How to convert your spouse?

What do you do, when you are a Christian and believe in Jesus Christ, but your spouse doesn’t believe in God and refuses to accept Jesus as Savior and Lord? What do you do, when your unbelieving spouse doesn’t want to go to church with you? Do you feel lonely in your marriage, because your spouse doesn’t believe the way you do? Have you tried everything to convert your spouse, like applying prayer methods and strategies, speaking declarations, etc., but it didn’t work?  Then this article is for you! Find out what the Bible says about an unbelieving husband or an unbelieving wife and how to convert your spouse to Christianity.

Do you feel lonely in your marriage?

When you and your spouse don’t share the same faith, you can become very lonely in your marriage. There are many women, who have chosen to marry an unbeliever, because they thought, that they could win him for Jesus Christ, in no time. There are other women, who are converted during their marriage, and there are women, who are married to a believer, who left the faith during their marriage.

But what do you do, in these circumstances? Do you stay patient and loyal to your spouse? Or are you fed up with the situation, and do you step out of the marriage covenant and get a divorce (Read also: May a Christian file for divorce?)

Prayer strategies to convert your spouse

There are many prayer strategies in combination with fasting, which are used to convert people. Many believers apply these prayer strategies to convert their spouses. But when their spouse is still not converted after a few months, or years, they become frustrated and give up. Or even worse, they give up on their marriage and divorce and break their marriage covenant.

convert your spouse

When Christians give up on their marriage and break their marriage covenant by getting a divorce, they act out of the flesh; out of selfishness.

They don’t act out of the spirit in obedience to the Word of God. Because, divorce is not the will of God, and it will never become His will (Read also: ‘What does the Bible say about divorce?‘).

If you feel hopeless and embittered about the fact that your spouse is still not converted, despite your many prayers, I would like to encourage you and say, that there is one way to lead your spouse to Jesus.

How to convert your spouse?

There is one way to convert your spouse and that’s through you! Yes, you read it well: through you! Let’s have a look at what the Word says:

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price (1 Peter 3:1-4)

By your subjection to your spouse (through your obedience, by making your spouse head of the family (which he is), and by respecting him), through your behaviour, your spouse will be won for Jesus Christ.

“How can you submit yourself to God,
if you can’t submit yourself to your husband?”

The Lord has appointed the man, as the head of the family. But because of the spirit of feminism (spirit of darkness), rules in the lives of many women,  and causes women, to become rebellious against their spouses. They want to be head of the family, and therefore they are not able to submit themselves to their spouse.

Submission doesn’t mean being treated like a slave and being controlled and abused. But submission means, that you recognize your spouse as your husband, as head of the family and that you respect your husband.

Don’t judge your husband and don’t put him down, by making fun of him or by making sarcastic remarks about your husband, but honor him.

Acknowledge your husband in his task to take care of and provide for his family. While your task is, to nurture the members of your family.

She talks piously, but what about her walk?

Will you convert your spouse, by your words? your conversations? through your preachings? The answer is NO!

The only way, you will convert your spouse, is by your walk; your behaviour, and your attitude.

Here we have the main problem. Because of the fact that many women don’t bear the fruit of the Spirit, their spouses don’t see any benefit in becoming a believer.

The fruit of the Spirit

They don’t see a changed woman, who walks after the Spirit. But they see a woman, who is rebellious and doesn’t want to listen and submit to her husband. They see a person, who wants to lead her own life, doing her own will.

They see someone, who is haughty, who gossips, speaks evil about others, complains, murmurs, etc.

The spouse sees an unchanged woman, who lives like the world and bears the same fruit as the world; adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, rebellion, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like.

Therefore, the husband is not drawn to become a believer and serve Jesus. The husband doesn’t see any benefit. The only thing the husband sees, that differs from his lifestyle, is that his spouse reads the Bible, and goes to church on Sundays. But that’s it.

As long, as you won’t change,
your spouse will not change either

If you renew your mind and start acting upon the Word, which means that you shall do, what the Word says, submit yourself to the Word, and begin to respect your husband, instead of confronting your husband with all his errors, and flaws, then the situation shall change.

When you begin to bear the fruit of the Spirit; when you start walking in love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, and temperance, then your husband shall notice the change in you and you shall win your husband for Christ.

You shall not convert your unbelieving husband by your words, but by your deeds

When your unbelieving husband notice your meek and quiet spirit, and see the fruit of the Spirit, then it won’t be long, before your husband shall give his life to Jesus Christ. The Light in you shall draw your husband out of the darkness.

How long does it take? No one knows, but it shall happen, because the Word of God says so. And we know that the Word is the truth. Therefore if you want to convert your spouse, be patient and submit to the Word and do what the Word tells you to do, because the Word doesn’t lie.

‘Be the salt of the earth’

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