replaced the holy institution of marriage with cohabitation, and use many lies to approve it. Because shouldn’t you get to know each other first, before you get married and make a marriage commitment?
What does the Bible say about the marriage covenant?
The Bible says that God instituted marriage as a holy covenant between a man and a woman. Through the marriage covenant, the man will be bound to a woman, এবং তারা এক মাংস হবে. কারণ ঘটনা, that marriage is a holy institution coming from God, God provides His blessing.
তাই একজন মানুষ তার পিতা ও মাতাকে ছেড়ে যাবে, এবং তার স্ত্রীর প্রতি আবদ্ধ হবে: এবং তারা এক মাংস হবে (আদিপুস্তক 2:24)
এবং তিনি (যীশু) উত্তর দিয়ে তাদের বললেন, আপনি কি পড়েননি?, that He which made them at the beginning made them male and female, আর বললেন, এই কারণে একজন মানুষ পিতা এবং মাতা ছেড়ে যাবে, এবং তার স্ত্রীর সাথে লেগে থাকবে: এবং তারা দু'জন এক মাংস হবে? তাই তারা আর জমজ নয়, কিন্তু এক মাংস. তাই কি ঈশ্বর একত্রিত হয়েছে, মানুষ যেন বিচ্ছিন্ন না হয় (ম্যাথু 19:4-6)
What does God say about divorce in the Bible?
The Bible says that God hates divorce (the breaking of the marriage covenant) as we read in Malachi 2:16.
অতএব আপনার আত্মার প্রতি সতর্ক থাকুন, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth. For the Lord, ইস্রায়েলের ঈশ্বর, saith that He hates putting away (send away (বিবাহবিচ্ছেদ)): for one covers violence with his garment, সর্বশক্তিমান প্রভু বলেছেন: তাই আপনার আত্মার প্রতি সতর্ক থাকুন, that you deal not treacherously. (মালাচি 2:15-16)
The devil hates the marriage covenant and loves divorce
As God hates divorce, the devil hates marriage. The devil hates every covenant that God instituted, বিবাহ চুক্তি সহ. অতএব, the devil shall do everything he can to defile and destroy the marriage covenant.
How does the devil defile and destroy the marriage covenant? Through fornication, ব্যভিচার, অবিবাহিত একসাথে বসবাস, open marriages, and same sex marriages.
Through the approval and instituting of same-sex marriages, the holy marriage covenant between a man and a woman is defiled. No matter what the devil makes people believe and what people find, God never approves of same-sex marriage. That’s because God considers homosexuality an abomination, এবং যে পরিবর্তন হবে না. (এছাড়াও পড়ুন: বাইবেল সমকামিতা সম্বন্ধে কি বলে??).
Isn’t it odd that homosexuals do everything they can to make same-sex marriages legal, while heterosexuals don’t want to get married anymore, but live together unmarried?
The devil not only uses fornication, ব্যভিচার, এবং বিবাহবিচ্ছেদ to defile and break the marriage covenant, but also cohabitation..
The devil makes Christians believe that there is nothing wrong with living together unmarried or to be living together before marriage.
Because of his lies, many Christians consider living together unmarried as rather good, because how else will you get to know the person? If you live apart from each other, you will not be able to fully get to know each other.
Maybe distance plays a role, so it’s easier to move in together. Many Christians also say that times and the world have changed. অতএব, they approve of living together unmarried.
হ্যাঁ, the devil uses many lies to mislead Christians and makes them believe his words instead of God’s words. So that they do his will instead of God’s will. Just like the devil did in the ইডেনের বাগান when he tempted Eve with his deceptive lying words.
A son or daughter of God obeys the Bible (ঈশ্বরের বাক্য) and not live together unmarried
But a true son or daughter of God, who is filled with the Holy Spirit, and has His nature, shall never live together unmarried!
God’s sons and daughters love and obey their Father and do His will and shall never do something that grieve their Father and His Spirit. They shall not listen to the words and advice of the devil, because living together unmarried is outside the bond of marriage, and therefore it’s a sin. পবিত্র আত্মা, যে ব্যক্তির মধ্যে বাস করে, হবে দোষী the person of this sin of cohabitation.
বাইবেল অবিবাহিত থাকার বিষয়ে কী বলে?
The Bible is clear about God’s will regarding living together unmarried or having a sexual relationship with a man or woman, কে আপনার স্ত্রী নয়. Jesus was also very clear about sexual relationships outside the bonds of marriage, when He confronted the Samaritan woman by the well of Jacob.
When Jesus sat down by the well of Jacob in Sichar, which is a city in Samaria, a Samaritan woman came to draw water. When Jesus asked the Samaritan woman to give Him water to drink, she replied, how He, একজন ইহুদি, could ask her, a Samaritan, to give Him water to drink. Because Jews were not allowed to hang out with Samaritans. Then Jesus witnessed about the living water, that only He could provide. When the woman heard His words, she asked Jesus to give her of this living water. এখন, let’s see, what Jesus said to her:
যীশু তাকে বললেন, যাও, call thy husband, and come hither. The woman answered and said, I have no husband. যীশু তাকে বললেন, Thou hast well said, I have no husband: For thou hast had five husbands; and he whom thou now hast is not thy husband: in that saidst thou truly (জন 4:17-18).
This woman had five husbands, who weren’t her legal husbands, but with whom she had sexual relationships with. And the one she had at that moment wasn’t her husband either. She was together with a man, whom she didn’t marry and Jesus confronted her with this matter.
Is premarital cohabitation God’s will or a sin?
Premarital cohabitation is not God’s will. If you live together with someone, কে আপনার স্ত্রী নয়, you live in sin. It doesn’t matter whether you have a sexual relationship or not (which is almost impossible). ঘটনা হল, that you live under the same roof and share a household together outside the bond of marriage.
This also applies to unmarried Christians, who are sleeping together and having sex before marriage. If you live together unmarried or if you live apart but have a sexual relationship with someone, কে আপনার স্ত্রী নয়, you commit fornication. Fornication is not according to God’s will and therefore it is a sin.
আপনি আমাকে যে বিষয়গুলি লিখেছেন সেগুলি সম্পর্কে এখন: একজন পুরুষের পক্ষে কোনও মহিলাকে স্পর্শ না করা ভাল. তবুও, ব্যভিচার এড়াতে, প্রতিটি পুরুষকে তার নিজের স্ত্রী থাকতে দিন, এবং প্রতিটি মহিলার নিজস্ব স্বামী থাকতে দিন (1 করিন্থীয় 7:1-2)
I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. (1 করিন্থীয় 7:8-9)
many Christians live like the world
খ্রিস্টান, who live together before marriage and/or have a sexual relationship without being married, are carnal and belong to the world. They don’t have the mind of Christ but they have the mind of the world and do the works of the world.
The world approves of living together unmarried, কিন্তু বাইবেল অনুযায়ী, they commit fornication and therefore they are fornicators. Although they confess they believe and are Christians, their works prove something else.
The devil also believes and the devil is not saved. Only the works and life of a person prove to whom a person belongs: বিশ্ব (শয়তান) or Jesus Christ. (এছাড়াও পড়ুন: ‘Will শ্বরের ইচ্ছা বনাম শয়তানের ইচ্ছা').
জনগণ, who love Jesus shall listen to His words, তাঁর কথা মেনে চলুন, এবং তাঁর ইচ্ছা অনুযায়ী জীবনযাপন করুন. They shall remove all the sins and uncleanness of this world, that cause separation between them and God from their lives.
কিন্তু জনগণ, who love the world shall listen to what the world and unregenerate people say, এবং বিশ্বের মত বাস. They shall do those things, that are an ঘৃণ্য to God and oppose His will. অতএব, a person’s life shows to whom a person belongs.
বিয়ে সব ক্ষেত্রেই সম্মানজনক, এবং বিছানা অপরিষ্কার: কিন্তু ব্যভিচারী এবং ব্যভিচারীদের ঈশ্বর বিচার করবেন৷ (ইব্রীয় 13:4 (নোট: this has been written after the crucifixion and resurrection of Jesus Christ and therefore part of the নতুন চুক্তি)
Has the church failed in keeping the marriage honorable and preventing fornication?
It is the responsibility of the church to bind and to loose; to forbid the sinful works of darkness and to permit the righteous works of the Kingdom of God. যাহোক, the church has not guarded her gates as it should.
The church didn’t close the doors of the gate for the works of the world and মিথ্যা মতবাদ. পরিবর্তে, the church opened the doors and allowed the doctrines and the works of the world, including fornication into the church. Because if you live together unmarried you commit fornication.
When the first signs of premarital cohabitation became visible and more and more young people wanted and decided to live together unmarried, the church should have taken her stand upon the Word of God.
The church should have stayed obedient to Jesus Christ; the Living Word and Head of the church. The church should have stayed faithful in representing God’s will and Kingdom.
(The leaders of) the church should have said, God instituted the marriage covenant and believers should keep the marriage honorable.
The church should have talked, শৃঙ্খলাবদ্ধ, and corrected the young people of the congregation, who wanted to do the will of the flesh and live together unmarried.
The church should have stand on the Bible and addressed that living together unmarried is fornication and not according to God’s will. Then if the young people would decide to not listen to the words of God and submit to His will, but rather stay rebellious against the words of God, the church should have removed them গির্জা থেকে, for the sake and well-being and protection of the other believers in the congregation. কারণ সামান্য খামির পুরো পিণ্ডটিকে খামির করে. (এছাড়াও পড়ুন: ‘একজন ব্যক্তিকে শয়তানের হাতে তুলে দেওয়ার অর্থ কী??’).
তা ছাড়াও, if the church would have taken a stand on the Word and stayed faithful to the Word, the fear of the Lord would have remained in the church.
Has the church bowed to young people?
But the church didn’t act that way. Instead of taking a stand on the Word; যীশু, and staying faithful and obedient to Jesus Christ, the church bowed to the will of rebellious young people and compromised with the world.
By allowing Christians to live together unmarried, the church allowed the spirit of this world and the spirit of fornication in the church.
Maybe the church was afraid of losing the young people. But the result of allowing cohabitation is that the church is now full of (লুকানো) sexual uncleanness and perversion, like living together unmarried, having sexual relationships without being married, হস্তমৈথুন, ইত্যাদি।).
The church is full of fornicators, ব্যভিচারীদের, cheaters, ’Johns’, whoremongers, সমকামী, sneaky porn watchers, পেডোফাইলস, zoophiliacs, এবং তাই. Even many church leaders have a spirit of fornication dwelling in them. (এছাড়াও পড়ুন: গির্জার নেতাদের পাপ তাদের সম্পর্কে কি বলে?).
Many Christians are caught in a web of lies
ঐ সব জিনিস, যা একটি ঘৃণ্য for God are done, by God’s so-called sons and daughters. The devil has succeeded in deceiving Christians and taking the church captive by his lies. এবং সবচেয়ে খারাপ জিনিস হল, that most Christians, গির্জার নেতাদের সহ, are spiritually blind. They don’t see and realize that they are deceived and caught in the devil’s web of lies.
অনেক খ্রিস্টান মনে করেন, that they are pleasing God, while God has already left them. Because how can righteousness have communion with unrighteousness? How can holiness have communion with sin? What has light in common with darkness?
Jesus dealt with sin and the sin problem of the fallen nature of man. তাই যে, by faith and তাঁর মধ্যে পুনর্জন্ম, everyone had the ability to become a নতুন সৃষ্টি without the sin nature and walk as a son or daughter of God in righteousness and holiness reigning over sin and death.
The church and people can approve of all kinds of things, but the Word is the truth and the Word decides. শেষ পর্যন্ত, it is not man but the Word Who will judge every man according to his works (উদ্ঘাটন 20:12, 15).
অতএব, প্রভু বলেন: “তওবা করো, while you still can and remove the sins, which are those things that I hate and are an abomination to Me and go against My will, out of your life”
‘Be the salt of the world’
